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Today I learned that I need to Re-Learn how to stand up for my new self

Wow how confusing was that
 
I learned that satay rice with tuna is the most delicious snack.
 
Here is today's update on my good friend.

Update..Faith had to have a cat scan this evening, her stomach is getting hard again and her legs are starting to swell again. Her platelets are at 13,000, after having 6 units of platelets from Friday to today. They are looking to transport her to Shands this week.
 
I've been studing enneagram theory on personality and today I learned some of my major motivations are indicative of a type 5 personality. I have suspected this in the past, but now I am certain. It is now time to focus on building the strengths of a type 5 (myself)!
 
ncff07 said:
spoken from a true cat lady!!!! :laugh2::laugh2::laugh2:
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BecLak said:
Always have been :giggle: I used to save abandoned kittens found in garbage dumps, feed them, raise them and then give them to the RSPCA to find good homes for them. My home was a cat shelter.

My daughter is allergic to cats of all things :-( She can tolerate one, but all 4....we will just have to wait and see.

My husband loves all animals but is partial to dogs mostly. I am the same but cats are always my favourite.
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I've done the same. That's why I'm guilty of having 5. All but 1 are rescues. The one that's not came from a shelter, though. I'm a crazy cat lady and PROUD of it ! :lol: (I try to put the same stigma on my SO by calling him a crazy cat guy but it just doesn't quite ring the same .... :lol: )
 
murderegina said:
I've been studing enneagram theory on personality and today I learned some of my major motivations are indicative of a type 5 personality. I have suspected this in the past, but now I am certain. It is now time to focus on building the strengths of a type 5 (myself)!
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your intrigued me and I found a quick test and found I am a type 8.
HelloQuizzy.com: The Quick & Painless ENNEAGRAM Test

Your result for The Quick & Painless ENNEAGRAM Test ...
8 - the Asserter

you chose AY - your Enneagram type is EIGHT (aka "The Challenger").


"I must be strong"

Asserters are direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective.



How to Get Along with Me

• Stand up for yourself... and me.

• Be confident, strong, and direct.

• Don't gossip about me or betray my trust.

• Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.

• Give me space to be alone.

• Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me.

• I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack.

• When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am.



What I Like About Being a EIGHT

• being independent and self-reliant

• being able to take charge and meet challenges head on

• being courageous, straightforward, and honest

• getting all the enjoyment I can out of life

• supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me

• upholding just causes



What's Hard About Being a EIGHT

• overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don't intend to

• being restless and impatient with others' incompetence

• sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it

• never forgetting injuries or injustices

• putting too much pressure on myself

• getting high blood pressure when people don't obey the rules or when things don't go right



EIGHTs as Children Often

• are independent; have an inner strength and a fighting spirit

• are sometimes loners

• seize control so they won't be controlled

• figure out others' weaknesses

• attack verbally or physically when provoked

• take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest, or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings



EIGHTs as Parents

• are often loyal, caring, involved, and devoted

• are sometimes overprotective

• can be demanding, controlling, and rigid
 
Juli-terp-to-be said:
your intrigued me and I found a quick test and found I am a type 8.
HelloQuizzy.com: The Quick & Painless ENNEAGRAM Test

Your result for The Quick & Painless ENNEAGRAM Test ...
8 - the Asserter

you chose AY - your Enneagram type is EIGHT (aka "The Challenger").


"I must be strong"

Asserters are direct, self-reliant, self-confident, and protective.



How to Get Along with Me

• Stand up for yourself... and me.

• Be confident, strong, and direct.

• Don't gossip about me or betray my trust.

• Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.

• Give me space to be alone.

• Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me.

• I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack.

• When I scream, curse, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am.



What I Like About Being a EIGHT

• being independent and self-reliant

• being able to take charge and meet challenges head on

• being courageous, straightforward, and honest

• getting all the enjoyment I can out of life

• supporting, empowering, and protecting those close to me

• upholding just causes



What's Hard About Being a EIGHT

• overwhelming people with my bluntness; scaring them away when I don't intend to

• being restless and impatient with others' incompetence

• sticking my neck out for people and receiving no appreciation for it

• never forgetting injuries or injustices

• putting too much pressure on myself

• getting high blood pressure when people don't obey the rules or when things don't go right



EIGHTs as Children Often

• are independent; have an inner strength and a fighting spirit

• are sometimes loners

• seize control so they won't be controlled

• figure out others' weaknesses

• attack verbally or physically when provoked

• take charge in the family because they perceive themselves as the strongest, or grow up in difficult or abusive surroundings



EIGHTs as Parents

• are often loyal, caring, involved, and devoted

• are sometimes overprotective

• can be demanding, controlling, and rigid
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Oh my goodness! I actually get along with type 8s the best. One of my best friend is a type 8 and he is actually very into Enneagram. If you find yourself becoming more interested in why these things apply to you, I can send you an e-book on Enneagram. :D
 
murderegina said:
Oh my goodness! I actually get along with type 8s the best. One of my best friend is a type 8 and he is actually very into Enneagram. If you find yourself becoming more interested in why these things apply to you, I can send you an e-book on Enneagram. :D
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I actually like reading *GASPS DRAMATICALLY* paper books. My parents have e-books, I only have my laptop. lol
 
I came up as a Type 4.
you chose BY - your Enneagram type is FOUR (aka "The Romantic")


"I am unique"
Romantics have sensitive feelings and are warm and perceptive.



How to Get Along with Me

• Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.

• Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.

• Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.

• Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.

• Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!



What I Like About Being a FOUR

• my ability to find meaning in life and to experience feeling at a deep level

• my ability to establish warm connections with people

• admiring what is noble, truthful, and beautiful in life

• my creativity, intuition, and sense of humor

• being unique and being seen as unique by others

• having aesthetic sensibilities

• being able to easily pick up the feelings of people around me



What's Hard About Being a FOUR

• experiencing dark moods of emptiness and despair

• feelings of self-hatred and shame; believing I don't deserve to be loved

• feeling guilty when I disappoint people

• feeling hurt or attacked when someone misunderstands me

• expecting too much from myself and life

• fearing being abandoned

• obsessing over resentments

• longing for what I don't have



FOURs as Children Often

• have active imaginations: play creatively alone or organize playmates in original games

• are very sensitive

• feel that they don't fit in

• believe they are missing something that other people have

• attach themselves to idealized teachers, heroes, artists, etc.

• become antiauthoritarian or rebellious when criticized or not understood

• feel lonely or abandoned (perhaps as a result of a death or their parents' divorce)



FOURs as Parents

• help their children become who they really are

• support their children's creativity and originality

• are good at helping their children get in touch with their feelings

• are sometimes overly critical or overly protective

• are usually very good with children if not too self-absorbed
 
Juli-terp-to-be said:
I actually like reading *GASPS DRAMATICALLY* paper books. My parents have e-books, I only have my laptop. lol
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OHHHHH NOOOOOO!



Yes, I find getting into e-books more difficult than paper books too. However, sharing books online is easier if they're not paper...usually. :p
 
KristinaB said:
I came up as a Type 4.
you chose BY - your Enneagram type is FOUR (aka "The Romantic")
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Fours on the outside seem very unique and emotionally sensitive, but on the inside they are as strong as steel.

Incidentally, eights have the opposite trait. On the outside, they show a strong, stoic face to the world- but internally, they are very sensitive.

You both have very similar feelings expressed in differing arenas. Both types can be extremely emotionally intense, more so than other types. It's a lovely quality to be so passionate.
 
murderegina said:
Fours on the outside seem very unique and emotionally sensitive, but on the inside they are as strong as steel.

Incidentally, eights have the opposite trait. On the outside, they show a strong, stoic face to the world- but internally, they are very sensitive.

You both have very similar feelings expressed in differing arenas. Both types can be extremely emotionally intense, more so than other types. It's a lovely quality to be so passionate.
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I have to admit that my emotions get hurt easily. But I have a great facade to cover it up. I will 'bottle it up' until I can be in a safe quiet place where I feel I can let loose and not have anyone look at me.
 
Juli-terp-to-be said:
I have to admit that my emotions get hurt easily. But I have a great facade to cover it up. I will 'bottle it up' until I can be in a safe quiet place where I feel I can let loose and not have anyone look at me.
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I think that can be frustrating for you and people of your type. They often feel they need to be the "pillar of strength" and they are seen that way by those around them. It can become somewhat of a pressure to remain strong and assertive so often that they don't trust others to give them "control" by showing their emotions. They also don't want to let those they love down. Eights value loyalty a lot as well.

Bottesini said:
5 Thinker. Analytical and detached.
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We are the same type! How interesting! I actually have never met someone who was a confirmed 5 before. I'd be interested to hear what your motivations are and how they affect your life. Although, as a five, that might be an intrusive question. We really value our privacy!
 
murderegina said:
I think that can be frustrating for you and people of your type. They often feel they need to be the "pillar of strength" and they are seen that way by those around them. It can become somewhat of a pressure to remain strong and assertive so often that they don't trust others to give them "control" by showing their emotions. They also don't want to let those they love down. Eights value loyalty a lot as well.



We are the same type! How interesting! I actually have never met someone who was a confirmed 5 before. I'd be interested to hear what your motivations are and how they affect your life. Although, as a five, that might be an intrusive question. We really value our privacy!
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I have autism. That is the only reason.
 
Bottesini said:
I have autism. That is the only reason.
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Ohhhh, I see. Perhaps you are not a type 5 then. The reason I make this point is because the enneagram is based on motivation rather than behavior. Type 5s are actually very sensitive and to cope with this, they detach themselves. A lot of the tests to determine type focus on behavior rather than motive. However, if you relate to the description, its ultimately your choice on what type you are. :)
 
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