That is rough. Knowing her family was crazy, maybe the girl shoulda told the girlfriend to skip this one. We know our families and most of what they're capable of. Especially with something like their opinion on her sexuality, she most likely had an strong inkling that they'd at least be cold toward the girlfriend or both of them. I wouldn't have chanced it. Not saying it's the girl's fault because her brother's a nutter, but still...just goddamn.
My family's iffy about the lesbian thing, so just to avoid any kind of conflict I'm having my girlfriend meet my family indiviually, one person at a time and certainly not right away, if at all honestly (if she'd be cool with that.)
I hate when stuff like this happens. I don't understand why the reaction, why the hate has to be that strong. Is it really that serious? Where do strong destructive feelings like that come from in a person? I don't think I'll ever understand. Hell, I don't even know if I want to. I can deal with name calling and bitchy looks, but damn stop being all scary and dangerous, homophobes. Take it easy.