Stupid things non-deafies say

pepsiwoman said:
Why do you talk like that? :roll:
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That is exactly what happen when we start talking and we did not talk like hearing people. Our voice is funny and we talked different way of putting the sentences different than hearing people. Anyway our voice is sound different and funny that we are embarrass or not knowing what kind of voice we make. Beside most of us Deafies and possibly HOH do not realize what our voice sound like unless we have a home movie to show them how their voice sound like. My niece took a home movie of me talking away with one or two family members. When I saw how my voice sound, it is really embarassing. :Oops:
 
Bebonang said:
That is exactly what happen when we start talking and we did not talk like hearing people. Our voice is funny and we talked different way of putting the sentences different than hearing people. Anyway our voice is sound different and funny that we are embarrass or not knowing what kind of voice we make. Beside most of us Deafies and possibly HOH do not realize what our voice sound like unless we have a home movie to show them how their voice sound like. My niece took a home movie of me talking away with one or two family members. When I saw how my voice sound, it is really embarassing. :Oops:
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I know that feeling...but don't feel bad or embrassed...remember we have deafie accents and be proud of it. :cool: Like Spanish, or others as well...Nah, we are not alone...
 
I had to interpret for clients and people will ask can they lip read? I will sign that.. then the person will say, " no, I am asking you". I say, you have to ask my client and will be happy to interpret for you. The person often times looks at me funny and my client will often answer the question and say , ask me not my interpreter.
 
jillio said:
Me and my son in grocery store having a conversation in sign. Stranger walks up and asks:

"Oh, is he deaf?" (No lady, he's blind!:doh:)
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Were you using tactile signing to your blind and deaf son?
 
"I prefer to be blind than being deaf"


huh this statment always make me laugh. Geez don't they realize that blind cannot live independent?
 
Personally my most loathed comments are:

"you must be kidding me , you can't be hoh/deaf/hi - I can tell by your voice"

"I think you hear fine, you just need to want to listen more"

"so have you lived here long?, you have an interesting accent" ( I don't have a stereotypical 'deaf accent' - but I have problems with "S", "sh" , "th" "r" etc)

"Don't sign ... people will think your like those people" - my reply is - "HEY, I am one of those peopleand I"m proud of it thank you very much" - this is accompanied with a look from me which could only be described as "what rock do you live under...can you go back ?"
 
Most hearies are decent people who are largely unaware of the challeges of deafness, but who will show genuine concern and empathy when they meet us. They are the first and largest group of hearies--normal human beings.

A second group of hearies are often ignorant and make many mistakes when interacting with deafies, but they are easier to take than a third group who patronize us and falsely ingratiate themselves.

The second type are sometimes stupid but most often just ignorant. Those things can be fixed by education.

The third type can be recognized by asking question after question after question as if obsessed. You can tell there's an agenda other than normal curiousity, as questions change up--some crude and belittling, others aimed at splitting us, then back to cloying patronization. This type is only pleased at creating tension.

When cornered, patronizers plead to not laughing at you but suffereing with you. They claim to hate other hearies and even apologize for them.

It's annoying and phony, and after a short while you can tell it.

Of course most of us prefer the normal hearies who give and take. But in choosing between the second and third types, I have to say I can tolerate honest human error any day of the week over thinly disguised malevelent mockery.
 
Yeah....many people I work with now asking me what's the hearing aid for... I told them I use it so that I can hear what your brain's thinking about...lol they was kinda of confused... I told them no it help me hear better..without it... I can't hear words but sound...they asked another stupid ?.....how come you can talk and hear just fine. What an idiot.. Why can't they see I'm using the hearing aid... it helps me hear little better that's all...its really simple... well I'm kinda of used answering their "hearing's stupid question about hoh and deaf" maybe one day I will stop answering their stupidity!!!!
 


Yes, I hear you all because I had been through the same as you all as well. *sigh*

but one thing.. funny - I still laughing when I typing this post.

Before we start a family. We went to Ophthalmology to make an appointment. An assistant asked us if we have been there before. We said no. My hubby said to her to speak slowly please because we can't hear. She did what he said.

She said that we can go to waiting room - no need appointment... We waited.

We were like :confused: when an assistant said to us to come into Ophthalmologist's office room... Why both of us instead of separate? We were like Okkkaaayyy... We were in Ophthalmologist's room and saw coincidence what an assistance wrote on each small folders "CAUTION" Mr. **** can speak but can't hear. Other folder "CAUTION" Mrs. **** can hear but can't speak. We laughed with pain until Ophthalmologist came in... He was like "what you laugh for". Ophthalmologist understood straight way as he saw 2 folders and asked us is it reason why we laughed. We said yes and correct him that we are deaf. He feel :o and feel want to tell assistant off. We said to him, to not worry... next time remember those word "deaf".
 
Liebling:-))) said:


Yes, I hear you all because I had been through the same as you all as well. *sigh*

but one thing.. funny - I still laughing when I typing this post.

Before we start a family. We went to Ophthalmology to make an appointment. An assistant asked us if we have been there before. We said no. My hubby said to her to speak slowly please because we can't hear. She did what he said.

She said that we can go to waiting room - no need appointment... We waited.

We were like :confused: when an assistant said to us to come into Ophthalmologist's office room... Why both of us instead of separate? We were like Okkkaaayyy... We were in Ophthalmologist's room and saw coincidence what an assistance wrote on each small folders "CAUTION" Mr. **** can speak but can't hear. Other folder "CAUTION" Mrs. **** can hear but can't speak. We laughed with pain until Ophthalmologist came in... He was like "what you laugh for". Ophthalmologist understood straight way as he saw 2 folders and asked us is it reason why we laughed. We said yes and correct him that we are deaf. He feel :o and feel want to tell assistant off. We said to him, to not worry... next time remember those word "deaf".
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I had to laugh while reading it, too. I don't know why, but what the assistant wrote reminds me of a comedy movie called Hear No Evil, See No Evil.
 
jillio said:
Me and my son in grocery store having a conversation in sign. Stranger walks up and asks:

"Oh, is he deaf?" (No lady, he's blind!:doh:)
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LOL!

That reminds me of the time a friend of mine and I were signing away to each other and some total stranger came up to us and said I love you in Christ in sign language.
 
Another stupid thing that hearing people would do or say is, " I know sign language", and then show the sign of the middle finger.....
 
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