My Honor Roll Student...Got Suspended

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Reminds me of some bumper stickers I've seen..."My Honor Roll Student beat up ur Honor Roll Student"...or similar to that....
My son came home with a swollen jaw, and suspension papers for 5 days, fighting in the cafeteria....It's his 1st time ever. I was devasated.
Some kid tried to swipe his hat, he took it back and shoved the kid, so the kid punched him, then my son beat the crap out of the kid....bloody nose, black eye and a swollen jaw too!

MY son is a lanky kid at 13, but he's strong and smart. Knows taewondo, and goes to the gym 3-4 times a week and works out with my other 2 sons.

I've told him not to start fights, only to hit back in self-defense, and that is just what he did....

I don't feel he should have been suspended! So I will be at the school tomorrow to argue the case with the principal, turn in his science project (due Monday) and make arrangements to pick up his homework for 5 days until he is allowed back to school, in case I can't get him reinstated on Monday.

I am also going to try to get in contact with the other boy's mother and get the full story from them, as the other kid was suspended also. My son's tooth is slightly chipped, so it's off to the dentist too!

Never an easy job with raising 3 teenagers!
 
First of all, Glad that your boy is ok. It sounds good to me what your plan is to find out from there. Hope things are going to look up for your boy.

agree that raising kids aren't that simple but lots of loves.
 
Wow, sounds like some stuff that happened in my school back in the day. Only problem I have now with school, they want the kids to get beat up, and not defend themselves. Sorry, I will not let me kids just take a beating. I remember there used to be a time that the kid that started the fight, even if it was with words, was the only one that got in trouble. What happened to those days
 
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Pranks are common in school, and unfortunately not disciplined enough. Your son should have left it at that after taking his hat back, unless there were more ego-fueled issues he was trying to impress upon. Hope it works out.
 
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SCBassist said:
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Pranks are common in school, and unfortunately not disciplined enough. Your son should have left it at that after taking his hat back, unless there were more ego-fueled issues he was trying to impress upon. Hope it works out.
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I agree, somewhat...but there was more to it!...Before taking or snatching my son's hat, the other boy made a comment about what my son was wearing...he said...."ur wearing the Rainbow colors!"....then snatched my son's hat, which my son paid for himself, and it cost him around $30. ....My son had on blue Dickie shorts, a white shirt, with colorful designs on it, very popular these days....So....it all escalated into a fight, which the other kid punched first!

MY son also wears Skateboarding pants sometimes, as he is an avid skateboarder and a very good one....and those type of pants are very tight (stretchable). Personally, I don't like them, but my son does, and they are not against the school rules, so he's allowed to wear them.

So I feel and know that my son was in the right to return the 1st punch!...and should have not been suspended because he was defending himself from a jerk!
 
I dont blame your son for fighting back. It is in our human nature to defend ourselves. Glad he wasnt hurt more seriously.
 
That was an unfortunate situation but most school districts just automatically suspend both parties, thinking that is the best way to go......
 
Yeah, these things suck...

There are some students (or bullies) who don't care about getting in trouble. So, they pick an innocent victim and start a fight in order to get BOTH of them suspended. If they have a bad record, they might as well give someone else a bad record as well...

Their likely targets? Good students. :(
 
Some kid tried to swipe his hat, he took it back and shoved the kid
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The kid swiped his hat and he got it back.... That is when he should have stopped.

He shoved the kid. So therefore he gets suspended for fighting. He also instigated the fight by shoving the boy that took his hat


Now if my kid was cornered and someone was hitting them then yes, I can see my child defend them self.

Let us know how it goes today when you talk to the school.
 
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The kid swiped his hat and he got it back.... That is when he should have stopped.

He shoved the kid. So therefore he gets suspended for fighting. He also instigated the fight by shoving the boy that took his hat
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I agree. Shoving was the first aggressive contact.

I do wonder though, is there an ongoing history between the boys? As written, it seemed to escalate pretty quickly. Maybe something that needs to be looked into?
 
As for the "pushing or shoving"...the other boy snatched his hat, then made the comment about the "rainbow colors", so yes, the other boy was looking for a fight!...If someone snatches my hat or purse, I'm gonna snatch it back and push that person out of my space!

But, some GOOD NEWS this AM!...I called the principal, and talked for a very long time....The other kid has been in trouble before!...My son has not. And the other kid is failing, my son is not......The Principal has shortened the suspension to 3 DAYS, not 5 DAYS!....And I have an appointment this evening to bring in my son's Science Project and to pick up any work for extra credits and of course his homework for today.

I am looking to get the suspension completely thrown out!..And looking to get my son back into school tomorrow, come hell or high water, and I'll go as far as to the School Board to do it, as I threatened to do so on the phone.

There was no adult in the cafeteria at the time this happened! And there should have been several of them there to keep an eye on these middle schoolers. I dunno if they were on coffee break or what, but I will find out why an adult was not there at the time. The other boy picked a good time to start a fight with no teachers around!

My son is fine now, and will not miss any school work. He loves school, (some kids do not). And strives to keep his "A" average, so I'm behind him 100%.
 
As for the "pushing or shoving"...the other boy snatched his hat, then made the comment about the "rainbow colors", so yes, the other boy was looking for a fight!
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Yes, the other boy was looking for a fight..... and your son gave him exactly what he wanted.

I just feel your son could have handled the situation better. As for the suspension. majority of the schools have zero tolerance for fighting.

Good luck before the school board.
 
The meeting with the Principal went very well....The Security Guard that was supposed to have been in the cafeteria had gone into the bathroom when this happened. The Principal said 2 other teachers were supposed to have been there also.....but if they were, we're not sure of it. The fight was basically over with before the Security Guard came out of the bathroom....

I pointed this out, along with the other boy's determination to start a fight. So....my son returns to school tomorrow!...He's just missed 1 day, that is today! So it's worked out just great...my son is happy and I'm happy.

The other boy remains suspended for 5 days. When he returns, and if he tries to "bully" or start another fight with my son....my son knows now to find an adult right away!....If no adult is around, then he has every right to defend himself, as I told him that.

Thks for listening and all the input!
 
Great. Things worked out well despite all that. Clearly it's the other guy that's on noticed now. Something that's in your favor already.
 
rock on robin! :rockon:

but... one thing that puzzles me - wearing hat at school? that's allowed nowadays??? Back in my time - wearing hats are not allowed... only on Fridays.
 
Jiro said:
rock on robin! :rockon:

but... one thing that puzzles me - wearing hat at school? that's allowed nowadays??? Back in my time - wearing hats are not allowed... only on Fridays.
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I asked my son the same question!....Some teachers allow it, some don't...my son knows to remove his cat when eating tho'...(old tyme rule!). Hats are quite popular here (even I have several)...and my son removed his hat when we were talking to the Principal, out of respect.....So I guess it's up to the school regarding the hats, and the teachers. My son wears one everyday. Both my sons, ages 15 and 13, said it all depends upon how the teacher feels, some ask the students to remove their hats, some allow them to wear them in class.
 
That's great! ha you said, remove his cat. i know you mean cap. for some reason i did giggle. :giggle:
 
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