Silent Treatment Relationships:

Silent treatments doesn't have to be only considered an abuse -- from my experiences, some guys don't communicate because some men are afraid to be hurt again. For example, one of my ex had his ex wife abused him and they got divorced. I got in a relationship with him and realized he doesn't communicate as i would like him to and found out his ex wife hurt him and he doesn't like to communicate cuz hes afraid to be hurt again.
 
Cheri said:
No, I haven't consider that as an abuse, More of ignoring the problem refuse to face the person and let them know what is bothering them or run away from problems instead of facing it with the person to solve it. :P

yes- it is STILL considered as ABUSE, i learned that from counseling...
 
Liebling:-))) said:
There're kind of silent treatments between marriage partners/living together partners and friends... I think Feistychick mean it's husband/wife or living together partners in household, not friends.

it doesn't matter... it is still consider abuse- emotional/mental wise... because the person racks his/her brains wondering what he/she did wrong and all that when the other person is not talking to him/her... it affects the person emotionally and mentally... that is why it is considered abuse... am i making sense???
 
Yep FC is correct, Silence treatment does consider as emotional abuse since I've learned it from parents class during my divorce....
 
FeistyChick said:
it doesn't matter... it is still consider abuse- emotional/mental wise... because the person racks his/her brains wondering what he/she did wrong and all that when the other person is not talking to him/her... it affects the person emotionally and mentally... that is why it is considered abuse... am i making sense???

True, you are right. It also affect person´s emotional, too, not matter either married, living together or friends.
 
OldNavyGirl said:
Silent treatments doesn't have to be only considered an abuse -- from my experiences, some guys don't communicate because some men are afraid to be hurt again. For example, one of my ex had his ex wife abused him and they got divorced. I got in a relationship with him and realized he doesn't communicate as i would like him to and found out his ex wife hurt him and he doesn't like to communicate cuz hes afraid to be hurt again.


Actually sweetie, my ex husband refused to talk to me about almost anything, it not only that he doesn't want to get hurt again, it just that he doesn't like to express his feelings to the point where a marriage gets very lonesome....That's why commicate is important to make the relationship work, when men like my ex don't talk or work it out just having a silent treatment to avoid getting into an argument or don't feel like talking about it, and just let it go, but then you will never know why he's feeling anger, or what you did was wrong to made him feel he couldn't reach out and discuss it like two lovely couples....

There are times my ex husband wouldn't talk to me for days, I felt really lonely, emotionally and crying out to talk to someone, but there no one around when there's only your husband, who suppose to be your best friend , your partner for life, how is the marriage going to work when there a silent treatment going on in the household?....

They're not just hurting themselves but hurting their partner more to the point where they feel like no one cares about their feelings....
 
Oh yes, FeistyChick is so correct!! It is considered as emotional and mental abuse. It can drain you out emotionally and mentally.
 
Liebling:-))) said:
There're kind of silent treatments between marriage partners/living together partners and friends... I think Feistychick mean it's husband/wife or living together partners in household, not friends.
It can also be a friend.
 
^Angel^ said:
Actually sweetie, my ex husband refused to talk to me about almost anything, it not only that he doesn't want to get hurt again, it just that he doesn't like to express his feelings to the point where a marriage gets very lonesome....That's why commicate is important to make the relationship work, when men like my ex don't talk or work it out just having a silent treatment to avoid getting into an argument or don't feel like talking about it, and just let it go, but then you will never know why he's feeling anger, or what you did was wrong to made him feel he couldn't reach out and discuss it like two lovely couples....

There are times my ex husband wouldn't talk to me for days, I felt really lonely, emotionally and crying out to talk to someone, but there no one around when there's only your husband, who suppose to be your best friend , your partner for life, how is the marriage going to work when there a silent treatment going on in the household?....

They're not just hurting themselves but hurting their partner more to the point where they feel like no one cares about their feelings....

Your description about your ex sound that his childhood was not happy one... right? It´s sad... I beleive everything would be okay if he get the help and go to therapy to save his family... Now he lost you due his abuse...
 
^Angel^ said:
Actually sweetie, my ex husband refused to talk to me about almost anything, it not only that he doesn't want to get hurt again, it just that he doesn't like to express his feelings to the point where a marriage gets very lonesome....That's why commicate is important to make the relationship work, when men like my ex don't talk or work it out just having a silent treatment to avoid getting into an argument or don't feel like talking about it, and just let it go, but then you will never know why he's feeling anger, or what you did was wrong to made him feel he couldn't reach out and discuss it like two lovely couples....

There are times my ex husband wouldn't talk to me for days, I felt really lonely, emotionally and crying out to talk to someone, but there no one around when there's only your husband, who suppose to be your best friend , your partner for life, how is the marriage going to work when there a silent treatment going on in the household?....

They're not just hurting themselves but hurting their partner more to the point where they feel like no one cares about their feelings....
Your ex sounds a lot like someone I know who have treated me exactly the way your ex treated you. Girl, I know how it feels. It sucks. What's also bad is when he is finally talking to me he still refused to talk about or solve the problems. I often felt like screaming out at him to talk to me. He was emotionally and mentally abusing me. The hell with him!!
 
Silent Treatments are considered abused? I had no idea... Interesting!
 
Ive been in several relationships where the silent treatment was forced on me - I usually left home for a few days, went with friends and had a good time... back home and my partner would be upset with me, and I would ask why the silent treatment? I dont tolerate silent treatments, I prefer the other to ask me for some time out and then get together and discuss the problem and solve it.

In my present relationship, we do not use the silent treatment - we've asked for a few minutes and then gotten together and had a discussion and then went on to bed happy and content...no going to bed angry!!!
 
Hey I don't mind even one day or two for time out if the problem is very serious. BUT I don't like when coming back and act as if NOTHING is wrong. been there and hate it so much! I believe no matter what, communication MUST be opened, even if asking for time out! Telling your partner that you need time out so that your partner will know you'd come back and work on this issue. BUT if you dart out and refused to say anything, this shows your partner that you want to escape from the problem, PERIOD. That is how I see it. I HATE runaways, run-offs with passion.
 
cheri

i broke up with a man who have giving me silence treatment for a month so
i tried many time to make him talk to me what is his plm he refused to tell me so i give up and left him

i am giving him silence treatment to see how he feels about it i doubt he will be feeling sorry about it
 
Silent treatment can go somewhere else not near me. Rather communication. but if you are angry wait to cool down before communication otherwise you will regret what you said to someone that you care.
 
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