I had a bit of a strange encounter the other day with another mom of a deaf child.
We bumped into each other at the park and I noticed her child's implants. I shared that my daughter was also deaf and we chatted for a bit. The kids were playing like no big deal and came over in search of a snack. I signed with Katie while she munched a few crackers and downed some water before they skittered off to play again.
After they were gone, the mom said "I didn't want to say anything in front of the kids, but could you please not sign in front of my son? we don't do that."
I was a little shocked but said that Katie didn't use English and I would be happy to continue to voice while I signed, but I really couldn't not sign. She seemed a little offended and went on about how hard they worked at their son's speech, how much it has cost them and it isn't fair to 'have that derailed' every time someone signs around him. I mentioned (very gently) how I felt the same when people excluded my daughter entirely from conversations by not signing. She said "It's not the same. We have to work a lot harder than you do. You need to remember that."
At that point I suddenly "remembered an appointment", said my farewells and collected my kid. There was no way I was going to delve any further into that on a playground. I was secretly hoping for a potential playdate situation, but guess not.
Now, I understand the importance of sticking with the therapy, but are there no exceptions? When can a kid just be a kid regardless of communication? When, if ever, is it okay to impose restrictions on strangers? I don't tell people they *must* sign, but I will do my best to terp for Katie if she's near and I voice if we're around oral kids or hearing people.
I consider playground time to be time off. We don't "work" at the playground. I don't follow my kid around reminding her to sign, creating language lessons out of wood chips and dandelions. I don't care if she interacts with speaking kids and would never interfere with her making friends. Basically, we're there so she can run herself ragged and hopefully go to bed on time.