Cloggy and Rick, NO we're NOT saying that your kids are "special cases" or the exception. We know that there are significent numbers of oral sucesses out there. However, what YOU two aren't acknowleding is that a) there have ALWAYS ALWAYS been many oral sucesses, even BEFORE CI!
What we are saying is that your sucess has more to do with a combonation of luck and hard work, then it has to do with hard work alone.
That doesn't take away from your effort..........but you are VERY lucky to have had access to things like good doctors, good insurance, good therapists and so on. We can point you to just as many kids whose parents tried hard with them to be oral but who didn't suceed, we can point you to many kids who could speak well, but really took off acheivement wise when they received the gift of a full toolbox....................Oh and Rick for your generation YES your daughter WAS the exception. Most dhh kids of the early and mid nineties still required significent special educational and other area help.
It's changing............I agree. But whether that's due to improved technology, or the fact that its now considered the "norm" in some families to be overprogrammed (which fits in perfectly with the goal of oral only as life being an eternal therapy session)
Besides, back when hearing aids were first becoming popular, I'm sure that MANY people back then thought that HAs heralded a sea change in the prospects for dhh kids overall.
Hey.........back in the '60's, 70's and 80's and mid 90s (til CI became popular) parents like you insisted that most dhh kids could get access to the hearing world by hearing aids! It's just a thing of history repeating itself.
Cloggy and Rick...........the sitution with Sign vs speech with dhh people, is exactly like the sititiopn with other special needs. Maybe we should stop fighting about methodology and brainwashing our kids about how using speshal things is a "crutch", and maybe concentrate on the probality that maybe those "speshal needs things could provide the key to ACHIEVEMENT for kids with special needs!
The track record for special needs kids who use "mainstream" methodologies has not been impressive........like blind kids who use talking books or large print haven't done better then Braille users.
Kids with physical disablities who refuse to use wheelchairs, walkers and other adaptive equiptment haven't done better then kids who use them.
Same with oral only kids. Some of them have done amazing things, but overall the track record hasn't been impressive.