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i am not going to be here for while cuz of roommate/ex-gf disconnected the computer just for talking to ladies online. Im at the library and computer only limited one hour on the computer which it is not enough. This is getting out of hand. I know we are not online but she feel hurt to see me talking to ladies online. Im not dating anyone online but she get jealous very easily. My roommate/gf and me are not dating anymore. we broke up a year ago. the reason why i broke up with her cuz i talked to deafzombiegirl which she is my ex-gf and she is mother of my kids. Deafzombiegirl and me been together for 7 years and finally broke up 2 years ago. My roommate/ex-gf said once you break up with someone I love i have move on and never talk with her again. Ever again?? What wrong being friend with ex-gf at all? If you break up with your gf/bf will you be friend with that person or you just move on and never talk to him/her and never be friend again with someone you love. What do you think about that? Place your opinion here. Thanks.
 
Your EX is a demented NUT. Give her a message from me - :fu: :asshole:

You will be some where great. As soon at the arrangements are made...
 
im going to check AD again tomorrow. i hope to hear from your reply soon. same time after 3pm EST. I know....i hope to go somewhere better than my roommate/ex-gf. Thanks CCsinned
 
RedWolf -

Have you tried explaining to her about being just friends and that she shouldnt be jealous when you're talking to your friends online?

My girlfriend and I have a lot of exes floating around - some we've remained freinds with, and some that we've lost contact with - some you can be friends, but there will always be a few that you can't stay friends with.

With DeafZombieGirl, I can understand you wanting to remain friends with her, as you explained, she is the mother of your children. Have you tried reasoning with your roommate about this, and that she shouldnt try to interfere with that relationship?
 
Well, You have to be able to talk to the mother of your child because you both share a child together; And I find that there is nothing wrong with getting along with the mother of your child, Isn't that what all our children would want us to see parent getting along for their sake? Your ex needs to let go and not to be jealous because it's over between the two of you. Maybe you should find another place to live unless you want her to control everything you do in your life. :)
 
When you have kids with an ex, whether ex-wife or ex-girlfriend, you have to talk some. And you have to see the kids. If your current ex does not understand and is not willing to try, then find another crib. She didn't catch you cybering did she? ;) :giggle:
 
DreamDeaf said:
RedWolf -

Have you tried explaining to her about being just friends and that she shouldnt be jealous when you're talking to your friends online?

My girlfriend and I have a lot of exes floating around - some we've remained freinds with, and some that we've lost contact with - some you can be friends, but there will always be a few that you can't stay friends with.

With DeafZombieGirl, I can understand you wanting to remain friends with her, as you explained, she is the mother of your children. Have you tried reasoning with your roommate about this, and that she shouldnt try to interfere with that relationship?
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i already tried to explain to her about this but she said i have to respect her feeling and it is her house and her rules. so i have to talk to men only no ladies allowed to talk to me.
 
Codger said:
When you have kids with an ex, whether ex-wife or ex-girlfriend, you have to talk some. And you have to see the kids. If your current ex does not understand and is not willing to try, then find another crib. She didn't catch you cybering did she? ;) :giggle:
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no cybering at all. deafzombiegirl already taken with another guy i dont know who she is with right now. i told my ex that the mother of my kids already had a bf but my ex feel hurt and said i shouldnt talk to any women who is my ex or friends online cuz she will think im dating with other women. which i dont....not yet.
 
I don't quite understand, if you two already broke up, then there's no reason for your ex to be jealous, relationship is always based on trust, if there's no trust, there's no relationship or friendship either..

I talked to guys on line, Roadrunner trust me 100% and knows that I won't go over the line, same goes for him...He talks to alot of girls on line and it never bothered me either...

It's nice to have friends on-line no matter whether it's may be a female or male friend, trust should be the most important part in a relationship whether you are just friends or in love with her.... :thumb: ..

Your ex shouldn't control your life by telling you who you should talk to or who you shouldn't be talking to....just be who you are and makes as many friends as you want...
 
Cheri said:
Maybe you should find another place to live unless you want her to control everything you do in your life. :)
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that is what i told him like two weeks ago.. cuz she is controlling him and and everything he does too... she took away the webcam which belongs to her because she was jealous that he was talking to other women... sheesh.. so i told him to sign up for a free webcam from sprint...
 
^Angel^ said:
I don't quite understand, if you two already broke up, then there's no reason for your ex to be jealous, relationship is always based on trust, if there's no trust, there's no relationship or friendship either..

I talked to guys on line, Roadrunner trust me 100% and knows that I won't go over the line, same goes for him...He talks to alot of girls on line and it never bothered me either...

It's nice to have friends on-line no matter whether it's may be a female or male friend, trust should be the most important part in a relationship whether you are just friends or in love with her.... :thumb: ..

Your ex shouldn't control your life by telling you who you should talk to or who you shouldn't be talking to....just be who you are and makes as much friends as you please...
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that exactly the point....she doesnt trust me. She still love me but we still not in relationship. We havent been together in a year. She let me live with her cuz she is helping me getting into RIT here in Rochester. Now she bitching at me about talking to ladies online so she disconnected it. Now im planning on leaving her and dont need her help from her. I can have someone else help me into college and someone who is really nice and doesnt get jealous at all. Trust is the main issue here. If there is no trust then how the hell that going to help me into college and why im still living with her for past 9 months?? doesnt make sense here at all. all she tells me that she still love me but i told her we are not in relationship at all. Now she tells me that she giving me time limit for living with her. She told me if i dont get into college by this september then she will take me to homeless shelter. I dont want to go back to shelter I had bad experiences back in New Hampshire. I only came here in Rochester to get help getting into college from her but i got pissed off she disconnected the whole thing after I came home from Brickfest in RIT after a good party. Now the whole thing is unplugged and the cord is gone and cant turn on the computer without the plug.
 
FeistyChick said:
that is what i told him like two weeks ago.. cuz she is controlling him and and everything he does too... she took away the webcam which belongs to her because she was jealous that he was talking to other women... sheesh.. so i told him to sign up for a free webcam from sprint...
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thanks feisty....the webcam is now processing. i hope to get it my webcam soon.
 
RedWolf said:
i already tried to explain to her about this but she said i have to respect her feeling and it is her house and her rules. so i have to talk to men only no ladies allowed to talk to me.
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there is a difference btwn rules and respect ... sheesh.. rules are no ladies in the apt.. fine.. but TALKING TO THEM ONLINE.. is your business and it is your damn computer.. she HAS NO RIGHT to interfere with that.. there is NO RULE for that.. RIGHT ADers???????????????? SHEESH!!! ... this is :crazy:!!! this is giving me the goosebumps and flashbacks cuz it reminds me of my ex fiance who was VERY ANAL/CONTROLLING!!! i will never be with someone who controls me.. period!!
 
FeistyChick said:
there is a difference btwn rules and respect ... sheesh.. rules are no ladies in the apt.. fine.. but TALKING TO THEM ONLINE.. is your business and it is your damn computer.. she HAS NO RIGHT to interfere with that.. there is NO RULE for that.. RIGHT ADers???????????????? SHEESH!!! ... this is :crazy:!!! this is giving me the goosebumps and flashbacks cuz it reminds me of my ex fiance who was VERY ANAL/CONTROLLING!!! i will never be with someone who controls me.. period!!
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right i dont want someone in relationship who is very controlling...i have bad experience from that too. Im not going to mention name who it is. but that what happened to me too.
 
RedWolf said:
right i dont want someone in relationship who is very controlling...i have bad experience from that too. Im not going to mention name who it is. but that what happened to me too.
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this seems like a pattern to me.. gotta break the pattern... yikes :roll:
 
well i gotta go cuz im at the library. please post ur reply and i will read them tomorrow at 3pm EST. hugs to all.
 
Aww I am sorry that you are going thru this shyt... But the main thing, your kids and your ex.. need to be communicate and get in touch to see how well being with your kids.. and baised on taking turns for visitations.. the gf you have now ex? is wrong.. she needs to understand the respect of your life and your kids.. well she is :sure: heh.. Have faith.. she isnt important.. your life and your kids are important..

:D take easy take care.. :ily:
 
whoa... she should trust u... she cant be jealous cuz of u has a right talk her as friend cuz of ur child of mother.. if she dont wanna u talk any ladies that mean she is not trust u.. oh man... i hope everything will be ok.. sigh..
 
yea i know....if there is no trust at all then why bother looking into my computer into my business. She said it is her business cuz it is her house and she can look in my computer looking in my conversations with people. She making sure i have to talk to men only, no women allowed. that is shitty.
 
I've been there before...

my ex and I broke up about last summer but told me we can still be friends and we are doing good as friends so far...as long as we still show some respect to eachother, then that's a no brainer.

However, it seems that there are times where she gets suspenious and curious about why I was late, and tells me what to wear and what not to wear, and what to look like and what not to look like...and even ask me who am I talking to on my cell phone...etc lol but anyway I still have feelings for her and all, and she knows that, and accepts that I still do and think we should just be friends, slowing down our progress by knowing eachother better and stuff like that.

she's a great girl, although she may be weird and immature sometimes, but I love her no matter what. :)

I'm not dating anyone else right now and I don't think she is either so we are as good as it gets. lol

honestly, if you feel that you are in complete control of your ex, then she is definetly controlling you, thinking that she has power to do whatever she wants and shit like that...

at least my ex isn't like that. doesn't control me in every way as possible...okay, MAYBE alittle bit but still...she doesn't tell me who to see and who not to see anymore. that's just disrespectful, you know?

I think you should try to have a serious talk with her and perhas even after that, just exchange your mates, if possible.

peace.
 
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