Parents of Children with Problems of Anger

:gpost: and interesting to read your posts here, CODAchild (who adopt your son and RebelGirl (who is a single mother).


I´m not surprise to see you all here because I know you are wonderful people, since I remember you mentioned in your posts in several threads about how care you are with your children. Thank you all for share your interesting posts here which it´s new experience for me... :thumb: :hug:

I hope the posts come continue here... and keep update... :hug:
 
Asking us what we would do as parents of angry children? Well, you said it yourself... often, it's from abusive homes. So, if that's the case... we're the guilty ones since we are the reason for causing our children to be abusive or angry in the first place. So, the best answer to that would be NOT to start it all ever. I haven't had kids yet. So, if I don't want abusive or angry kids... then I better not do anything ever.
 
Vampy, that would be the best solution. Unfortunately, we don't always have control over every situation. There are so many different forms of abuse which may cause a child to act out. My SS and SD are emotionally abused by their mother, but since emotional abuse isn't against the law here, there is NOTHING my husband or I can do to prevent further abuse. All we can do is deal with the issues that arrise due to the abuse by taking SS and SD to a therapist during the time that they are with us.
Also, some children are abused by teachers, coaches, other family members, etc in private and without our knowlege. We all want to protect our children from these monsters, but sometimes the abuse comes from the least likely suspects. That is why it is so important to really pay attention to our children's emotional behavior, and listen when they do tell us things.
 
Vampy said it quite well and I do agree with Eve.

Like RebelGirl said, I'm really learning from you all a lot!
 
VamPyroX said:
Asking us what we would do as parents of angry children? Well, you said it yourself... often, it's from abusive homes. So, if that's the case... we're the guilty ones since we are the reason for causing our children to be abusive or angry in the first place. So, the best answer to that would be NOT to start it all ever. I haven't had kids yet. So, if I don't want abusive or angry kids... then I better not do anything ever.
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Well Said!

Depend on parent´s form of discplinie how to lead their children into kind of behavior.
 
Depend on parent´s form of discplinie how to lead their children into kind of behavior.
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ABUSE AND DISCIPLINE ARE NOT THE SAME THING!
 
Eve said:
ABUSE AND DISCIPLINE ARE NOT THE SAME THING!
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No, I do not compare abuse with discipline but negative and positve discipline.

Like what I say: Depend on negative or postive discipline to lead the children into kind of behavior.

Check the example.
http://www.solosingles.com/ssparent/timeoutsformdiscipline.htm

Example:

Negative discipline:

You discipline a child with your angry impression
You compare your child with other child
It´s easy for you to label their child as “difficult” child.

Positive discipline

Never angry with your child in discipline way.
Never compare your child with other child.
Never label your child into "difficult" child.

That´s what I mean.
 
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