I'm going to be blunt.
He doesn't have to work harder - YOU do.
You're complaining about how HE doesn't have as rich an English vocabulary as you do, and that his English sentence structure isn't perfect?
English is NOT his first language and only 30% of speech is even visible on the lips. Yet, despite of all the obstacles he faces, he still works hard to speechread and use YOUR language (because while it's significantly more difficult for HIM, it's EASIER for you).
By contrast, YOU know the alphabet a measly 100 words in HIS language. The signs you do know you are only able/willing or for whatever reason elect to put together not using the correct grammar for that language, but instead superimposing an entirely different language's grammar system. How eloquent exactly do you think YOU are with 100 signs haphazardly joined together ?
If anyone needs to put more effort into communicating and being understanding it's you - the one who currently has the language skills of a 1 year old and doesn't have the fluency or understanding to see all the nuances of Sign Language.
I'm sorry if this comes off as rude - but it needs to be said. You definitely need to see it and have a solid "heart to heart" with yourself about YOUR language skills (especially if you actually think using Google Translate gets you anything CLOSE to an accurate translation from one language to another ... because as someone who's partially tri-lingual, the automated translation services are often a disaster.)
P.S. The core issue isn't about simplifying or "dumbing down" your English (as a Hoh/Deaf person myself, I just find insulting.) It's about you becoming more articulate in ASL. If you think it's frustrating for you to "simplify" your English phrasing down to a few thousand words - imagine how frustrating it is for him to try to say anything at all confined to your current ASL knowledge of 100 word vocabulary with little or no grammar awareness. He's already fluent in 2 languages. You're the one who's holding up the quality of the conversation.
P.P.S. ASL is a complete language - it's used to explain complicated concepts in Sciences, Medicine, Maths, Physics, Art, Theology. WE as Hoh/Deaf people can be "blunt", but our language is one that is beautiful, eloquent, expressive and able to describe with clarity a number of things where English and Spoken language fall short. You can't see any of it yet (or maybe ever), but don't for a second believe that Signed Language is "simple" or "basic".
Greetings to all!
I have been reading over the posts in this board and this is a wonderful source of information.
Maybe someone here can give me some input or advice.
I am a hearing woman and recently starting dating a very very very wonderful man who is deaf (he can talk and read lips). When he met me, I already knew how to sign my alphabet from my childhood days but immediately starting learning to sign with his help and the many videos that are available on the internet. I still sign like a baby, but I've got about 100 words under my belt now
Here is the problem that I'm trying to figure out. I am a doctor and a writer, so my English is very rich, complex and uses a variety of vocabulary and follows a certain set of rules. I am learning that ASL has its very own set of rules/grammar syntax that are very different from English and this brings about mis-communication sometimes when I talk to the man that I am dating. I sign to him like I speak and form my sentences in English and he talks to me and forms his sentences like he signs in ASL and the translation is a bit off at times for both of us.
Any suggestions to make communication a bit easier?
Thanks!!!