Learning ASL cause I'm dating a deaf guy ;)

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DiveGirlB

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Hello Everyone,

Just thought I should come out of the shadows and introduce myself, since I've been browsing this forum almost nonstop for the past couple of days... :wave:

I am a 28 year old hearing woman, and I had never thought much about deafness until a deaf man sent me a message on a dating website...I liked his polite and respectful approach, and I liked the fact that he asked me right away if I would feel comfortable dating a deaf man. We talked on msn for a while, and then agreed to meet for pool and drinks.

We had instant chemistry, and he started teaching me basic signs right away. We wrote everything down, and did a lot of communicating through touch and facial expressions. We had a great time together, dated for a while, but now we are just very close friends. But - now I'm dating a very sexy friend of his, who is also deaf!

I am learning ASL as fast as I possibly can, because guy number 2 does not have good english writing skills, and I really want to be able to communicate with him. I'm proud of how quickly I'm picking up the language, but I just can't seem to learn fast enough! :aw:

Anyway, I came here to learn more about deaf culture and maybe pick up some tips on hearing/deaf relationships, and so far, it has been a great learning experience! :D

Cheers,

-B
 
Welcome, B! *hands B a refreshing beverage* Make yourself at home! :D
 
Question...are you also teaching these two deaf guys english?
Do you really want a relationship that is one way?
All relationships are at a give and take, and so far as i can see you are doing all the giving. Granted the guy wants to communicate with you but if he is saying "only in my language" and not your, then tell him good-bye
 
Hmm...Good point! The first guy is very good at communicating with hearing people, so there's not much I need to teach him. The guy that I am dating now is fine with speaking english, but his vocabulary is very small. Up until now, I have just been using very simple words when I talk to him, but you're right, I probably should teach him some English....Even if you don't stay together, it will be good for him to learn some new words!

Both guys are able to speak to me, but I just find it easier to sign and write...I don't know why.... :hmm:
 
:welcome: to AllDeaf forum. Keep on signing with them and they need that because communicating directly in front of the speaker like lipreading is really hard enough that a deaf person can get lost and get left out if not understand what the speaker is saying. So signing is important because it is visual better than lipreading. I do have a feeling that you would end up having those deaf guys as friends because you are not comfortable with them. You are use to hearing guys. There is nothing wrong with having a guy friends. Now that you are here, enjoy reading and posting all the threads here. See you around here. :wave:
 
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