What are you thinking about? Part III

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Rainy here as well, spent the evening playing Wii dance with my teenage neices. I slept really good :lol:
 
shel90 said:
Me too! I will work on Christmas Day. Luckily, my daughter doesnt fly in until the next day. That would have been a horrible impression on her if I worked on Christmas day while she was visiting.
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Shel, I thought you were a teacher. Has there been a career change since I stopped checking AD? :)
 
Thinking about the winter break! I wish mine started earlier than Christmas Eve. :(
 
encourage to positive and faithful and trust!! friendly!! I am faithful!! keep going positive!!! `:D
 
Have to drive in this yucky cold and damp weather to take MIL out to see Christmas lights again. Augh!! Hubby doesn't drive well enough for her, so it's me doing this again. Hopefully this is it for the year.
 
I am sitting here getting all incredibly anxious about the USDA-FSIS job. I am all :hyper:. I'm about ready to find a way to get my zoloft refilled so I'll calm down a bit, at least that is affordable.
 
TXgolfer said:
That seems to be asking for alot.....Just sayin. I saw another post where you were asking for full summers. 42 days is the norm. Wondering, has he sued for child support. I would expect him to do so.
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Going back to this...I am not sure if you got the wrong view of me and think that I am trying to hurt my ex hubby. I dont know if you know my history with him but I will summarize this...we split up 10 years ago and always worked out within ourselves with having shared custody of my daughter here in Maryland. It all has worked well until he found a new girlfriend from Arizona and all of sudden, he wants to move back to AZ and gave me the news of his moving to AZ a month before the actual move and told me that my daughter was going with him.

So, yes, I am very very angry with him because I will miss out on special moments with my daughter when she is in her teenaged years liek Prom, cheerleading, first date, and etc.

So, after he told me that I can only have one month out of the summer with her and no holidays, I am fighting back. I am not going to let him strip my rights away and I wont have any sympathy for him at all. He has pushed me too far. With the cheating while we were married and now this...I am done with being nice.

No, I am not playing victim...I am playing bitch.
 
iSign said:
I really hope everything works for the better for you and your daughter. A question, doesn't your daughter have a say in this? As in who she wants to live with?
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The judge said at 12 years old, she has a say and she chose AZ. After I discovered several emails that were sent to her by my ex hubby's family telling her of all the wonderful things they can do together if she decides to move to AZ. Nice, of them huh?
 
shel90 said:
Going back to this...I am not sure if you got the wrong view of me and think that I am trying to hurt my ex hubby. I dont know if you know my history with him but I will summarize this...we split up 10 years ago and always worked out within ourselves with having shared custody of my daughter here in Maryland. It all has worked well until he found a new girlfriend from Arizona and all of sudden, he wants to move back to AZ and gave me the news of his moving to AZ a month before the actual move and told me that my daughter was going with him.

So, yes, I am very very angry with him because I will miss out on special moments with my daughter when she is in her teenaged years liek Prom, cheerleading, first date, and etc.

So, after he told me that I can only have one month out of the summer with her and no holidays, I am fighting back. I am not going to let him strip my rights away and I wont have any sympathy for him at all. He has pushed me too far. With the cheating while we were married and now this...I am done with being nice.

No, I am not playing victim...I am playing bitch.
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Do you still have the original custody paperwork? If not, it might not be a bad idea to go back and dig it up and see what it actually states regarding custody. That may be your saving document.
 
Loghead said:
Shel, I thought you were a teacher. Has there been a career change since I stopped checking AD? :)
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Got a new part-time job on the weekends. Not what I really want but I need to pay off bills. Hopefully, I can do that quickly and quit the 2nd job. :)
 
Dixie said:
Do you still have the original custody paperwork? If not, it might not be a bad idea to go back and dig it up and see what it actually states regarding custody. That may be your saving document.
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Yep and nothing in it stated that neither of us had no permission to take children out of state. If it did, then I would be safe. I am not going to fight for full custody to get her back becaue she tells me how much she loves her new life in AZ so I dont want to screw that up. However, I am fighting for full summers and holidays. He said I can only have her for only one month each summer and no holidays. I said "Oh really? I will see you in court, then." So...Dec 22nd is the first court date so I hope it wont drag out. Wait and see.
 
shel90 said:
Yep and nothing in it stated that neither of us had no permission to take children out of state. If it did, then I would be safe. I am not going to fight for full custody to get her back becaue she tells me how much she loves her new life in AZ so I dont want to screw that up. However, I am fighting for full summers and holidays. He said I can only have her for only one month each summer and no holidays. I said "Oh really? I will see you in court, then." So...Dec 22nd is the first court date so I hope it wont drag out. Wait and see.
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I hope she is not being coaxed into telling you how great AZ is, I hope she really is having a good time, but aside from all of that what your ex did is really dirty. He knew he was not allowed to take her out of state without prior court consent. Because he crossed state lines, that should have been kidnapping. I'm not familiar with the custody laws in your state, but maybe that fact alone might be enough for the judge to at least say "Hey that wasn't cool" and reprimand him by having him relinquish custody back to you by the 1st day of June. If he wants to see his daughter bad enough he can buy the plane tickets to fly up there to see her during holidays. Any judge will see that what he has done is not right. Your daughter was doing fine up until that point and now she's probably in a upheaval knowing she's the center of a custody battle. I am thinking when she gets older she will figure out the truth as to what happened on her own. When she does there's bound to be an explosion that may cause her to call you to buy her a one-way ticket back to you.
 
shel90 said:
Yep and nothing in it stated that neither of us had no permission to take children out of state. If it did, then I would be safe. I am not going to fight for full custody to get her back becaue she tells me how much she loves her new life in AZ so I dont want to screw that up. However, I am fighting for full summers and holidays. He said I can only have her for only one month each summer and no holidays. I said "Oh really? I will see you in court, then." So...Dec 22nd is the first court date so I hope it wont drag out. Wait and see.
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My thoughts and prays are with you this week. I can totally understand ya feelings about the custody & ya ex. Thank goodness the job in Virginia my ex was offered fell through. He's not moving anytime soon. But I have no doubt in my mind he'd make it hard on me also.
 
shel90 said:
The judge said at 12 years old, she has a say and she chose AZ. After I discovered several emails that were sent to her by my ex hubby's family telling her of all the wonderful things they can do together if she decides to move to AZ. Nice, of them huh?
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Wow, what a way to play with a kids mind :S ...that was a horrible thing for them to do. It really angers me when people play dirty like that. I don't understand where the hell is the comprehension in here that the matters are between you, your daughter and ex... as we say over here " nadie les dio vela en ese entierro. " ( trans: Nobody gave you a candle in this burial. Basically a metaphorical and nice way to tell you -None of your business- lol )
 
iSign said:
Wow, what a way to play with a kids mind :S ...that was a horrible thing for them to do. It really angers me when people play dirty like that. I don't understand where the hell is the comprehension in here that the matters are between you, your daughter and ex... as we say over here " nadie les dio vela en ese entierro. " ( trans: Nobody gave you a candle in this burial. Basically a metaphorical and nice way to tell you -None of your business- lol )
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Yes it is very sick, iSign. My ex is very jealous of my close relationship with my son. He insists in telling my 13 yr old son about problems that occurred in our marriage. He also tells my son that I am an alcoholic & drug abuser. I have told my son that when he (my ex) does this to calmly tell him that he doesn't want to hear it and to leave the room. My ex will just get angry with him.
 
Thinking that I still have not read any of matajan's posts since I said I wouldn't earlier in this thread.

I am probably not missing much.
 
I know back off my gf forget I rid her no more!! I was stress thinking cope because I go to counsellor professional! I am screw up my mind!!! I try best focus on proper patient and handle to strong! I try best hard work! I do it go to there ready today help me skills! I am very try best hard work hope better positive, I ignored her, I know ex gf play games and bluff I don't like bluff! jeez! I am stress!
 
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