When People Disagree.....

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Cheri

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I Noticed that there are some Conflicts in posts when people Disagree with Each Other they go overboard. I think we tend to sometimes take things too personally (I do this sometimes too)...I think the most important thing here is that you realize you cannot satisfy everybody, and everyone is going to have different views...there is no right view and wrong view...How do we Respect each other on Their Views Without Being Negatives?
 
by changing how we look at it... :thumb: giving up the need to be the only one right. *hugs*
 
Liza said:
by changing how we look at it... :thumb: giving up the need to be the only one right. *hugs*
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BINGO! :thumb: That's why I usually avoid debate threads, because what mostl people ever do is bitch and whine about their own opinion. I'll get complaints that other members are being cruel or posting harshly. I'll lock the thread, then members complain that they didn't want the thread closed. Boy, it's hard to please people. :(
 
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I think the most important thing to do is LISTEN to one another and try to figure out what exactly it is that people disagree on. A lot of misunderstandings can be avoided if you just LISTEN and express your own feelings as clearly as you possibly can while at the same time respecting the other person's opinion as well.

Something along the lines of - "I respect your thoughts on this topic, BUT...I don't agree. And, this is why...yadda yadda yadda...(insert your own explanation here)...."

Hey, you may still disagree with someone, but at least there will be no hard feelings in the process.
 
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BINGO! :thumb: That's why I usually avoid debate threads, because all people ever do is bitch and whine about their own opinion. I'll get complaints that other members are being cruel or posting harshly. I'll lock the thread, then members complain that they didn't want the thread closed. Boy, it's hard to please people. :(
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Because it not fair to all the members...Just because someone complaint about other members being cruel or posting harshly should have their posts removed instead of having the thread closed or locked...I find it unfair for those who had created a thread and suddenly is closed or locked because some members can't seem to come across in a nice way!....

I have seen some wonderful threads that are being locked or closed just because a few members don't get along or attacking one another... :(
 
I am Curious Why would Someone Locked a thread just because Someone cannot post in a nice way? It does not make No Sense to me...It makes it sounds Like it is Everyone's Fault.



Have Confidence in expressing opinions and Willingness to listen to another's opinions/openness for the expression of different views.. Lack of respect a symptom of todays major social problems...Can We Respect eachother without name calling or Insults? :mrgreen:

Thank you all for your Input on This Thread..(((Hugs))))
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Its ok to ' disagree ' as long we can keep an open mind on BOTH sides!
 
Cheri said:
I am Curious Why would Someone Locked a thread just because Someone cannot post in a nice way? It does not make No Sense to me...It makes it sounds Like it is Everyone's Fault.



Have Confidence in expressing opinions and Willingness to listen to another's opinions/openness for the expression of different views.. Lack of respect a symptom of todays major social problems...Can We Respect eachother without name calling or Insults? :mrgreen:

Thank you all for your Input on This Thread..(((Hugs))))
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might be behind, but which topics were locked (example if possible?) Grins

Wendy
 
Mostly I've noticed "Debate" stand for.. contuines feedbacks and optiions what have you felt disagree their opitions.. sort of posting as "Debate". No Difference make!

If you feel strongly disagree about theirs.. Just stay input and asking what the best interest opitions sharing.. "Really not necessary brings negivative backs."

Really no need to be "Agruing Debate".. Just General what brings have you felt strongly disagree or Agree somewhat...
Sometimes someone who did putting into my full mouth and 100% disagree with me.. I felt there no such thing what I saying? Just my opition and feeling too..
 
^Angel^ said:
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Its ok to ' disagree ' as long we can keep an open mind on BOTH sides!
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That I like your idea... as long we can keep an open mind on both sides!


Wendy
 
Cheri said:
I am Curious Why would Someone Locked a thread just because Someone cannot post in a nice way? It does not make No Sense to me...It makes it sounds Like it is Everyone's Fault.



Have Confidence in expressing opinions and Willingness to listen to another's opinions/openness for the expression of different views.. Lack of respect a symptom of todays major social problems...Can We Respect eachother without name calling or Insults? :mrgreen:

Thank you all for your Input on This Thread..(((Hugs))))
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Here's a side note before you all make assumptions. When I say "you", I'm not referring to Cheri. I'm referring to the general public. I'm replying to Cheri's post but with a full response to the public. Just wanted to clear that up first. Anyway...

It's not exactly "everyone's fault". It's some people who have no respect for each other. If a thread is locked, it's not because EVERYONE was bitching and whining. It's because the thread got out of hand and I had no choice but to lock it. If you want to see who should be blamed, then you should read the thread and analyze those who went off-topic or those who started the flame war. From there, you should think about what happened. I'm not pointing fingers at anyone. I just wish everyone would learn to accept other people's opinions. The threads I hate most are related to abortion, religion, rights, pitbull, and a few others. Why do I hate them most? Because that's where everyone fights and doesn't learn to accept the fact that it's only other people's opinions. I've seen friendships broken because of these arguments. I've seen harassments happening because of these arguments. I've even seen negative ratings given because of these arguments. What could be more pathetic than that? People who do things like that have no life. If you think I'm talking about you, don't take it offensively... but as a understanding of how things should work.
 
Thanks, VamPyroX For Clearing It Up... *Hugs*


I would Like to say That we all an adults here, How about having us have an open Discussion In a Civil Way Instead of jumping at each others throat. I would hate to see us losing friendship with each other. We can make a real difference If we opened up our minds, and Share our Views.


Please Feel Free to share your views and Input here with us.... :applause:
 
Vampy, maybe this is an oversimplification but.....when you first see someone out of line, why not delete that person's post because he/she broke the rules.....this would allow the otherwise fine/civilized topic to continue? I mean, why should one person be allowed to ruin a topic and get it locked?
 
It's always good to agree on disagreeing, when it comes to that. :)
I do feel if something bothers you, it helps to rant about it - but also be honest with yourself with certain patterns and take the steps to resolve those within your power. You can't force others to think like you do, nor agree for that matter. It'll only drain your energies and frustrate you more. It is much easier to lay the blame on others instead of doing some self reflection about why you feel the way you do. I know exactly how that feels. Been there myself, and I'm a better person because of everybody in my life. Hey, ultimately, it's good to do what you feel is right. Everyone will always have different feelings and that makes them special, not wrong. IMO anyway! Sometimes people can be just too different and have different ideas, that it can be just ok to not be close.. at least for a while with agreeing to disagree. We all grow, anyway. ;)

Hey Vamp, do you get paid enough for those hot threads? lmao
 
Malfoyish said:
I think the most important thing to do is LISTEN to one another and try to figure out what exactly it is that people disagree on. A lot of misunderstandings can be avoided if you just LISTEN and express your own feelings as clearly as you possibly can while at the same time respecting the other person's opinion as well.

Something along the lines of - "I respect your thoughts on this topic, BUT...I don't agree. And, this is why...yadda yadda yadda...(insert your own explanation here)...."

Hey, you may still disagree with someone, but at least there will be no hard feelings in the process.
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Yes, I agree that it's great to clarify stuff. Gotta ask about those things before making an ass of ourselves. And not to make others wrong - not to lay a guilt trip on them without really hearing them out. You're definitely onto something, girly ;) All IMO, though!
 
Suggestion: Lock a thread should be banned
only because there were many times I had seen
these threads were much alive and then they should have
never been interfered and locked in the first place.
Any moderators should almost never lock them at all.
 
Sometimes it is best to accept that you cannot change a person's perception, however you can share thoughts with the person you disagree so passionately. Take my most dearest friends, the Charlie's Chickies and KootchieBootchie.. we do disagree on some issues however we love each other to death. Love you lots, CCF! _\m/
 
When people disagree? I think they should take disagreements seriously and to heart, everyones opinions should be the same. If you get someone who doesn't agree with you then they need to face the firing squad. If all of that just isn't possible then fuck it..move on :)
 
if I ever disagree with some1 I wud never should post a damn post but ah.. :roll: that's who I am :mrgreen: but eh.. everyone have different ways of showing they do disagree about something but I noticed they wud get upset or complain and start fights in some threads and I think it's pointless of keeping a thread open if they continue fighting in some threads that i had seen now and then.
 
Yes. It's very difficult to control your personally to take debate too seriously. Whenever you happen to get invovle the debate and against others. I know it's impossible but try your best to keep in that mind that debate is all about disagreeing them but respect their opinions and chill it out.

thats basic thing to do but try your best.
 
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