Please read this. I want to know WHY.

The*Empress said:
Well the name start with a "M", you know who you are, you are so annoying.
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are you talking about yourself when you were "Miss P"?? :)
 
What I find so amusing is that none of us seems to be taking responsibility for our own actions. We keep pointing the finger elsewhere and saying "they, he/she, him/her, etc" when we are ALL guilty of this behavior to some extent.
 
Eve said:
What I find so amusing is that none of us seems to be taking responsibility for our own actions. We keep pointing the finger elsewhere and saying "they, he/she, him/her, etc" when we are ALL guilty of this behavior to some extent.
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Like I said earlier, it can all go to hell very quickly if there is personal shit involved in a discussion. Because of that, I agree with you about the necessity of taking responsibility for our own behavior. I have learned from personal experience that it is easier to be honest with oneself and others than to maintain an illusion. It just takes too much energy and too much self loathing to do that. In a way, I am also learning to speak up some more and to not apologize for who I am. Thank you for that lesson as well. I have learned a lot from others, too. :)
 
Eve said:
What I find so amusing is that none of us seems to be taking responsibility for our own actions. We keep pointing the finger elsewhere and saying "they, he/she, him/her, etc" when we are ALL guilty of this behavior to some extent.
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Read page one, I admit my mistakes, therefore I always do. :P
 
Ooohhh dear ..its dejavu all over again...havent we heard this question
before?? its getting kinda old, aint it?
frankly, im getting sick of this bullcrap!
Why dont we just forget it and go on and be happy, heh?
Let's not start with this "why, why, why People are so mean questions" any
more...cuz thats life, some people are just that, just plain mean, and will always be, and there's nothing we can do about it except to ignore them.
Enough is enough, ok??????
 
:shaking my head: some people are just soo mean....
 
mean people sucks! I see a few cars with bumper stickers that say it. ;)
 
sequoias said:
mean people sucks! I see a few cars with bumper stickers that say it. ;)
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Yep, and plus there a bumper sticker of "Don't f**k with me, I'm having a bad day" I said Oh, *driving on curb instead of behind that vehicle*
 
Eve said:
What I find so amusing is that none of us seems to be taking responsibility for our own actions. We keep pointing the finger elsewhere and saying "they, he/she, him/her, etc" when we are ALL guilty of this behavior to some extent.
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Of course I know I'm not prefect as angel but I'm not bitch, 2 faced, bully, troublemaker like others. ;)
 
There are too many variations to describe the reason of pointless argumentation which evolved into personal insult and/or fight. The biggest reasons are probably the lack of equiette and misunderstandings. First of all, equiette is not "built" into ourselves, but is developed by role model that we look up to. By default, our parents are our role model and if we communicate, then that is where equiette should be developed. With strong sense of equiette, we will be able to detect the intent to inflict personal argument and to avoid or to redirect the issue into more constructive discussions. Equiette controls the way we react to things and without that, there is no control. It is just similiar to the story "Lord Of The Flies", where shipwrecked children live on an island without parent, and without them, their behavior was out of control. Hence, in most broken families, equiette might be also broken as well. Finally, misunderstandings occur everywhere, whether we are perfect in communication or not. Misunderstanding sometimes caused us to react in hostile behavior and ended up into personal fight. I've seen in some threads where people were not on same page and ended up fighting like there's no tomorrow. The best redemy in this is to question one's statement and to clarify one's intent before responding to ensure that everyone are on same page.
 
Liebling:-))) said:
Of course I know I'm not prefect as angel but I'm not bitch, 2 faced, bully, troublemaker like others.
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And yet, you are the one hurling insults and calling names. Interesting. :smoking:
LG, while I can appreciate your sentiments, there is absolutely no way to ensure that we are all on the same page, as we all come from such various backgrounds. That is where you come in. Unlike in Golding's "Lord of the Flies", we "children" do have role models/adult supervision, aka MODERATORS. And when we so often do step out of line, it is your duty/responsibility to discipline us in order to teach us the proper etiquette we may be lacking. However, just as in Golding's story, many often despise the intellect exhibited by Piggy and therefore choose to chastise (crush with boulders) those of us who hold those same characteristics as exhibited by the constant name-calling, finger-pointing, and constant insulting shown in this topic. Maybe it's time for a spanking?
 
Eve said:
And yet, you are the one hurling insults and calling names. Interesting. :smoking:
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:confused: I has no idea why you jump on my general post and took my general post as serious/negative way and label me as hurling insults and calling names because I gave you right in my honest answer. :dunno: Please re-read my last response post "of course" which it mean is you are right. I has no idea why you see my post different? You see yourself what you did is point your finger on me.

Me and insult/name calling? Can you show me the example where I made insult and calling names in my previous posts because I find none? :dunno:

LG, while I can appreciate your sentiments, there is absolutely no way to ensure that we are all on the same page, as we all come from such various backgrounds. That is where you come in. Unlike in Golding's "Lord of the Flies", we "children" do have role models/adult supervision, aka MODERATORS. And when we so often do step out of line, it is your duty/responsibility to discipline us in order to teach us the proper etiquette we may be lacking. However, just as in Golding's story, many often despise the intellect exhibited by Piggy and therefore choose to chastise (crush with boulders) those of us who hold those same characteristics as exhibited by the constant name-calling, finger-pointing, and constant insulting shown in this topic. Maybe it's time for a spanking?
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Don't play innoncent. That's just because you don't like our general posts to answer sweetheart's question what/how we feel without finger-pointing, name-calling until one member made his/her post here..........

Please respect when we made our general post because we didn't name, finger-pointing, name-calling etc...

Please respect Alex's clean forum because he want his forum to be clean. Please remember that we can't compare here with other forums with different rules.

Have you read Alex's rule for not accept insult, name-calling, disrespect, etc.?
 
Eve said:
And yet, you are the one hurling insults and calling names. Interesting. :smoking:
LG, while I can appreciate your sentiments, there is absolutely no way to ensure that we are all on the same page, as we all come from such various backgrounds. That is where you come in. Unlike in Golding's "Lord of the Flies", we "children" do have role models/adult supervision, aka MODERATORS. And when we so often do step out of line, it is your duty/responsibility to discipline us in order to teach us the proper etiquette we may be lacking. However, just as in Golding's story, many often despise the intellect exhibited by Piggy and therefore choose to chastise (crush with boulders) those of us who hold those same characteristics as exhibited by the constant name-calling, finger-pointing, and constant insulting shown in this topic. Maybe it's time for a spanking?
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We, as moderators, are not parents to members of this forum. We enforce the policy to the best possible. It is very tiring to look at member like a child "No, no, that is bad thing to do, you should...." over and over in private messages. It is easier to just ban, suspend, moderate the threads/members themselves than to spank them. If they can't learn from these simple tools, then what are we to do? They tend to evade our enforcement by using different username (how are we to tightly enforce that? No such technology will help us with that as of yet) and continue to post offensive posts. Moderating alldeaf *OR* any forum is no easy task. Equiette should be built into them during their childhood years, so that it will help society in general rather than just specific reason only.
 
Eve said:
And yet, you are the one hurling insults and calling names. Interesting. :smoking:
LG, while I can appreciate your sentiments, there is absolutely no way to ensure that we are all on the same page, as we all come from such various backgrounds. That is where you come in. Unlike in Golding's "Lord of the Flies", we "children" do have role models/adult supervision, aka MODERATORS. And when we so often do step out of line, it is your duty/responsibility to discipline us in order to teach us the proper etiquette we may be lacking. However, just as in Golding's story, many often despise the intellect exhibited by Piggy and therefore choose to chastise (crush with boulders) those of us who hold those same characteristics as exhibited by the constant name-calling, finger-pointing, and constant insulting shown in this topic. Maybe it's time for a spanking?
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Ok, fine...so who u gonna spank? LOL!!
 
No shyt, Eve?...ok, fine...go ahead and spank me....*bendin over* :whip:
Now any other volunteers for Eve to spank? LOL!
 
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