Long Distance Relationships?

Beach girl said:
Way-ullll - sometimes it was nice having the distance between us during the week, because I could go to work, work late when needed, do what I needed to do around the house, and no worries about making dinner at a certain time or making my schedule fit his, or his fit mine. It was kinda nice having a weekends-only deal.

For a while. We were both glad when it was over. But it wasn't all bad, either.
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I agree wit this too but like you said... We were bot glad when it was over
 
Awhite062109 said:
I do agree with you but it would be hard and one would have to be open to moving at some point.....But i also have to add this day in age poeple hav a hard time trusting others so.... I would be rough... so where do you live... and how far away would you date someone????
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Not enough trust in the world for someone who lived TOO far. Most human beings want and need to feel some type of physical closeness. Don't have to be up under someones behind, just close enough so you don't forget them. Once a month is not enough, and anything else just won't make a bit of sense for me.
 
There have been times that TCS and I have had a long distance marriage because of military duty separations. It was worse during his military service because in those days there were no emails, text messages, Skype, or cell phones for communication. Even regular phone calls were rare. When his ship was out, we had only snail mail for weeks at a time.

Sometimes I was the one traveling out of state for my Naval Reserve active duty periods. Again, a few phone calls and letters only.

I miss him now while he's in MI visiting his family for a week. :(

However, I think it's different for long-time married couples than for couples just starting their relationships.
 
KStiletto said:
Not enough trust in the world for someone who lived TOO far. Most human beings want and need to feel some type of physical closeness. Don't have to be up under someones behind, just close enough so you don't forget them. Once a month is not enough, and anything else just won't make a bit of sense for me.
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Like i said about 100 miles and i dont think i could do any more.... if im with someone i enjoy spending time with them, going out and have fun..
 
Reba said:
There have been times that TCS and I have had a long distance marriage because of military duty separations. It was worse during his military service because in those days there were no emails, text messages, Skype, or cell phones for communication. Even regular phone calls were rare. When his ship was out, we had only snail mail for weeks at a time.

Sometimes I was the one traveling out of state for my Naval Reserve active duty periods. Again, a few phone calls and letters only.

I miss him now while he's in MI visiting his family for a week. :(

However, I think it's different for long-time married couples than for couples just starting their relationships.
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Definitely agree with that. For dating, I wouldn't want to commit to a relationship where the other person was more than an hour or so away. How far in miles that would be depends on trafffic, public transport, etc.

Once you're married, you've made the commitment and most people would want to stand by it, as you and TCS did, Reba, and as my husband and I did. If we had just been dating - hmm, I dunno, would have been easy to find someone to date who lived a lot closer.
 
When it comes to military families, I feel a little differently because you know that man or woman is fighting for our country. It is still hard, but my patience would be different versus some joe blow in California. Still couldn't do it, but the understanding is different.
 
Again, it's a question of is there a light at the end of the tunnel or not. Look at the husbands and wives separated during WWII. Some marriages survived, some did not. That was really difficult, on the one hand, since the guys were in "for the duration," and no one knew how long it would be. On the other hand, there were SO many people in the same situation, the wives at home could find other women going through the same thing, and they generally had the support of their families and friends to get them through.
 
Wow, Beach girl, you are so lucky! Omar chose you out of all the profiles he searched.

:rofl:
 
long distance relationships aren't really fun as they appear to be. They can be famous for trust issues and jealousy. Trust me I've been there before and it was not cool at all. I rather short distance relationships so that give less drama.
 
I guess I don't want to anymroe my personal I think so my gf is trouble serious I don't care m ex gf I don't need to hear complaint :lol: I don't like my ex gf is very complaint sound seems I puzzled it i said I forget it, my ex gf don't answer words!I caught,!
 
Awhite062109 said:
I personaly could never have along distance relationship... i could maybe go as far as 100 miles but thats about it...
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I don't think anyone can. It's rare for a long-distance relationship to work out.

When I say "long distance", I mean at a distance where you have to travel far just to see them. If it takes you a few hours to drive there, then it shouldn't really be considered long distance.

Most people I know who were in long-distance relationships... didn't last. If they really wanted to make it last, they should stop waiting too long and take the next step.
 
I would consider a few hours' driving to be "long distance." Still, I see what you mean, it is a question of degree.
 
I'm in Chicago and my girlfriends lives in Michigan. It is about 3.5 hour driving one way. I often make a fun trip out of it. For example, I don't drive straight up. I would make stops at flea markets and/or antique stores. I've found a lot of cool stuffs at antique stores.

Also, if it costs me $100 in gas, I try to make sure I load up my van with bikes that I can bring back to Chicago and sell for more $. If I can make like $200 profit on bikes, then that is $100 extra $ for me after gas.

You can be creative!!

I remember many years ago, I was reading a book on I 80 Truck stop in Iowa. I had told myself I would like to go there someday. I ended up visiting a woman in Iowa. I passed that I 80 truck stop. I made a mental note to stop there on way back home. When I got to see the woman, she had told me that she forgot to tell me that she was engaged!! Who cares about her boyfriend? We decided to make love.

I did end up visiting that I 80 truck stop. Therefore, you can try to find some interesting landmarks to visit if you plan to trip a long distance.
 
dereksbicycles said:
I'm in Chicago and my girlfriends lives in Michigan. It is about 3.5 hour driving one way. I often make a fun trip out of it. For example, I don't drive straight up. I would make stops at flea markets and/or antique stores. I've found a lot of cool stuffs at antique stores.

Also, if it costs me $100 in gas, I try to make sure I load up my van with bikes that I can bring back to Chicago and sell for more $. If I can make like $200 profit on bikes, then that is $100 extra $ for me after gas.

You can be creative!!

I remember many years ago, I was reading a book on I 80 Truck stop in Iowa. I had told myself I would like to go there someday. I ended up visiting a woman in Iowa. I passed that I 80 truck stop. I made a mental note to stop there on way back home. When I got to see the woman, she had told me that she forgot to tell me that she was engaged!! Who cares about her boyfriend? We decided to make love.

I did end up visiting that I 80 truck stop. Therefore, you can try to find some interesting landmarks to visit if you plan to trip a long distance.
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Youre an adventurous little one arent you? You seem like you like traveling. Im happy for you.
 
I told no excuse stop it my ex gf said f and don't go around and blame on people or me for your problem! I don't think I was upset because I told rid the delete on text not worth commmunication I am very numberous she irration meaning, I am very innocent, I don't understand she said point, I told stop it complaint! she insult to me! my ex gf is not good person wisdom long distance not worth otherwise I am serious I strict to her I don't trust to her because she is very always complaint often I resist negative to often, I focus my life first to worth handle life single I want to decide dump up my ex gf is very argue me I said enough that is point my words I am serious! I don't mad but I have hurt because no sense! I don't understand what is point she complaint or often misunderstand communication not perfect!
 
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