Yup, Coolie. You're right. Weight issues are very difficult. Especially, for women. I, myself, have struggled with my weight and eating disorders for years. I've begun to try to accept my weight for what it is. I'm much shorter than most of the women on here due to my disability. I'm under 5 ft, and I weight roughly about what you do; plus or minus twenty pounds.
I think the key for us is to be as healthy as possible, and if need be, to try and accept that this is who we are. Especially for myself, because, I won't ever be my "ideal weight". I try to maintain my weight where it is, and not gain anymore. But, that's me. Everyone has to find the solution that works best for them.