naisho
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I wish I could be like Heath Ledger's fictional character sometimes, as in the following picture:
Just wondering from the rest of you guys, how do you HoH and < meet people of the opposite sex?
A little background info..
I am HoH myself of 26 years and just recently started thinking about figuring out the schematics of my future, finished a degree at a University 3 years ago, don't understand any ASL. Thinking of going back for a second BS degree and eventually going for a master's.
I reside in Southern California, the community around here is very fast paced and metropolitan compared to various other states/and or countries. So the general consensus here is to do things "on the fly"; given the following example(s)
- filling up at gas stations with minor setbacks or no issues at all
- ordering food at fastfood or restaurants with minimal difficulties
- first come, first serve, especially in stores and major social events, i.e. movie/concert tickets, store sales
- purchasing stuff online, easy to use features etc.
From what I'm trying to explain via examples I just gave - is that in general, the communities tend to prefer hassle-free, no-setback types of confabulations of the way the world should work. Things that contribute to "slowing down" or making people take their time, in a everyday sense, is frowned upon.. at least that's how it feels to me, from residing here for over two decades.
For example (the following is not a true occurrence): the old lady who's HoH/deaf at walmart trying to buy a 3lb bag of Friskie's catfood. She's first in line at the express checkout of 10 people, everyone knows she's got a disability due to either the clumsiness or the visibility of her HA's; the cashier's asking her for $3.85, but she's trying to find the coupon she clipped out from the newspaper a few days ago.
Of those 10 people behind her, I would say at least 8 of 10 of them would get annoyed over this common ordeal and probably move over to another lane. Only one or two people really have the "standards" to tolerate it.
So, picturing this everyday type of world. Yeah, I understand that this does not apply for the whole society - there's gotta be some haven or shelter of some sort that works its way around those "standards", such as say, hiking, library, bicycle clubs and so on.
But I feel my age is coming towards the point where I don't have time to fool around much longer, seeing if any of you guys had some good pointers.
Much thanks in advance.
Oh and yeah, thanks for reading through the rambling as well.
Just wondering from the rest of you guys, how do you HoH and < meet people of the opposite sex?
A little background info..
I am HoH myself of 26 years and just recently started thinking about figuring out the schematics of my future, finished a degree at a University 3 years ago, don't understand any ASL. Thinking of going back for a second BS degree and eventually going for a master's.
I reside in Southern California, the community around here is very fast paced and metropolitan compared to various other states/and or countries. So the general consensus here is to do things "on the fly"; given the following example(s)
- filling up at gas stations with minor setbacks or no issues at all
- ordering food at fastfood or restaurants with minimal difficulties
- first come, first serve, especially in stores and major social events, i.e. movie/concert tickets, store sales
- purchasing stuff online, easy to use features etc.
From what I'm trying to explain via examples I just gave - is that in general, the communities tend to prefer hassle-free, no-setback types of confabulations of the way the world should work. Things that contribute to "slowing down" or making people take their time, in a everyday sense, is frowned upon.. at least that's how it feels to me, from residing here for over two decades.
For example (the following is not a true occurrence): the old lady who's HoH/deaf at walmart trying to buy a 3lb bag of Friskie's catfood. She's first in line at the express checkout of 10 people, everyone knows she's got a disability due to either the clumsiness or the visibility of her HA's; the cashier's asking her for $3.85, but she's trying to find the coupon she clipped out from the newspaper a few days ago.
Of those 10 people behind her, I would say at least 8 of 10 of them would get annoyed over this common ordeal and probably move over to another lane. Only one or two people really have the "standards" to tolerate it.
So, picturing this everyday type of world. Yeah, I understand that this does not apply for the whole society - there's gotta be some haven or shelter of some sort that works its way around those "standards", such as say, hiking, library, bicycle clubs and so on.
But I feel my age is coming towards the point where I don't have time to fool around much longer, seeing if any of you guys had some good pointers.
Much thanks in advance.
Oh and yeah, thanks for reading through the rambling as well.
