Making small talk with hearing strangers

And I was serious when I said I really don't talk to strangers. That is how I maintain my equilibrium and stay happy.

I have no problem to say "I am deaf" and walk away.
 
faire_jour, framing a question as either/or forces posters into an awkward situation. There's a reason lawyers aren't supposed to frame questions as compounds ("Were you present at the scene that night and did you murder X?") because a yes means a yes to both, and a no means a no to both, and that excludes the choices of saying yes to one part of the question and no to the other part. Your questions here have basically encoded how people should feel about deafness based on experiences. In other words you were asking "do you struggle with communication sometimes and therefore want to be hearing OR do you not struggle and are happy deaf?" Try to frame questions more openly, without encoding how people should feel in them and maybe you'll get the answer you're looking for sooner.
 
Bottesini said:
Better than to be unhappy. That has nothing at all to do with audism.
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But why does deafness equal unhappiness? And hearing equal happiness? The implication is better...than deafness. Just because of a few struggles?

Audism.
 
CJB said:
But why does deafness equal unhappiness? And hearing equal happiness? The implication is better...than deafness. Just because of a few struggles?

Audism.
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She didn't say deafness equal unhappiness. It was not implied either.
 
Bottesini said:
And I was serious when I said I really don't talk to strangers. That is how I maintain my equilibrium and stay happy.

I have no problem to say "I am deaf" and walk away.
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I think that is fabulous! If something makes you unhappy and it can be avoided, avoid it!!

If you are in a situation that consistently end with you being frustrated and upset, and you continue to do the same thing over and over, why would it change? If you are unhappy, do something different.
 
faire_jour said:
I think that is fabulous! If something makes you unhappy and it can be avoided, avoid it!!

If you are in a situation that consistently end with you being frustrated and upset, and you continue to do the same thing over and over, why would it change? If you are unhappy, do something different.
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Still got those blinders on?

Hey, everyone! In order for us to avoid this situation, we need to completely isolate ourselves 100% of the time. Let's stay away from all hearing people when we go shopping, errands, or the gym!
 
Moms are lucky to make it to the gym at all. No time to dilly dally. lol
 
shel90 said:
Still got those blinders on?

Hey, everyone! In order for us to avoid this situation, we need to completely isolate ourselves 100% of the time. Let's stay away from all hearing people when we go shopping, errands, or the gym!
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Bott just said that she choices not to engage with hearing people if she doesn't want to. What is wrong with that? What is wrong with saying or signing "I'm deaf" and walking away. If the situation makes you unhappy, and it is meaningless, why do it?

BUT, if you don't mind it, want to talk to hearing people, or whatever, you are free to do that too. The decision is totally yours.
 
faire_jour said:
I think that is fabulous! If something makes you unhappy and it can be avoided, avoid it!!

If you are in a situation that consistently end with you being frustrated and upset, and you continue to do the same thing over and over, why would it change? If you are unhappy, do something different.
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i know your were referring to someone else. but the way i see your question, like i like to say in my loud thinking,

"don't you think we oughta know by now" but i know you just want to know why. I can't answer your question becuase it isn't for me. :)
 
Anyways..back on the topic...

I started signed to hearing people yesterday and today. When I signed "hi" to one woman at the gym today after she said hi to me..she started chatting with me and I started signing back and she still kept chatting away. Uh oh! :lol:

I felt kinda silly signing back to hearing people but it was kinda fun.
 
shel90 said:
Anyways..back on the topic...

I started signed to hearing people yesterday and today. When I signed "hi" to one woman at the gym today after she said hi to me..she started chatting with me and I started signing back and she still kept chatting away. Uh oh! :lol:

I felt kinda silly signing back to hearing people but it was kinda fun.
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Are you SIM-COMing or just signing?
 
faire_jour said:
I think that is fabulous! If something makes you unhappy and it can be avoided, avoid it!!

If you are in a situation that consistently end with you being frustrated and upset, and you continue to do the same thing over and over, why would it change? If you are unhappy, do something different.
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Great! I'll just stop buying groceries and other necessities, cause it might involve making small talk with a hearing stranger. Guess I should forget staying in touch with family too, cause that involves a good deal of small talk with hearing strangers. Yep, just avoid it all!
 
shel90 said:
Anyways..back on the topic...

I started signed to hearing people yesterday and today. When I signed "hi" to one woman at the gym today after she said hi to me..she started chatting with me and I started signing back and she still kept chatting away. Uh oh! :lol:

I felt kinda silly signing back to hearing people but it was kinda fun.
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LOL. did you workout any chance? :lol:
 
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