DeafCaroline
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This thread is really interesting in terms of politics. Several comments were made about speaking Deaf acting superior to signing Deaf. Well, I am profoundly deaf, got my hearing aids at age 4 and was immediately put into intensive speech therapy (that was unrelenting - at least 2 hours of speech therapy a day but usually more for about 10 years. HATED IT!) and went to hearing schools and never knew any Deaf kids. All this time, I was being told from everyone from my mother to my speech therapist to my audiologist how lucky I was not to be "one of those deaf kids who get sent away to school and can't talk." Its pretty easy to start believing that when it's something that's been fed to you since your earliest memories. You believe the hype after a while. Then one day, when you're much older and wiser, you realize that they were wrong. Yes, certainly, it's nice to be able to speak well that most people wouldn't know I'm deaf but it also works against me in that people forget I'm Deaf. I don't do well in group settings, and I'm still left out at the dinner table which is not much fun when it's a big family event like Christmas or Thanksgiving.
For those of you who view 18, 19, 20 something year old speaking Deaf as snobby - they probably are because they were raised by the Hearing to believe they were lucky enough to be spared from those substandard boarding schools for the Deaf (yeah, that's what I was always told growing up) but if you befriend them they will realize immediately how much they've been missing out in their lives and they would be very happy to make new friends. Keep in mind they grew up in a hearing world, it's a very lonely place for them unlike Deafs who went to Deaf schools and have Deaf friends. Trust me, I would know.
It's sad that people's egos create such divisive politics when what we need from each other is support and solidarity.
For those of you who view 18, 19, 20 something year old speaking Deaf as snobby - they probably are because they were raised by the Hearing to believe they were lucky enough to be spared from those substandard boarding schools for the Deaf (yeah, that's what I was always told growing up) but if you befriend them they will realize immediately how much they've been missing out in their lives and they would be very happy to make new friends. Keep in mind they grew up in a hearing world, it's a very lonely place for them unlike Deafs who went to Deaf schools and have Deaf friends. Trust me, I would know.
It's sad that people's egos create such divisive politics when what we need from each other is support and solidarity.