Has the original poster clarified whether her son is Deaf or HH? I imagine we could give better advice and suggestions if we knew.
Reading this thread has me wondering quite a lot about my past. I was always in mainstream classes. In elementary school, I had teachers with a mic and a device around my neck to allow me to hear better and my grades were mostly B's and C's. Looking at my old report cards, they said that I was fidgety and sometimes didn't pay attention. I had hearing impaired classes every day and speech therapy, as well.
In middle school, once again I had HI classes and speech therapy every day, but all my other classes were mainstream. I actually managed to make A's and B's this time around, but it was a brand-new school, all the teachers were young and excited, equipments were brand-new, etc. I thought that had a lot to do with it. It was around this time that I discovered that the other kids weren't in mainstream classes and that most of their reading levels were behind their current ages. I was so confused and didn't understand why that was.
In high school, 9th grade, I had a HI teacher I saw at the library each day who worked with me individually because the school didn't have HI classes. That was mostly B's and C's with some D's because I was put in some Honors classes due to my middle school performance and they turned out to be a little difficult for me.
In 10th and 11th grade, my dad and I moved and the school I went to had daily HI classes. I should mention that all through high school I did not get speech therapy. Not sure why. My dad was going through some personal problems with drinking and running his own business and took his frustrations out on me, and I was confused and stressed enough with school that I didn't need his own BS. I ran away 3 times and eventually dropped out in 11th grade (got my GED later, though.)
All the HI classes that I took throughout my school years, I don't know how it was supposed to help. I did get to socialize and become good friends with other HH and Deaf kids. I was never taught ASL. Most of the time in those classes it was either games or doing homework or catching up on studies. I don't remember any specific HH lessons or help along those areas. The best thing to happen from a HI teacher was the one who worked with me individually in 9th grade as she had told me about SSI, which allowed me to earn a monthly income to help out with my needs. I still receive SSI to this day.
Reading all of the above has me wondering if I really missed out on a lot of help or my parents did the right thing by having me go through school and mainstream classes.[/QUOTE
For me, I got the answer to whether I missed out a lot or not was when I learned ASL at 25 years old and going to Gallaudet University at 28 years old. I was able to compare and oh yes, I missed out on slot big time by being oral-Only and mainstreamed. That's one of the reason, among others why I am against it for all deaf/hh kids.