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Sunny I'm sorry this happened to you but am happy that things are happening so that he can't see you again.
No matter how much love is there, no one should be involved with relationship violence.
Remember to take care if yourself and relax, too much stress will make you go crazy. And when all the legal stuff is over and done with I suggest taking a vacation to de-stress.

Please do not post bail for him, doing that would get you deeper and more closely tied to him and the relationship.

Basically what I'm saying to you is to ;relax, take care of yourself, and make sure that emotional support from friends and family are accessible.
 
Bottesini said:
Up there in a really small town, you may need to go to a city where you can be anonymous.
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Sometimes small towns can be really protective, though, which in this case would be good. In a small town, everyone knows who you are, they look out for you, and if someone's car is seen where that car is not supposed to be, people might look into it.
 
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Beach girl said:
Sometimes small towns can be really protective, though, which in this case would be good. In a small town, everyone knows who you are, they look out for you, and if someone's car is seen where that carr is not supposed to be, people might look into it.
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In a small town everybody knows where to find you, people take sides, and cases like the one described often end in the murder of the victim.
 
I'd disappear for a while. Sunny, do you have famliy that you can go stay with somewhere else?
 
Beach girl said:
Sometimes small towns can be really protective, though, which in this case would be good. In a small town, everyone knows who you are, they look out for you, and if someone's car is seen where that carr is not supposed to be, people might look into it.
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on the other hand if you're the family or even the town's scapegoat, they won't make good refugees.
 
Sunny, very sorry to hear about this. You have a lot of friends here you can lean on and get help from. Just let us know what you need.
 
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Is that what is happening??

What do you mean "won't make good refugees?" Are they all fleeing together?
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" Scapegoat" is a role assigned to children or adults from dysfunctional families. If they're considered the "cause" of all the family's problems, people will be less willing to help those whom they think is the cause of the problem. And that's even if there's considerable evidence that the problem lies elsewhere.

If a dysfunctional family is well known in that small town and highly respected, people and friends will be in denial about the problems there so the scapegoat won't find refugee there.
 
Ah. I think you mean "refuge." Place of safety. Not "refugee," a person who is fleeing a place.
 
Thanks for clarification. I really was confused, thought you meant that Sunny and her whole family had to flee but for some reason couldn't, or something like that.
 
Beach girl said:
Thanks for clarification. I really was confused, thought you meant that Sunny and her whole family had to flee but for some reason couldn't, or something like that.
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I realized that people might not know where I was coming from when you asked that question. :)
 
Glad we've got that straightened out! ;-)

So, Sunny, if you are reading this - I hope you find a good place of refuge, and can take shelter and be safe. This must be a horrible situation for you. It's horrible for anyone, but you've mentioned feeling close to Dallas since you were both in pre-school. I can only imagine how much you want this to NOT be true.

But it is true, and I'm glad Dallas is away from you in custody right now, while you gather your thoughts and prepare for what you need to do next.

Hugs to you. Stay safe.
 
The term that I should have used, like the women's shelter, is go to an "undisclosed location." That's what I meant. A temporary place of safety.

Sunny, please allow someone to help you. I don't know what kind of resources you have access to where you are. If there are professionals in your area that can help, it's courageous to let them help you. You can sort out all of the details later. Your safety is first.
 
Thanks everyone...I at my mom house now. Not know what will do now. For today, just want try forget...
 
wow i'm speechless... i'm very sorry you had to go through that :hug:

i hope you know that there are many people who care about you and don't want to see you get hurt. please, whatever you do, don't go back to this guy. i HOPE you're okay now.. please stay with your friends & family and stay away from him.. he's bad news.
 
^^^Agree!!! At this escalation, you might not get another chance to survive. Please take care, Sunny!
 
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