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I understand the guy making the first move when you are trying to meet/hook up with a girl for the first time. Should the guy always have to make the first move after you have been together for 2 months?
She always waits for me to start something and I'm not supposed to ask, I should just know when she wants to fool around. I should also know what she wants without asking. When I try something she doesn't seem interested, but later is annoyed that nothing happened.
Seems like I can't win either way. Do you guys have any advice on what I should do?
 
I am a woman, I think communication is the key. Just knowing how she feels about sex before marriage or waiting or playing head games will set your mind free. She should speak her mind about how she feels about things in a relationship. If she doesn't, then you are just wasting your time with a non-communicative person.
 
Yeah. I do care about her a lot and I'm in it for more than just the physical part. You're right on the communication thing though. We need to discuss what we're looking for from the relationship. Hopefully she'll tell me what she's looking for from the relationship.
 
GTP-Guy said:
I understand the guy making the first move when you are trying to meet/hook up with a girl for the first time. Should the guy always have to make the first move after you have been together for 2 months?
She always waits for me to start something and I'm not supposed to ask, I should just know when she wants to fool around. I should also know what she wants without asking. When I try something she doesn't seem interested, but later is annoyed that nothing happened.
Seems like I can't win either way. Do you guys have any advice on what I should do?
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either way, she's playing mind game with you or she simply isn't interested in you. has she ever show any keen interest in what you are and were doing? did she laugh or smile when you made jokes? did she bend her shoulders closer to you when you were talking to her? observe her body language and how she reacts to you or your actions i.e. talking, walking and so on and on.

given my experience with numerous women i'd advise you making a move to find out if she's interested in you. sorry to say but that's the only way to find out. there are different mind games women would play with us [men]. here's the list -- Understanding Women's Mind Games. the list is useful for single men to understand women's mind games. 2 months? if i were you, i'd ask her out on a date right away and see what happens. but before you ask her out, a good idea would be to ask about how her day is going and figure out what kind of mood she is in. if she's in a good mood, ask her out. when you plan to ask her out, don't think and don't feel anything. just ask her out. or else, you'll change your mind or "stutter".

furthermore, i would advise you to mentally [or emotionally] prepare for her rejection so it'll be a lot less painful to deal with it if she rejects. while it sucks, don't let it scare you away. women love confident men. even if it's just an acting.

p.s. be cautious about "friend zone". it's an hellzone for all of us, men. if she puts you into her friend zone, you're in hell and there is no hope for you. i'd advise you to do some drastic things about it if she did.
 
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communication is the key.

If you really like her a lot, u should tell her how u feel and find out what she thinks and feels of you. If you're afraid to ask her, go ahead and try and type her an email or a letter. sometimes you'll have to face consequences even though its good or bad news. i wish u best of luck. :)
 
I would think after 2 months you both should be able to share your feelings openly... yeah Communication is the key to hold the foundation of the relationship. As other commenters say to tell her how you feel and see what she say to that, then you know where you stand than wasting your time or be hurt in the long run. We can't make someone to love us... wish you all the best of luck.. "if it's not meant to be, then be it, let it go" One door close another will open...
 
welcome to the dating life. its only downhill from here.

she's giving you clues both ways, when she wants it and when she doesn't...your mission, should you choose to accept it, is to figure out her clues. it could be something simple that you'd never catch.

if you dont want to play games, say "hey, wanna fool around" if she acts mortified and refuses, say fine and continue with your day. next day, ask her again "wanna fool around"....eventually she will be forced to have a discussion with you regarding her clues and when she wants it and when she doesn't.

i dont like games, romance is fine, but games bore me, so i dont play em.
 
Thank you for the advice everyone.. We actually talked about this stuff today and she is between jobs and she has a few medical bills to pay for and a car payment coming due soon too. She seems to have a lot on her mind right now. She said she is interested and doesn't want to end the relationship.. So I guess I will see how it goes. Time will tell.
 
GTP-Guy said:
Thank you for the advice everyone.. We actually talked about this stuff today and she is between jobs and she has a few medical bills to pay for and a car payment coming due soon too. She seems to have a lot on her mind right now. She said she is interested and doesn't want to end the relationship.. So I guess I will see how it goes. Time will tell.
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There you go!!!! it wasn't that hard to communication smile... keep it up and good luck smile!!! it's better to know than ASSUME what they are thinking smile.. at the same time do your thing don't just wait around for her answer smile...
 
OldNavyGirl said:
communication is the key.

If you really like her a lot, u should tell her how u feel and find out what she thinks and feels of you. If you're afraid to ask her, go ahead and try and type her an email or a letter. sometimes you'll have to face consequences even though its good or bad news. i wish u best of luck. :)
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Huh how is it communication if you dont recieve any response from other person. Silly. It is communication when you have two person talk to each other not one person who express his thought and other one have no reply.
 
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