Yeah...and all those girls pixs that he posted....all slim and skinny....Why not try with a overweight girl or a chubby one?....And don't make any wise-cracks about her weight!....If you get along with her and enjoy her personality...then maybe later she might join the gym with you....These days, I see a lot of real skinny guys with chubby/overweight girls.....A lot of them are real good cooks....and of course!...will keep you warm in the winter!....
My ex gf was the overweight or chubby one. It didn't bother me until she depressed about it. Its so annoying when girls talk about their bad image. It pisses me off. I feel like never going to date a chubby one yet again because of their poor body image is disgusting poor attitude.
Go out and enjoy yourself, with girls or not. You don't have to drink if you don't want to (though it helps), you don't have to be a social butterfly (though again, it can help) but just sitting there and feeling miserable is only going to result in more sitting there and feeling miserable.
I don't drink alcohol and never will. Neither smoking. I don't go to clubs, since I'm an aspie. I don't like crowded people who drinks and get drunk. Not my scene and it seems pretty stupid if it is. I have poor social skills because I have lack of acceptance of these people letting me to experience the social environment. However, majority of people here at uni is always go to clubs and drink to get drunk. I'm not comfortable with this because of their poor communication is making me frustrated and giving me hard time. I felt like why you let me to come here and give me hard time? I never had a situation of sitting there and being miserable. I don't do that. Sometimes at social places I don't really have any one to talk with because people, especially women easily seek I have poor social skills. I don't know how they judge this.
Even volunteering is a good place to meet other people, as it's in my own thoughts to do some volunteer work very soon...but not to just find a partner, it's to be around other people and to interract with them.
I am volunteer-internship with JCU environmental sustainability group. It is one of my greatest passion of what I wanted to do. However, I don't look for a partner for this case. I just love the environment and nature. However, I had a lot of problems meeting people through the group. I feel that there is lack of connectedness and understanding between other members and myself. This year, the campus green team is running poorly. Lack of organisation, no meetings, no events. Only event I hosted was the earth hour here at the college. Quite a few people turned up. Social wise, only I talk to the other residential committee people. Then I went to the college green competition for $1000 cash prize, it was unsuccessful. No one turned up. Just none. Especially people told me they are definitely are going. But that was a pure lie. I have been advertising, emails twice that week, lot of posters signs, Facebook event page and the speaker announcer. No one turned up. I had a feeling that no one accepts the challenge of me being involved. I am the organiser for that part. I got angry more because of poor attitude flying around everywhere I go! I had a enough. I used to go for other college past 2 years, they not really even turning up because of similar circumstances. That college is way more drunker and sexual. Its so alcoholic. More like true stories of The Wolf Pack and American Pie series. Not very distinctive about that! Now one more semester of uni. It may get worse, trying to organise something that would be successful for my CV or portfolio. It get uglier each week. I have no idea what and how the poor attitude of people here at the uni. Its very large campus. Over 25,000 people study here, with 1500 live on campus. That just shocking. I believe that is way worse off than typical mid city universities like Brisbane, Gold Coast. Newcastle, Sydney, Lismore, Melbourne and Canberra etc. Also worse than American colleges whose are way more organised and better than ours. I am so glad I have one more semester left to get out of this terrible shit hole. I wish I can blow this place up.
Girls are more immature in college? How about those frat boys? I bet your perpsectives on girls are stemming from your religious background.
Seriously, just wash your brain and stop with the stereotypes. Don't expect to form a relationship right away. Make friends and get to know the people in whatever community you are in and let them get to know you better. Your friends in college are flakes, so wait until you are finished with school.
There is no biological deadline, so take your time. Obsessing won't make you happy.
Oh YES! Girls are way way way way more immature than guys here! Girls have much more freedom. They are so drunken and sexual easily. Their attitude is so moody and stupid. So superficial and lustre. They are like terrible bitches, witches, nasties and shallow. Guys not so much. There is no frats here. Not in Australia. Guys still get drunk and that, but their power does not reach to that immature level as women does. Guys have more control. Women here are like screaming, yelling, bitching about people, get drunk for casual sex with a football player etc etc as you know it.
What an alternative option of saying instead of being stereotypical? There is no way to come across that if there something is truly a fact, or something is exactly happening? I'm not trying to label people. I am saying as who they are. I do know what it is. I'm having trouble meeting people off campus because this city is quite similar to what the uni lifestyle is like. Its a party alcoholic environment. Because its a tropical climate.
I always wanted to get married in my 20s like my sister, my cousins and few of people I knew from uni. They are all seem very happy and successful. I just thought I should deserved that because I am good guy too and needs it. You can't get around it like this?
Matty, you're trying too hard to fit in.
You don't go around hunting to find girls. Girls find you.
I suggest giving up the "I'm the loser, I'll never find a girlfriend." attitude and do something more productive in life.
Didn't you say you go to the gym?
You could go try some cardio or swim or other things they offer for your gym membership and make a good use out of your time.
I am not trying too hard at all! I don't even go hunting at all. I going to say this, it just happens when I meet them in general. Especially from walking past them from eye catching scenarios here at the college and classes. And also few I meet and get interact in classes and groups. I have no intentions of asking any one a date because I wasn't even thinking about it. However, what turns me off is the ladder theory proves truly right. They always see me in wrong way. They see me I want to date and fuck them. I have not mention anything about dating or relationship or sex. Nor the movements of my attitude and approach. I have no idea how what caused them to think like that. So the ladder theory proves it right. I lost this game, terribly. Couldn't make new friends any more because of the ladder theory.
I go to gym and take a run freely every week. Have a look at my thread in fitness forum section to find out more information.
I quickly skimmed thru this thread and I may have missed a couple of parts so I'll ask you a few questions -
1. what do you think what seems to be a problem about you when it comes to meeting or finding a girl?
2. do you have Asperger's?
3. I saw your videos in other thread about BSL or something. I saw how you wave "hi". Is that how you normally wave hi to people?
Hello!
1. The problem I feel very confidently about they don't understand me. Of course I told them I have aspergers and hearing loss. They just don't acknowledge it. They are like said, oh yeah I understand it, its okay. That is a pure lie! Afterwards, they don't act as friends any more. The ladder theory proves it right here too. I don't really find a girl. To my point of my rant is they are ruining the natural circumstances by judging my disabilities easily. I mean every single of them I met in my life. Ladder theory proves that I am a pure loser.
2. Yes I do, I am coping it very well. Its only mild. I don't even care I feel to have it because it not my big problem. I am fine with it and sometimes I feel I don't even have one.
3. I don't generally say hi in BSL like that. It just a gesture. So, I just wave like a normal wave to a person who knew like walking past, across the road, in class and that etc. Nothing a big deal.
So, Matty, if you're reading this, enjoy your freedom now. When you get a relationship, you won't enjoy it any more.
Yeah, the price of having a relationship.
Well freedom is everyday living situation for me. You saying that I shouldn't have a wife because my freedom goes blunt? I see happy marriages still have freedom, they go to holidays, go to gym and take a run or walk in park or on beach. That is freedom. I find this comment is biased.
Price of a relationship is no difference to have it with your family. Your soul mate or life partner is your new family. Especially after marriage it makes a family of your own. I want this, including the 7 superb qualities of healthy relationship. I find women in general public including here at the uni does not acknowledge the 7 qualities. Everything is a pure lie here.
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Now I replied all of those questions above. Took me half an hour to answer them all with a bang. So, I tell you what is happening next. My sister, is 24 and she is getting married this November. She been together with her fiancée since high school, which has been 9 years. I liked this sort of relationship. This is what I really wanted, including wanted to get married in 20s. Now that chance is becoming slimmer than normal because lack of good attitude in general world. I can't find a good proper female friend any more because of their poor demanding ugly attitude against my conditions.
So, about the wedding. I got offered to be a groomsmen. I felt like WOW. So, a single and bachelor and V guy at the wedding being a groomsmen is embarrassing to me. Its a label of me as being success with a lady of future. But lack of that. So this wedding is not long after I complete my final exams which will complete my bachelor degree.
However, not long after the wedding. I'll be heading off to US and Canada for 12months VISA working holiday with the Australian program. I'll be starting to work at ski resort at Park City in Utah for 3-4months season. Then I will be free, hanging around the US and travel into Canada visiting Vancouver and Toronto. Now, this may be ever life changing situation to me. I'm a little confused how to prepare this change. Because it is so different, I never travelled overseas before. And I am going to my favourite country in the world, which is US. Since high school (hopefully I don't jump on conclusions here), I always talk to my mate (he is still now though) about my passion of American lady. I always have passion about them. I just don't know why. There are heeps of American exchangers here on campus, but they are all mostly Marine Biologists and drink massive consumptions of alcoholic as result from Australian people are forcing them to.
So, I have no such idea what is going to happen over there. I would highly appreciate of meeting someone special. Its too hard to come back to Australia and get so low on standards which easily let you to marry a wrong one.
Okay I stop here now, thanks.