love after marriage ?

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highlands

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Do you think love after marriage is possible ? ( assuming that the couples don't meet much before marriage ,for some reasons ) just curious ? :P
 
Sadly, alot of them don't use it properly. Like this for a moment, why you have to look great before marriage and act differently after marriage. Glutton you want, rude to each other, claiming to be committing to each other, but mostly still hang on to parents and let them control and etc. It is sad. That is breaking the vows for each other. Marriage does take work, but need to be working together only for each other, no third or more party. Like let not the world put asunder.
 
christlovedeaf said:
...Marriage does take work, but need to be working together only for each other, no third or more party...
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I like your idea here :) since I'm getting ready for a marriage within this year.. I am trying to teach myself a bit about a new life .
 
highlands said:
I like your idea here :) since I'm getting ready for a marriage within this year.. I am trying to teach myself a bit about a new life .
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It is a good thing, when you and your fiance (or fiancee) be serious one another and hope you both be the best in your marriage. :hug:
 
christlovedeaf said:
It is a good thing, when you and your fiance (or fiancee) be serious one another and hope you both be the best in your marriage. :hug:
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Thank you. We haven't met in person yet. I'm 32 and want to see a good woman and soulmate in my life.
 
highlands said:
Thank you. We haven't met in person yet. I'm 32 and want to see a good woman and soulmate in my life.
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wow, really, well, I hope this is honesty to one another and hope you both be sincere. Like me, i met my bf thru yahoo chat, been together will be 4 yrs in nov. So it is one of the rarest and surely hope yours in the category.
 
christlovedeaf said:
wow, really, well, I hope this is honesty to one another and hope you both be sincere. Like me, i met my bf thru yahoo chat, been together will be 4 yrs in nov. So it is one of the rarest and surely hope yours in the category.
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:ty: I am surprised to what I have been experiencing,as well... no wonder life has surprises :P of course, honesty should be an essential background..I'm looking forward to seeing her but don't know when.
 
highlands said:
:ty: I am surprised to what I have been experiencing,as well... no wonder life has surprises :P of course, honesty should be an essential background..I'm looking forward to seeing her but don't know when.
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If I were you, rather wait for marriage, but first meet each other, be more safest way to do. Bec marriage is a serious thing. Divorce is overly high rating, bec lack of understanding of marriage. Highest part is, Finances, sex and in laws.
 
christlovedeaf said:
If I were you, rather wait for marriage, but first meet each other, be more safest way to do. Bec marriage is a serious thing. Divorce is overly high rating, bec lack of understanding of marriage. Highest part is, Finances, sex and in laws.
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you're right here so I want to see her in person and talk to her to see her personality at least a little and what she would expect from marriage.. I am not an extremely serious man but some things should be clear before marriage .
 
highlands said:
you're right here so I want to see her in person and talk to her to see her personality at least a little and what she would expect from marriage.. I am not an extremely serious man but some things should be clear before marriage .
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:) wise consideration.
 
well it happens in the old days.. when lady is bethroed to be married and they never met till the day of their wedding... then finally learned to love each other... its not the same as today... so different.... i guess we are not old fashioned anymore.. ha..
 
Love after marriage to me sounds like arranged marriage or bethrothments. And while in many cases, people can find love after marriage, but what about the people who don't? and end up hating each other? I'm personally against betrothments or arranged marriage, because it sounds like some arranged marriage can turn into horror marriages for both the male and female. That's Just My opinion.
 
Are you referring to arranged marriages? Some people have ended up happy and others have not. I call it "luck", nothing else.

If it was me, I would rather meet her in person many times before making a such commitment - marriage is supposed to last until DYING day....too many people walk away marriage casually these days, breaking every vow they made to that person and God.
 
I truly thought love existed if not increased after I got married. Boy I got duped! My ex wife is such a fraud. I fell for the all time fake out of all time! Guess some people have to get their lovin from two people. Well, enough of that BS.

Maybe, just maybe I will get to experience love after marriage again. Hopefully I can not hold the past too close to prevent this from ever happening.
 
hohDougRN said:
I truly thought love existed if not increased after I got married. Boy I got duped! My ex wife is such a fraud. I fell for the all time fake out of all time! Guess some people have to get their lovin from two people. Well, enough of that BS.

Maybe, just maybe I will get to experience love after marriage again. Hopefully I can not hold the past too close to prevent this from ever happening.
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Doug, what happened to you should not make you be wary for the rest of your life. Certainly she betrayed you and broke all vows - it has happened to me too and I was beyond devastation and bittnerness but realized that I cam revenge this person by living the life I deserve, not allowing that person to cloud my trust or judgement of future love potential.

YOU WILL experience love - it comes to you when you are not expecting it. :)
 
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