love after marriage ?

mostly people who been still married for longtimes and always fell in loves all the times and have sex after wedding they had feel good as married couples.

and mostly old people who been still married for more over 50 years because always trust,obey,god,vows,whatevers on marriages vows as trusts.

mostly younger married couples had hard times on argues of marriages they talking about money,betrayal,affair,whatevers on marriages problems like positives and negatives of marriages low-esteems.

if i got married one days im must have trust my husband they dont lies everythings about anythings! but i will trust in god like marriages vows,money,whatevers on marriages vows because im 26 years old i can wait getting married and dont be rushed like that!
 
Yeah there the love after marriage is that possbile, or sometime not possbile. depend on individual couples. :)

let me step back, as basic logical concept of that pattern, hows possbile that you love the baby after born?
 
First, there is love before marriage, then there is marriage, love (then) can grow, marriage is a stepping stone for two beautiful people which 'love' stays intact (and stronger), building upon trust, committment, dedication, support, etc., no matter what outcome may change in personalities, situations, surroundings, health....

Otherwise, just like putting together and making a cake, miss an ingredient, it isn't 'that' good...thus, miss out on any of the 'provisions' of love within a marriage, it may not be as good as it can be. ;)






~RR
 
highlands said:
Thank you. We haven't met in person yet. I'm 32 and want to see a good woman and soulmate in my life.
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Highlands,

How do you know that there a love is possible between you and woman since you havent met her in person yet? in the fantasy imagine or reality? I hope you couple walking in realitic life see there chemistry love exist between your life and her life.

like hohDougRN's post #19

But I could be wrong, who knows.

anyway Good luck!
 
XBGMER said:
Highlands,

How do you know that there a love is possible between you and woman since you havent met her in person yet? in the fantasy imagine or reality? I hope you couple walking in realitic life see there chemistry love exist between your life and her life.

like hohDougRN's post #19

But I could be wrong, who knows.

anyway Good luck!
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That can be a good point, however, for some, constantly talking daily, whether it be by phone, on computer (via instant messaging, e-mails)...surely can bring about the sense of knowing precisely how the 'other' feels, thinks, wants, etc.,. Like for myself, I never met my wife until 7 months later, although, from day one, when I actually chatted with her via another online site...I knew I was 'in love'. Our chats enabled me to appreciate her in more ways which allowed 'love' to grow even though I hadn't met her yet in person. Seeing a person is a physical attribute, however, chatting/talking to a person is understanding, knowing that person well.

Also, with modern technology such as web-cams, video phones, that too can make a difference when it comes to 'loving' someone whom you haven't met yet in person. It does work for some, it doesn't work for others, all in all, love can surely come and work in mysterious ways! :lol: ;)




~RR
 
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I have to agree with RR about there is "love" before the marriage to build upon for after marriage. Make sure the person is trustworthy, honesty and doing the smallest things for you before and after marriage.
The smallest things meaning , like in the movie, The Wedding Singer, Drew Barrymore was going to marry the Creepy guy who didn't give his window seat in the airplane to her.
Little things like that really impress me just like asking that person for a small favor and coming through without being flaky.
 
XBGMER said:
Highlands,

How do you know that there a love is possible between you and woman since you havent met her in person yet? in the fantasy imagine or reality? I hope you couple walking in realitic life see there chemistry love exist between your life and her life.

like hohDougRN's post #19

But I could be wrong, who knows.

anyway Good luck!
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Of course ,I cannot exactly know what would happen after the marriage, however,I didn't said that I would directly get marry to her in a hurry. I just want to meet her and see what would happen.. and I know I don't have to marry her and she doesn't have to 'love' me..
 
Freaky Cat said:
well it happens in the old days.. when lady is bethroed to be married and they never met till the day of their wedding... then finally learned to love each other... its not the same as today... so different.... i guess we are not old fashioned anymore.. ha..
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well, you may be right but 'the modern fashioned way' didn't work out for me . I loved several girls before and all of them sucked for me :(... most of them weren't honest.. one of them doesn't want marriage.. I talked to her and tried to understand her views , she was 'cold' about marriage so I had to 'quit' . She doesn't want to have a man her life.. she said her heart is locked for love :| ... After all of those pains in my heart, the new girl 'appeared'... and sure I will not be blindly jumping to a marriage..I'll take my time.
 
Well... I tell you this much.... UMMM.... Ok, my wife and i were dating for a month back in 1985 and then got married for nearly 23 yrs now... Yes, first love and then marriage (i know it's rush marriage) as we just lucky that's all... But my wife's deceased parents were dating 3 days and then got married for 61 yrs but only a month shy of 62 yrs... They had their loyality, vows, trust and love (of course). That's very impressive for old folks that married very long time. We are trying to follow my wife's deceased parent's marriage path... :fingersx: LOL :giggle:
 
I know someone who dated her current hubby long distance for a year. They never lived in the same town until the night before their wedding. They got married and within one week, she realized that she is not in love with him and never have been. They have been married for 10 years and have nothing to do with each other.

My current hubby and I have been close friends for 3 years and we fell in love and now married and I still feel the same as I did before marriage. Whew!


I dont know if I ever met anyone who got married without meeting each other. Hmmm.
 
shel90 said:
My current hubby and I have been close friends for 3 years and we fell in love and now married and I still feel the same as I did before marriage. Whew!
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*off-topic*


That's great and hope the two of you will continuously grow closer, loving one another more as the days, months and years go by!! :)




~RR
 
Roadrunner said:
*off-topic*


That's great and hope the two of you will continuously grow closer, loving one another more as the days, months and years go by!! :)




~RR
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Awww :ty:

Yea, I hope so too...from my lessons learned during my divorce, I just appreciate each day with him rather than just looking into the future and planning each aspect of the future and forgetting about the present. That was what I did with my ex hubby...never again.

Same with u and Angel! :)
 
I don't think I can answer that question about love after marriage because my own marriage failed. All I can say that both of the couple should respect each other and put his/her spouse first before any other people. It is impossible for this marriage to work if it is one way street as in one is doing all the respecting and putting his/her spouse first while the other spouse do nothing of sort. If I do remarry in the future, I hope I do get to know the guy really through first.
 
Love after marriage

highlands said:
Do you think love after marriage is possible ? ( assuming that the couples don't meet much before marriage ,for some reasons ) just curious ? :P
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Absolutely,
give your heart time to heal and be surprized what you will see, don't be so quick to rush back into a relationship. but if you give yourself time to heal, yes absolutely,
ESTERSCROWN
 
EsthersCrown said:
Absolutely,
give your heart time to heal and be surprized what you will see, don't be so quick to rush back into a relationship. but if you give yourself time to heal, yes absolutely,
ESTERSCROWN
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Thank you :) of course,I am not in a rush..
 
highlands said:
Do you think love after marriage is possible ? ( assuming that the couples don't meet much before marriage ,for some reasons ) just curious ? :P
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In cultures that have arranged marraiges, often the couples do not meet until thier wedding day. Yet, many of these couples, after some time in the marraige, will say that they love their partner based on the life they have built together. There are many different types of love. Even the romantic love that most people use to decide if they are "in love" changes with time. There is romantic love, and there is companion love. The marraiges that last are the ones that evolve into the second type.
 
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