The first "ILU"

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Ive known for a while now that I am completely head over heels in love with the girl I have been dating. But we are taking things slow, and I am waiting to tell her. However, when I do finally do it, I want it to be perfect. She is HOH, and I am hearing. I have been learning sign but am still rudimentary. 90% of our communication is oral at the moment, with signing increasing more each day (I really am trying). It is very important to both of us that I learn.
Anyway. I am trying to decide how to tell her for the first time that I love her. Do I say it vocally, sign all three words, or use the ILU sign? I over-analyze things and am putting too much thought into this I am sure; I just want it perfect!
 
Tell her in the way you are most comfortable with. Trust me, even if she was completely deaf, she'd know those words on your lips. You'll feel awkward enough telling her in the first place, it's scary, but you don't want to trip over it either. Don't wait forever... :cool2:
 
you can verbalize and sign "i love you" at the same time. the ILY handshape sign seems very casual to me.. i mean, my friends and i use that around each other. so it's up to you.
 
I agree with anakin. My family and close friends, some of whom do not know sign, use the ILY sign. We care deeply about each other but it does not carry the "I want to be with you forever" message.

UHHH, red flag, kinda.

Wanting things to be perfect means you will almost always be disappointed.

I love the commercial for Kay jewelers. That is probably as good as it gets.
 
I agree that the ILY sign is a bit overused for a declaration of love...we even use it over the pond!

My advice: look her in the eyes and use either oral or sign but make sure you dont over think it. For example, I smile when I get nervous / told off and telling someone you love them with a smirk on your face is never good :lol: !

I think its really sweet that you want to get it perfect. good luck :)
 
I totally agree with other ADers about ILY Hand sign is a bit overused.... heck even my friends and I say it to each other so casually. So I would suggest to use oral, to voice it out loud or you could just use I then crosses your arms over your chest as for Love and then you can point at her as use for you.
 
Thanks everyone. I think I will sign it for sure and possibly voice it as well. But I know the signing will be important too her.
Yes, I do realize it will never be "perfect", and I am trying to not overthink it!
Im not waiting "too long" haha, we are just taking things slow and I dont want to put any pressure on things by saying it yet!
 
~*Kaelei*~ said:
I totally agree with other ADers about ILY Hand sign is a bit overused.... heck even my friends and I say it to each other so casually. So I would suggest to use oral, to voice it out loud or you could just use I then crosses your arms over your chest as for Love and then you can point at her as use for you.
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:gpost:

This entire thread almost makes me miss being in love (sigh)..

... I said almost!
 
i think action means more then words when it comes to your case. sometimes expressing u love someone doesnt have to be perform vocally, and yeah.. the ILY sign is sweet but its just too overused so i think u can forget that idea. You can do what Kaelei suggested, thats nice.
 
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