I am hearing with moderate hearing loss. My dr tells my husband "talk to the face". When he's near and "talks to the face", i can hear him. When he doesn't, I don't. I had surgery in 2002 to remove a Acoustic Neuroma (Schwannoma) from the right inner auditory canal and that has caused my hearing loss. I'm not afraid to be completely deaf. It would be a relief. I'm not sure why I feel like I belong in the Deaf community.
I am almost 65 years old. When I was about 13-14, my parents were gone and someone knocked on the back door. It was a Deaf family of 4. A child about 8-9 stood there holding a burlap sack and the father handed me a small business card. On one side was the manual alphabet and on the other was a small flag pin. I went to the cupboard and got food and put it in their sack. I quickly learned the alphabet. My mother worked as a waitress in a coney island restaurant and one of her regular customers was deaf. One Saturday, she took me to the restaurant and sure enough he came in. My mother pushed me toward him. I fingerspelled "m-y n-a-m-e i-s B-r-e-n-d-a" and he started signing back to me. I had not a clue what he was signing. I knew then there was much more to learn.
In my 30s, I joined a Deaf Sunday School for a large baptist church in Detroit. I started classes there. The instructor was CODA. I learned quite a bit there, then I went to Madonna University in Plymouth, MI and Interpreter program. I earned 22 credit hours before I had to quit. Then in my early 60s, I began classes at the Deaf Service Center in Ft Myers, FL.
I took all the had to offer. I've tried to socialize with the Deaf but they treat me with great disdain. I don't sign fast and they were not impressed with my desire to learn.
I guess it's sorta like having a conversation with someone who can only speak a few words of you language.
When I was at the church, I helped interpret the song service. It is a great way to practice the signs. It doesn't help with the language structure, etc.
I'm at my wit's end about how to be accepted by the Deaf. It seems that many Deaf nowadays prefer English structure and not strict ASL...and that confuses me also.
Why doesn't the Deaf want hearing people to know and use their language? I've never treated any deaf with disrespect...ever.
Thanks for listening.