Grayma
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I'm sure they do. I don't dispute that but I wonder what their children think of it. Correct me if I'm wrong - didn't their first child or older daughter left them?
The one I know of got married and started her own family, but as far as I know, she still loves her family and they are close.
Even if she did, kids leave their families all the time for all kinds of reasons, people just like to focus on the religious, large family.
Years ago my husband was visiting his extended family- aunts, cousins, sisters, grandmothers. They were all sitting around telling him we were raising our children wrong, they would hate us and all leave the first chance they got. His family thinks we are too old fashioned and too religious.
My husband said, "We're not perfect, and kids are independent human beings, so maybe you are right. We just are doing the best we can. But even if you are right, lots of kids leave home the first chance they get, not just because they have old fashioned, religious parents."
They all stopped talking to him and got very still. He looked around and realized that every single person in that room had left home as teenagers, and most of them had children who had done the same- some of them as young as fourteen. All of them had been mad at their parents and tried to get out as soon as possible, and none of them were like us.
Our first five are now all over 20, and they not only did not leave the first chance they got, we are all still very close- and my husband's family do not seem happy about it. I think they wanted our kids to rebel just so they could tell us, "I told you so."