The one thing I just could not comprehend is that hearing parents, even hearing grandparents want to have a "normal" children and try to pressure them into the hearing world with CI or oral-only program in the mainstream schools. That is why they are grieving so much over this hoopla "disability" which we are not except that we can not hear. Our brain is one hundred good and very intelligent. We don't like to be pressure every time the hearing family members like Mom and Dad try to get us "fix". Beside it is the same old record player for many, many years every time the hearing people think that the hearing doctor can "fix" them with the new devices like hearing aids and now CIs and what next after this? It is like playing the viola or violin over and over again. Can we just say enough is enough? Geeze.
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Why do we need fixing? This is what frustrates me *SO* much! I am *NOT* imperfect. Or abnormal. I see the world in an unique way. I view it in pictures. I am visual, not verbal. In doing so I see so many things that hearies do not nor will they ever. Oh, this make me mad.
Pressure into hearing world because easier for them. NOT us!My parents put me in hearing school. No discussion on what would be good for me. Throw me to wolves. Thanks Mum and Dad. :roll:
Thank god they do not subject me to surgery to fix what will never *be* fixed and put foreign object in my skull. Thank god! At least they only stole my first language from me when they took sign away from me. :roll: Force me to speak English even though I don't understand language but learn because smart.
Of 14 children in my family, 12 now living, I am only deafie. I am also the only child with Bachelors and Masters Degree. Only child. Yeah, not normal.
If I speak with co-workers I use perfect English but it is hard. It takes time. But I do it. When I give seminars I speak perfect English. I do it. It's hard and it takes time but I do it.
Conforming to English is *SO* incredibly challenging but I do it because I am single Mum and need to support children.
You are beautiful and smart for just the person you are. I read many, many of your posts and you are *SO* wise and kind.
I also think in pictures.
The real sad thing is that it actually happens-
Bebonang I liked what you wrote too, about family members trying to pressure someone to be something they're not. It seems like when there's expectations and un-acknowledged preconceptions like that, that is THEIR problem - but then they can make he problem as being deaf, which it never was.