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diehardbiker65 said:
I learned my hard lesson for trying to preach other parents without being parents to start with.
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I'm sorry to hear that you had bad experience to share your good information/tip/suggest with wrong people who don't want to see it or don't want to accept it.

Honestly we have no problem with that because we like to share our informations, tips, preach, etc... as long as there're no judgement... because we are open mind to see the sense which/what/why/how to do something trick to reduce our stress to discipline our children. Nobody of us said one word like this "Don't lecture me", "Don't tell me how to raise my children", "I know my children, not you" etc.
 
What I am saying is that if you never had kid, don't bother preaching somebody else. I have no problem sharing issues and experiences. I have done BEFORE I had my son. Now I just STFU because I can see from my experience after having my first son. So, I respect other parents more now than I used to be.

Liebling:-))) said:
I'm sorry to hear that you had bad experience to share your good information/tip/suggest with wrong people who don't want to see it or don't want to accept it.

Honestly we have no problem with that because we like to share our informations, tips, preach, etc... as long as there're no judgement... because we are open mind to see the sense which/what/why/how to do something trick to reduce our stress to discipline our children. Nobody of us said one word like this "Don't lecture me", "Don't tell me how to raise my children", "I know my children, not you" etc.
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diehardbiker65 said:
What I am saying is that if you never had kid, don't bother preaching somebody else. I have no problem sharing issues and experiences. I have done BEFORE I had my son. Now I just STFU because I can see from my experience after having my first son. So, I respect other parents more now than I used to be.
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Yes, I already know you are saying - Sorry, I should add "childless people" in my previous post... They are also including, too. We don't mind to have them to share their tips with us because they know what they see their nephews, nieces, etc.... how their siblings discipline their children... etc. I see no difference either they have children or not... Their information, tips, etc are welcome...

Can you care to explain what "STFU" is?
 
diehardbiker65 said:
What I am saying is that if you never had kid, don't bother preaching somebody else. I have no problem sharing issues and experiences. I have done BEFORE I had my son. Now I just STFU because I can see from my experience after having my first son. So, I respect other parents more now than I used to be.
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Exactly! I am so sick of people who preaching other parents on how they should be raising their children, It's like this Do you have kids? No? Then zipped it, They wouldn't be saying all those things if they experience being a parent themselves. I'm glad you understood how that feels. ;)
 
But judgement is a different story...

We don't mind to have them to share their opinion, tips, information etc as long as there're no judgement. They are welcome to share their information, etc no matter either they have children or not.

*strug*
 
I know some of people who never have their own child take care of their relative's children. They STILL don't know what it is truly like to be a parents! It is mostly based on feeling between parents and their OWN blood children. Its TOTALLY different than if it were your adopting child or babysitting child! The love is totally different. I thought it was same thing until I got my son, and I found myself DEAD WRONG about it. That is why discipline is based on understand your OWN child, so you have better understand of what your child would response than if it were not your own child. Often I can read my son's mind before he starts something. That is because his thinking were pretty much the same way I do, response pretty much the same manner. That is how I can detect anything from my son ahead of time. I wouldn't be able to do that with other parent's own kids. That is why I do not think those who never been parents should discuss, giving advices, etc. Sharing is fine, listening is more preferred.
 
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