The only problem I see with changing the name is what name do we change it to?
As suggest GBLT Lounge suggests that it is ONLY for the Gay Bi Lesbian and Transgendered community.
We need a name that suggests that ANYONE is welcome. While I may not GBLT that does not mean that I dont support the issues. Many of us do have family members that are GBLT. I myself, have two cousins that are GBLT members. I support their rights to being married if they so wish or whatever else they want.
However, I do not see ethat a forum named GLBT Lounge is very welcoming for someone who is NOT GLBT.
Im trying very hard here to post in a respectful manner and if you feel offended by anything I say then please dont go off on me, explain to me why it is offensive to you. Not all of us can understand that something we may say is considered offensive.
I feel the closet is inappropriate too as it suggests that we are trying to keep our GLBT in the closet and not out in the open.
Many of you also have to remember that while we may not like it, many of us were raised in a generation where it was not openly discussed. And if you were GBLT, you definitely didnt let others know it. My generation was alot like that. So you have to remember that it is a new concept for us, and while we are *adjusting* to this concept and trying to accept it. To push it on us is also wrong. Change is not about push, it is about education, and helping others to accept. When I visited my cousins, they were very careful about what they did in front of me at first, when I asked them why. They simply said because they realized that when I was growing up that it wasnt so open and that they wanted me to get used to the idea of them being with same sex partners. I thought that was great! I really respected them for that and by the time the visit was over, I was very comfortable around them and they were openly expressing affection for their partners after a few days.
So my point to that is, being so in your face and pushing can have a negative effect. Whereas, my cousins had a we will let you get used to us first attitude, and it had a very positive effect on me.
By being pushy about why this and that, and how the name is offensive, try to remember it can have a *turn-off* effect and actually make it to where someone would not be willing to support you in your causes.
I say we change the name to something that is all inclusionary and not suggesting that it is for the GBLT community only.
I would like to feel welcome to pop in here and lend my support to especially the right to marraige cause!
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I have just join but i read this thread and wanted to say that I found you all by the title "the closet" so there are some +'s for the name though I would have clicked on GBLT or other reconisible term that is often seen.
