Nebraska law allows abandonment of teens

CrzyMeg said:
I think it is wrong. I been through that but at younger age. But if younger ages was abandon, can change easily but in teens, it too late to change. I see it before. So It is wrong. Very wrong.
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Would it be better to force them to stay in a home where they are abused terribly day in and day out? One trauma is much easier to overcome than continual trauma.
 
LuciaDisturbed said:
It depends on the circumstances.
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Absolutely. The teens I see that have the biggest problems are the ones that have been subjected to continual abuse and neglect day after day after day. The ones who have been abandoned may have issues to deal with, but it is much more manageable than the damage done by continued abuse.
 
jillio said:
Would it be better to force them to stay in a home where they are abused terribly day in and day out? One trauma is much easier to overcome than continual trauma.
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I myself been there in that situation, Nebraska should be responsible to putting with relative care or foster system. At least they have case worker. If you have any question about anything, I dont mind answering.
 
CrzyMeg said:
I myself been there in that situation, Nebraska should be responsible to putting with relative care or foster system. At least they have case worker. If you have any question about anything, I dont mind answering.
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Relative care is not always available to these children. And the state does get involved, but only after the child has suffered abuse to the point that it has become obvious enough that someone reports it. By then, much of the damage has already been done.
 
jillio said:
Relative care is not always available to these children. And the state does get involved, but only after the child has suffered abuse to the point that it has become obvious enough that someone reports it. By then, much of the damage has already been done.
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True but they have to learn difficult path like my eldest sister. But me, as I turn out great. I told police myself, no one else did. I was five. :lol: But child themselve need courage to tell police or teacher at certain time that not too late.
 
CrzyMeg said:
True but they have to learn difficult path like my eldest sister. But me, as I turn out great. I told police myself, no one else did. I was five. :lol: But child themselve need courage to tell police or teacher at certain time that not too late.
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But before you had anything to tell police, you had already been abused. Your story has a happy ending. You had family willing to take responsibility for you. Most abused children are not that lucky. We have hospitals full of teens who have been so horribly abused that they have become self mutilators just to survive. And for every one that is hospitalized, we have 10 more that are out there.
 
jillio said:
But before you had anything to tell police, you had already been abused. Your story has a happy ending. You had family willing to take responsibility for you. Most abused children are not that lucky. We have hospitals full of teens who have been so horribly abused that they have become self mutilators just to survive. And for every one that is hospitalized, we have 10 more that are out there.
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Me myself would gladly to take them in when i moved out :)
 
jillio said:
But before you had anything to tell police, you had already been abused. Your story has a happy ending. You had family willing to take responsibility for you. Most abused children are not that lucky. We have hospitals full of teens who have been so horribly abused that they have become self mutilators just to survive. And for every one that is hospitalized, we have 10 more that are out there.
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Not always a happy ending. It getting there. There still some kink in it i need to fix :lol:
 
CrzyMeg said:
Me myself would gladly to take them in when i moved out :)
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The whole point is, they have already suffered so much abuse that they are slowly killing themselves. You don't seem to understand the horrible impact it has on so many.
 
CrzyMeg said:
Not always a happy ending. It getting there. There still some kink in it i need to fix :lol:
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Much happier than the ending of being in a locked ward in a hospital because the only way you can deal with your abuse is by continually cutting yourself.
 
jillio said:
The whole point is, they have already suffered so much abuse that they are slowly killing themselves. You don't seem to understand the horrible impact it has on so many.
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I do. They need encouragement from teachers or anyone especially. They comforted me everyday, help me trusted them. Before, i dont trust adults at all. We as one group, need to help them. Me as a 5 yrs old, I trusted my teacher. They called police after i gotten hit by a load of lumber.
 
CrzyMeg said:
I do. They need encouragement from teachers especially. They comforted me everyday, help me trusted them. Before, i dont trust adults at all. We as one group, need to help them.
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They need a whole lot more than encouragement.
 
CrzyMeg said:
Yes that I do understand. We can help them. Hopefully i move out, i might do foster care program as well. :)
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Its great that you are thinking of doing that. But, unfortunately, some have suffered so much that they will never recover.
 
jillio said:
Its great that you are thinking of doing that. But, unfortunately, some have suffered so much that they will never recover.
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I see that point. Some need people who was victims of abandonment to help them to get through what they are going through. Oh this making me cry. :cry: But i get over it. :)
 
CrzyMeg said:
I see that point. Some need people who was victims of abandonment to help them to get through what they are going through. Oh this making me cry. :cry: But i get over it. :)
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No, some need professional help in order to manage their self abuse so that they don't end up accidentally committing suicide. Some need to be hospitalized to protect them from themselves. Some need constant supervision just to stay alive. What makes a person do such things to themselves? Constant, unspeakable abuse at the hands of the person they are supposed to be able to trust and upon whom they are dependent.
 
jillio said:
No, some need professional help in order to manage their self abuse so that they don't end up accidentally committing suicide. Some need to be hospitalized to protect them from themselves. Some need constant supervision just to stay alive. What makes a person do such things to themselves? Constant, unspeakable abuse at the hands of the person they are supposed to be able to trust and upon whom they are dependent.
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i been there. literally. Man you remind me of my step sister, Katrina. She going into hospital soon. Because of her birth mom constantly abusing her.
 
CrzyMeg said:
i been there. literally. Man you remind me of my step sister, Katrina. She going into hospital soon. Because of her birth mom constantly abusing her.
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Then would she have been better off having been abandoned to a safe house?
 
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