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Jiro said:
you're not getting it. I certainly don't want the whole stay-at-home mom thing because it's pretty cruel to keep the housewife slaving away at home all day for rest of her life.

I said it's ok for both parents to work. it's ok for both parents especially mother to pursue whatever they want but it is not ok for mother to neglect her motherly duty. Same for father. It's not ok for father to neglect fatherly duty. This is where family community comes in. The grandparents and/or community can help out to take care of the kids. All "primitive" societies do this. It works for thousand of years.

Simply put - if both parents want to have a family - then they need to act like parents. If raising family is financially difficult - then don't raise a family because it's cruel to put one's family thru financial difficulty for long time.

I say same for wealthy parents. They don't actually raise the kids but their nanny does and they don't teach their kids but they hire people to do that. How awful.

life sucks, doesn't it?
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Ohhh ok..I thought you were implying that women should bear the child-rearing, not the men.
 
hmm....thanks for your contribution. I always thought I'd have to get married to have kids, but now it seems like it is no longer a necessity. So an independent women or an independent man could raise children alone.

Perhaps not the ideal situation though, since a lot of relationship skills like compromising and communication can be observed through the parents.

As for me, my parents worked a lot when I was a kid. I was essentially raised by an aunt who was a stay-at-home mom busy with 5 kids of her own until I was 13. One day, my parents said they were going to quit their jobs and we moved across the state. At that point, I felt a little to mature to bond with them. I'm not bitter about the situation though. Strangely, I think I lacked any sort of "rebellion" stage because of the lack of over-parenting.
 
Jiro said:
guess that's why divorce rate is skyrocketing and more families are becoming dysfunctional.

so like I said before - It's ok for both parents to have jobs while kids are at day school but it is not ok to me when kids spend just couple hours a day with parents. Yes I understand the harsh reality going on here but it's not right.

How did this changed from 1950's? It's sad.
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It actually started in the 40's WWII. It just wasn't noticeable till later.
 
Oh....I just took a moment to think about my income (I'm a debt-free, paid grad student), it will be a while before I feel comfortable with the idea of supporting a kid.
 
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