Wow, it's encouraging that such a string of hearing parents of deaf children have come forward stating that they DON'T see ASL and CIs as being in any way in conflict, and most of the parents who have spoken up have been positive about the value of ASL, and have made an effort to bring ASL into their children's everyday lives. FJ has described many gatherings of kids with CIs in which families -- even the hardcore AVT-ers out there -- easily alternated between sign and speech. I've found that all of our 'hearing professionals' involved with the CI sign with ease throughout their interaction with my daughter, I've attended CI conferences in which ASL interpreters and CART systems were plentiful and welcomed by all, fostering communication across all modes, and by doing so, indirectly emphasizing the value of these diverse methods of communication. And Rick has surprised a few people by discussing his family's efforts and early use of ASL with their child. I've never gotten the message from Rick that he felt my bi-bi path with Li-Li was any less valuable or appropriate than any other path.
I'm sorry that Jillio represents some lingering contingent of hearing parent who sees CIs and ASL as being at odds, making a statement with which I disagree: "Which confirms the fact that while CI and ASL don't have to be mutually exclusive, most often, in real life situations, they are." But I think she may be mistakenly convinced that most hearing parents here on AD and elsewhere (apart from herself) are against ASL. But I've seen a very welcoming approach to ASL in some of the places you might least expect it. And I hope parents venturing onto this forum to see what's working in real life situations don't get the impression from one adamant individual that CIs and ASL can't go and in hand. I think the key is to make ASL as accessible as possible to families, so young deaf children don't have to struggle so hard to develop ASL because of limited exposure to ASL in their homes.
The large population of hearing families using ASL to varying degrees with their kids who have CIs (realizing full well that these children who might hear and speak beautifully with the aid of their CIs still remain deaf, and require a means of communicating not only when that processor is doing its thing, but in every encounter, day or night, ideal listening environment or not), is such a powerful testament to how much we value all kinds of communication, and how -- regardless of whatever communication philosophy we parents might have initially brought into the job of raising a child -- we watch and listen and shift according to our child's needs and abilities to find what works for that individual.