Man, what to do.. friend related

I have a few guy friends who take me out for coffee with him, sometimes go to a drive-thru, bought me a stuff toy once which was cute but to buy something THAT personal is really crossing boundaries.

The good news is your girlfriend was honest about it, so that shows shes prolly a bit weirded out by the situation too.

What I would do is return the bra to him with your girlfriend there and tell him its not an appropriate gift to give. With her (if shes willing) to be there, wont give the guy the impression that your being an ass and trying to control her.

If he apologizes and seems sincere, than perhaps it was an honest mistake.
If hes offended, than red flag dude, not a good friend.

That's my take on it
 
Methinks this is a game set up by both ExR and Naisho just to see our reactions.

I am starting to think this site has a few of those 'games'.....
 
naisho said:
So I was minding my own business at work, then I got a text right after I was going to leave after the long shift.

It was my girlfriend. She said our mutual friend (guy) bought her a lacey bra with the kind of mesh see thru bit on top. My emotions are getting to me but I don't know how to deal with this guy.

Help?
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Invite him to your next threesome.
 
green427 said:
Methinks this is a game set up by both ExR and Naisho just to see our reactions.

I am starting to think this site has a few of those 'games'.....
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That's about what I said yesterday evening in here :)
 
since she is only your GF and not your wife then she is fair game.
 
pfh, need me parodying another one of your threads? :P

Dunno ExR to be honest, I hope he didn't take this one too seriously. It was going to be very one sided in his thread.
 
Sigh, I guess I didn't learn my lesson. Normally, I try to stay out of the relationship threads. Now I have another reason to do so.

Apparently people don't really want advice for their problems. They're all a big joke.

In all fairness, they should be listed under the jokes section so we can avoid wasting time on fake threads.
 
Reba said:
Sigh, I guess I didn't learn my lesson. Normally, I try to stay out of the relationship threads. Now I have another reason to do so.

Apparently people don't really want advice for their problems. They're all a big joke.

In all fairness, they should be listed under the jokes section so we can avoid wasting time on fake threads.
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:werd:

I figured that out until way later :roll:
 
Reba said:
Sigh, I guess I didn't learn my lesson. Normally, I try to stay out of the relationship threads. Now I have another reason to do so.

Apparently people don't really want advice for their problems. They're all a big joke.

In all fairness, they should be listed under the jokes section so we can avoid wasting time on fake threads.
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:werd:
 
Reba said:
Sigh, I guess I didn't learn my lesson. Normally, I try to stay out of the relationship threads. Now I have another reason to do so.

Apparently people don't really want advice for their problems. They're all a big joke.

In all fairness, they should be listed under the jokes section so we can avoid wasting time on fake threads.
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Many people don't want advice, they want sympathy or feedback to rest their case, if you've ventured outside of AD.
Myself for one, I don't go public with my relationship problems if there were any.

As for the real purpose parody aside, like I mentioned earlier, ExR was only going to see "you're wrong" and not why the boyfriend was angry. So, his thread backfired. This was the point in my version, so he could see the other side instead of completely missing the issue.

I may have been too crude with my method to answering his problem in using reverse psychology. If this is the case that it offends people, I apologize.
 
Maybe that's why he's so quiet since he posted the thread yesterday.
 
:|
I do know I probably stepped over the line, but honestly I'm surprised if it is extremely offensive that people are hurt.
It seems I have to watch out for stepping on the eggshells. Is it better to not deliver the 'truth' or rather keep quiet and not say anything about it at all? This is a question I find myself on parallels on often. But every now and then I end up going for it, I knew if I didn't, no one else was going to do it.
 
naisho said:
:|
I do know I probably stepped over the line, but honestly I'm surprised if it is extremely offensive that people are hurt.
It seems I have to watch out for stepping on the eggshells. Is it better to not deliver the 'truth' or rather keep quiet and not say anything about it at all? This is a question I find myself on parallels on often. But every now and then I end up going for it, I knew if I didn't, no one else was going to do it.
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That is one thing I am learning about this site. There are several rude and condescending members making light of other peoples' problems, and offending them while mocking/laughing.

Is that the mission of this site? To bash instead of to help others?
 
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green427 said:
That is one thing I am learning about this site. There are several rude and condescending members making light of other peoples' problems, and offending them while mocking/laughing.

Is that the mission of this site? To bash instead of to help others?
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:welcome: to alldeaf. You have a lot more to catch up with.
I don't see myself bashing ExR, never verbally said anything against him nor have beef for him. I think I even helped answered a few of his questions not too long ago. I can live with parodying.

For the bold, I don't know, each person has different motives, even the most gentle can, and have, one day let loose.
 
naisho said:
:|
I do know I probably stepped over the line, but honestly I'm surprised if it is extremely offensive that people are hurt.
It seems I have to watch out for stepping on the eggshells. Is it better to not deliver the 'truth' or rather keep quiet and not say anything about it at all? This is a question I find myself on parallels on often. But every now and then I end up going for it, I knew if I didn't, no one else was going to do it.
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it's just that to me - this "prank" equates to calling your mom that you've been robbed at gunpoint and then say "just kidding!"

feels bad, man.
 
Jiro said:
it's just that to me - this "prank" equates to calling your mom that you've been robbed at gunpoint and then say "just kidding!"

feels bad, man.
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...and for AD old-timers there was Byrdie....
 
Jiro said:
it's just that to me - this "prank" equates to calling your mom that you've been robbed at gunpoint and then say "just kidding!"
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It was more something like this.
Person 1: "I am not wrong in this am I? I know he is an asshole. "
Person 2,3,4,5,n: "You're wrong."
Person 6: "Here's examples of why he is mad (people who posted in this thread contributed) and thoughts he has going on."
 
Reba said:
...and for AD old-timers there was Byrdie....
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I admit I do feel that's a pretty big leap of the gun to associate what I did with Byrdie's past doings, but if that's set for you, I don't have anything else to say.

What am I supposed to do next?
Put my hands up and turn myself in?
 
naisho said:
I admit I do feel that's a pretty big leap of the gun to associate what I did with Byrdie's past doings, but if that's set for you, I don't have anything else to say.

What am I supposed to do next?
Put my hands up and turn myself in?
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It was just a silly joke. I would just ask the mods to lock the thread. I don't think we need to crucify you.
 
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