Leaving AD
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huh? i lost.. what are u talk abt? which one post?oakbluffs said:
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It doesn't bother me if someone say they are leaving.
It is better for the Mods to know that...
Mods have to know and everyone have to know too...
in order to change everyone attitude... and
to make this AllDeaf forum better.
I feel that when some people said they don't care
if that person is leaving... then that would make
the person feels unwelcome here...
But if you tell the person, sorry you have to leave,
I hope you find other forum to suit you...
And that person willl come back after you say nice things.
That person will know that someone care about them.
That is my opinion.
It is better for the Mods to know that...
Mods have to know and everyone have to know too...
in order to change everyone attitude... and
to make this AllDeaf forum better.
I feel that when some people said they don't care
if that person is leaving... then that would make
the person feels unwelcome here...
But if you tell the person, sorry you have to leave,
I hope you find other forum to suit you...
And that person willl come back after you say nice things.
That person will know that someone care about them.
That is my opinion.
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Shiva said:bravo bravo i could not say better than YOU DO!!! Love the way you word it perfectly....I do agree...you definitely eat my words lol
Oh thank you, I was trying to think positive.
Or did you meant the poster who made this thread?
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Shiva said:
Aww that sucks.
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I was like :-o when I saw unopen thread and say to myself "Oh dear and other thread again" until I saw Roadrunner on aim´s online... I call him straight way but I was like 
when he laughed at me and said to go and see it myself... I did.
***phew*** you did not leave us...
GOOD THREAD, dearest DD!!!!!!!!!!
Yes, I´m agree with DD and Mommyof 3´s posts.
Well, I have a bad experience with other forum because I´m too different as them but I didn´t made my post telling them that I leave their forum for good. I saw posts there and got me anger but give me breath for few hours later then realized those people are definitely arrogance and bitch because they dont like my posts. I did not scream out to them in the public but give them my opinions/feedback with polite knowing to myself that they are just snobby and closed mind. All what I do is ignore their arrogrant remarks and also nasty toward me..... I know it´s terrible situation but I smart them off. I did not make annonncement that I am leaving but leave them alone and let them bitching whatever they want to. I realized myself that those people are tooo different as me.... Yes, I was hurt by their bitching posts but I ignore them. I accept it and leave them alone instead of bitch or scream on them there. I know that AD forum is the best and one for me because of open mind and share the problem, tips, etc. That´s how I feel like to open to share my concern here than other forum. It´s just my feeling.
Well, they threaten me and scream on me because I made one mistake. I was surprised to learn that they did not scream to other member who made also mistake,too... I KNEW straight way it´s FAVORISTISM.... because they dont like me and my opinions but here... is different... that´s why I like here. They lock those harmless thread there, I like to share my opinion.... with no bashed and insult from me but my opinion. They really dont have to post if they dont like my "dumb" posts (perhap for them I´m dumb) instead of lock the harmless thread... That´s why I rather to share my opinions here, not there....
Excuse me for get out of my chest here... I thought here is right thread for me to get out of my chest.... I feel much better now. AMEN
Anyway, I already told certain members to not post when they feel anger... Leave it until they calm their arger down within few hours or days later then they will be okay.
All what I wish is AD members should make up each other peaceful over those misunderstanding condition.
when he laughed at me and said to go and see it myself... I did.***phew*** you did not leave us...
GOOD THREAD, dearest DD!!!!!!!!!!
Yes, I´m agree with DD and Mommyof 3´s posts.
Well, I have a bad experience with other forum because I´m too different as them but I didn´t made my post telling them that I leave their forum for good. I saw posts there and got me anger but give me breath for few hours later then realized those people are definitely arrogance and bitch because they dont like my posts. I did not scream out to them in the public but give them my opinions/feedback with polite knowing to myself that they are just snobby and closed mind. All what I do is ignore their arrogrant remarks and also nasty toward me..... I know it´s terrible situation but I smart them off. I did not make annonncement that I am leaving but leave them alone and let them bitching whatever they want to. I realized myself that those people are tooo different as me.... Yes, I was hurt by their bitching posts but I ignore them. I accept it and leave them alone instead of bitch or scream on them there. I know that AD forum is the best and one for me because of open mind and share the problem, tips, etc. That´s how I feel like to open to share my concern here than other forum. It´s just my feeling.
Well, they threaten me and scream on me because I made one mistake. I was surprised to learn that they did not scream to other member who made also mistake,too... I KNEW straight way it´s FAVORISTISM.... because they dont like me and my opinions but here... is different... that´s why I like here. They lock those harmless thread there, I like to share my opinion.... with no bashed and insult from me but my opinion. They really dont have to post if they dont like my "dumb" posts (perhap for them I´m dumb) instead of lock the harmless thread... That´s why I rather to share my opinions here, not there....
Excuse me for get out of my chest here... I thought here is right thread for me to get out of my chest.... I feel much better now. AMEN
Anyway, I already told certain members to not post when they feel anger... Leave it until they calm their arger down within few hours or days later then they will be okay.
All what I wish is AD members should make up each other peaceful over those misunderstanding condition.
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oakbluffs said:
It is possible that you made a post that was not related to this topic, or was unsuitable for posting...
On some threads, the meaning of the topic is clear and you need to remain on topic in order to make your opinion seen. If you make your post unclear or not related to it, it may be deleted.
On the other hand, if you said something hurtful or damaging in your post, which you may or may not know it is guaranteed to start a flaming war, it will definitely be deleted.
You need to say ... "off topic" and then state what you wanted to say, then say "on topic" and say what you think is related to the topic itself.
Does this help?
Miss*Pinocchio said:
I understand what you are saying, however, when there has been hurt feelings or angry words, people tend to say things they don't mean to say and then they say they are leaving for good! However, what ruins it, is that they come back after a cooling-down period and act like nothing has happened. Only a VERY, VERY few have left and stayed away for good.
Also, when you have had harsh words with someone quite often, and it spreads throughout the forum over and over, no one is gonna really care what happens to you. You have to make an effort to respect each other and our rights to our opinions as long as they are not calculated to hurt anyone.
Like in an much earlier thread, someone said that those who had abortions were murderers and REFUSED to listen to why those had happened and the reasons behind the actions. It turned into a flame war, and there were many hurt feelings left with a lot of members. This is one prime example. The person left, and no one asked about that member who started it or even inquired about what happened to that member.
The only way to keep a positive attitude is to show RESPECT for each other and to try to read the post as the poster saw it in his/her point of view, perception or perspective. Saying that this is a stupid thread, disrespecting the thread maker or poster, or not even wanting to discuss it in a positive way but instead saying hurtful, careless or unmindful words will turn it into a negative thing and probably/eventually starting a flame war.
Does this help?
It doesn't matter if the person says he/she is leaving because of this or that, it's happened too often and most of the time the person came back - its the attitude that counts.
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Everyone is leavin' over favoritism in AD? 
Good thread, DD.
Good thread, DD.
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DreamDeaf,
Your mentioned "Try to have respect for your fellow postwhore."
My answer: Hell NO... Depend fellow postwhore who have great attudies postive or flithy attuides. I do not carried too far.. Just all I want to respect rest of ALL peroid.. Also some of them who have no respect me too.. Look listen, I do not need annocement "LOOK I'M POSTWHORE FINALLY I GOT 3K OVER" Should I ?? Nah, really not necessary about this. I've seen some people annocement their goals 2k or 3k or 4k wha..ever.. Just being acting "ego". Who need'em ?? "Just Forums discussion here."
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General Ad'ers members:
I do not care whoever who doesn't want me part of their friendship.. That's fine.. Whatever if they are talking about me behind my back "bad name" Find really quite none of true which "Have not made met me before". No Such thing..
Just this forum as long respect forum which postive or negtives remarks feedbacks..
Not necessary flaming others people for no reason.. Really quite ridcouisly.. Why forum stand for.. Freedom their opnions feedbacks postive or negtive things.. Why necessary attack person whoever their own breath opnion? Isn't proprite their behavouir. My behavouir isn't perfect as long being am I here for enjoy and reading postive or negivates things.. If you dislike their comments.. *be just simple ingore their staus comment and don't attack their comment*
I do admit truly miss Sabrina who has been here AD for pretty long ages and true colors that she is beautiful postive her way talk and humor sense here.. Now what happened her.. My understand that she is fusterate and upsetting being someone who attack her or whatever... Pointview.. she is part of victims.. IF you don't like.. *simple leave her alone and rest of other victims too* Why can't you attempt trying to spill your breath posion againist victims. If you really doesn't like "victim posting", then why you still contuine come over their threads..? Doesn't make sense.. *hmmmmmmm* Huh?
FAVORISTISM: I can smell someone who still contuines favoristism around here...
*tsk tsk*... I dislike strong word "Favoristism" Important human beings are same equal here.. but still tiny pieces bashing here.. Don't being your act pretend.. "I'm totally fine" but inside you really hate that person all you want bash'em.. That really helps you solve the probelm? I do not think so.
In my opnion here still needs "Tune up" .. refuse do anything.. I think you prefer keep in your mind "Paint their face contuines". That what you want ?
*ouch* btw just brainstorm feedbacks w/you guys?
Should I applaud DD all the way .. wow.. what performe your comment.. encourge them.. IT kind magic works for them adjust their repluation?
Actually somewhat.. possible yes.. somewhat not! How can I say more?
Your mentioned "Try to have respect for your fellow postwhore."
My answer: Hell NO... Depend fellow postwhore who have great attudies postive or flithy attuides. I do not carried too far.. Just all I want to respect rest of ALL peroid.. Also some of them who have no respect me too.. Look listen, I do not need annocement "LOOK I'M POSTWHORE FINALLY I GOT 3K OVER" Should I ?? Nah, really not necessary about this. I've seen some people annocement their goals 2k or 3k or 4k wha..ever.. Just being acting "ego". Who need'em ?? "Just Forums discussion here."
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General Ad'ers members:
I do not care whoever who doesn't want me part of their friendship.. That's fine.. Whatever if they are talking about me behind my back "bad name" Find really quite none of true which "Have not made met me before". No Such thing..
Just this forum as long respect forum which postive or negtives remarks feedbacks..
Not necessary flaming others people for no reason.. Really quite ridcouisly.. Why forum stand for.. Freedom their opnions feedbacks postive or negtive things.. Why necessary attack person whoever their own breath opnion? Isn't proprite their behavouir. My behavouir isn't perfect as long being am I here for enjoy and reading postive or negivates things.. If you dislike their comments.. *be just simple ingore their staus comment and don't attack their comment*
I do admit truly miss Sabrina who has been here AD for pretty long ages and true colors that she is beautiful postive her way talk and humor sense here.. Now what happened her.. My understand that she is fusterate and upsetting being someone who attack her or whatever... Pointview.. she is part of victims.. IF you don't like.. *simple leave her alone and rest of other victims too* Why can't you attempt trying to spill your breath posion againist victims. If you really doesn't like "victim posting", then why you still contuine come over their threads..? Doesn't make sense.. *hmmmmmmm* Huh?
FAVORISTISM: I can smell someone who still contuines favoristism around here...
*tsk tsk*... I dislike strong word "Favoristism" Important human beings are same equal here.. but still tiny pieces bashing here.. Don't being your act pretend.. "I'm totally fine" but inside you really hate that person all you want bash'em.. That really helps you solve the probelm? I do not think so.
In my opnion here still needs "Tune up" .. refuse do anything.. I think you prefer keep in your mind "Paint their face contuines". That what you want ?
*ouch* btw just brainstorm feedbacks w/you guys?
Should I applaud DD all the way .. wow.. what performe your comment.. encourge them.. IT kind magic works for them adjust their repluation?
Actually somewhat.. possible yes.. somewhat not! How can I say more?
Bullymom said:
I am sorry,
But, I have to disagree, None of it is true and matter of fact I do miss Sabrina but this thread is not discussing whom is to be at blame here. And second I really do not like people telling me where to go which thread I am not allow to posted, As far as I have seen my own posts were very polite and respond in a nice way in the victims thread. I do not take bashing posts toward to me asking me to leave a thread or PM from victims ordering me around. This is a forum for everyone of us 
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Cheri said:I am sorry,
Your comment:"This is a forum for everyones of us and nobody shall aksed to leave a thread"
My answer: In Fact.. yes but their made choice.. I know.. ain't easy for everyones.. I had to accept this like this..
Just look for brand new each of days within the future.. hopefully will come better and improve any thread general.
thx for your comment quite carried upright postive.
If a person comes up to you and say, this person is two face, this person is backstabbing you, and my question is, do you have proof or did you ever asked this person for proof? and have you ever went up to this person yourself and ask them if it's true? instead of believing it and blaming at the wrong people here, it would be wise to go up to the person themselves instead of posting it in the open forum and trying to make a bad azz out of this person...
Just because someone said this person is two face or backstabbing then I expect them to take a very good look at themselves cause I'm sure they're doing the exactly the same thing....
I'm not here to put someone down or start a flaming war here, but the main point of this thread is about leaving AD, it's not about who to put the blame onto, or who fault it is, or who started it, or whatever....Let's keep this thread in the right direction by showing the respect for whoever create this thread....
That's all I'm going to say :::holding up a peace sign:::
Bullym0m said:
Honey,
You missed my point entirely - I am not talking about specific threads. I am talking about having respect for EVERYONE here at AllDeaf. I said "postwhore" to insert a little humor in the sentence - it did not mean those who have posted 2k, 3k, or whatever...it meant ALL MEMBERS here at AllDeaf.
There will always be people that do not respect others here, I know, because I have been through it before, and I think I got it worse in some threads than others have, and I know some people that REALLYy got beat up in other threads - why? Because some people DID NOT WANT to respect other peoples' opinions, comments or topics.
Bullymom, you are someone that I admire, because you have always been positive and upbeat, so your post surprised and disturbed me quite a bit... and I do not want to see a flame war start up here.
You have to understand, that, in every forum, no matter where, when, or how, there will always be people that want to start trouble for someone, just because he/she may not like that person and probably try to force that person to get upset and then start a war...which WILL tear a whole forum apart.
No, egoism does not play a part of this... it is being respectful of all opinions, comments and points made here at AllDeaf and recognizing that we all have the same basic rights here.
Bullym0m said:
This thread was made because so many people IMed, paged, and emailed me over last weekend about leaving AD - not just because of one thread, but because of SEVERAL threads that went kablooey over the weekend.
Many said they were leaving for good, and I was kept busy talking them down and pouring ice over troubled waters... which is not the way I want to spend a quiet, restful weekend... but I can understand where you are coming from.
The basic truth is:
You do not have to be friends with anyone here at AllDeaf.
You do need to respect that we do have the right to type out our own opinions, comments and points.
We need to respect each other, as members of the forum.
We do have the right to express our thoughts.
So, my dear Bullymom, it was not about one member, or another member... it was about EVERYONE in general, and AllDeaf in its whole being.
There is no need to say... ' I HATE YOU!! IM LEAVING ALLDEAF FOR GOOD!!!'
and then in a few days, come back and act like nothing has happened. Because what it boils down to, it's emotions that have run amok and a cooling-off period is sorely needed.
It's better to step back, take a few deep breaths, and then come back after a while. I did that a couple months ago, and I was glad I did that - it helped me a lot and put everything into its proper perceptive.
No, it is not about just anyone. It is about AllDeaf, it's owner/administrator, moderators and all its members.
Does this help?