My brother not being allowed to use his cell phone

Or is his wife just standing between them as he is tired of daily reporting to his family. He is an adult, they have two children, almost certainly he is bigger than she is.

If it was important to him and she really confiscated the cell phone, he could walk out and buy a disposable and contact his mother/brother for help.
 
rebeccalj said:
You don't consider a hearing wife taking her Deaf husband's phone away as a form of abuse? I sure do.
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I didn't say that. I said, "Generally, unless abuse is involved, it's best for siblings to not get between a married couple."

Since it seems that force is being used to keep the husband from communicating with the outside, that would be an abusive situation, if those are all the facts. (We don't really know from our vantage point.)

I agree it's best to not try to come between the marriage but this is ridiculous what the wife is doing.
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People who are familiar with domestic abuse situations know that no matter how bad the situation is between the couple, anyone interfering may be treated like a common enemy. I hate to see the younger brother get put into that situation unless there is no other way. He could end up getting blamed for all their problems, and being alienated from his older brother.

It's the same thing that happens when the police show up to arrest a guy for beating up his wife. No matter how badly beaten she is, she'll fight with the police and try to prevent them from arresting her husband. People become defensive of their spouses no matter how bad they are.

I hope this isn't the case but it's a possibility.
 
Bottesini said:
Or is his wife just standing between them as he is tired of daily reporting to his family. He is an adult, they have two children, almost certainly he is bigger than she is.

If it was important to him and she really confiscated the cell phone, he could walk out and buy a disposable and contact his mother/brother for help.
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That's a good idea.
 
Sounds like you have two choices: your brother needs to get back his marbles or get rid of the woman who has his marbles.

Sorry bud, it was kinda like that with me and my bro. Thankfully my bro got a divorce after a while and things are a LOT better for him and he is happy and remarried to a good wife who takes care of the family. Never had a problem with the new lady.
 
Bottesini said:
Or is his wife just standing between them as he is tired of daily reporting to his family. He is an adult, they have two children, almost certainly he is bigger than she is.

If it was important to him and she really confiscated the cell phone, he could walk out and buy a disposable and contact his mother/brother for help.
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She just might take that phone away as well and then she'll think he going around her back. That might make the situation worse, if she is as domineering and abusive as this seems.

radioman said:
I agree. It appears that she been doing this for a long time. how in world did he manage to stay with her this long?
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Being in love with your abuser is really hard to leave. It might have began with her helping him become more independent. But then she took over, making him dependent on her.

I agree- nobody- I REPEAT- NOBODY deserves to be treated this way.
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ABSOLUTELY TRUE!
Now on the other hand I am surprised that littlebro havent talked to his brother alone and have a heart to heart talk with him to make sure he is aware that this is spousal abuse and should not be treated this way. Are there any other incidents ? If so, he needs to get this documented for possible breakup once he wakes up if this been going on for awhile.
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It might be impossible for him to have any private time with his family. Like I said above, she has made herself into a sort of domineering caregiver. And now almost seems jealous of the close connection he has with his family.
 
Bottesini said:
Or is his wife just standing between them as he is tired of daily reporting to his family. He is an adult, they have two children, almost certainly he is bigger than she is.

If it was important to him and she really confiscated the cell phone, he could walk out and buy a disposable and contact his mother/brother for help.
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He is cerebral palsy and I am not sure if he can walk out and buy a disposable by himself. That's another problem. :(
 
Ah, now we're getting more of the facts.
 
Wow... sounds like the wife seriously has issues.

Sounds like she had other things in mind when she was dating him.
 
If his wife took his cellphone away. but, what's about old fashion way to write a letter send mail? make sure if he is okay.

If no reply mail from him. You better report police if she abuse him or not.
 
another angle to look at - is it because wife's frustrated with husband's txt addiction - constantly txting back and forth with others and that she wanted him to focus on important matters at home? :dunno:
 
Jiro said:
another angle to look at - is it because wife's frustrated with husband's txt addiction - constantly txting back and forth with others and that she wanted him to focus on important matters at home? :dunno:
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I was wondering this same exact thing.
 
Jiro said:
another angle to look at - is it because wife's frustrated with husband's txt addiction - constantly txting back and forth with others and that she wanted him to focus on important matters at home? :dunno:
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That's still wrong though.
 
Jiro said:
another angle to look at - is it because wife's frustrated with husband's txt addiction - constantly txting back and forth with others and that she wanted him to focus on important matters at home? :dunno:
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Maybe but it seems like a drastic way of handling the problem.
 
How do the deaf husband and the non-deaf wife communicate with each other?
 
Jiro said:
another angle to look at - is it because wife's frustrated with husband's txt addiction - constantly txting back and forth with others and that she wanted him to focus on important matters at home? :dunno:
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And if you had a text addiction you'd be fine with the little wifey taking your phone away from you as punishment? Hmm. :hmm:
 
Banjo said:
That's still wrong though.
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^^^^^^ Yeah that. We are meant to be in romantic relationship as equal. Not Mummy to son or Daddy to daughter. Parent child. This cause imbalance and inequality to the relationship. I would never, ever, even think about taking my spouses' phone from him if I had spouse. I'm not his Mum and he isn't a boy.
 
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