it disrespectful to boyfriend? girlfriend go out party one night with friend

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my friend have boyfriend. he mad her, bec she go out with her best friend that she did not seen her long time. they go bar have 2 drink, then they go her house drink little more and smokes few hits of weed from pipe. they are not pothead, they smoke weed only like twice every month. her boyfriend mad and paranoid think she hook up different men, but she not. she faithful and not touch other boy. her boyfriend not like her hang out with her girlfriend and drinking with them, but her boyfriend always go drinking at pub every weekend not make sense!!!! is okay for him drink, but not okay for his girlfriend drink with her gals?
 
exactly he not trust her. he think she alway try get other men, but she deep love with boyfriend never think about other men. it not break rule if she go out have fun with her girls.
 
theres nothing wrong with having a couple of drinks a smoking a joint my friend ^ it sounds like the boyfriend has some trust issues
 
theres nothing wrong with having a couple of drinks and smoking a joint my friend ^
 
The only problem is, I don't believe it's just a couple of drinks and smoking a joint. Besides, there are already trust issues in that relationship to start with. No one should be meddling with the relationship though.
 
exactly without knowing the history of the relationship there's no way to evaluate anyone's actions/reactions
 
Might be a "controlling" factor here....even a trust/jealously issue....or the boyfriend does not trust/like the girlfriends friend....

I would not get into the middle of it...but if my boyfriend did go out drinking at the bars....and expected me to stay home...that's another issue.

Seems to me that if 2 people are together...then they should go out and do things together....and at least once a month, also be trusted enuf to go out with their friends too...sort of a "night out" to break the monopoly and routine.
 
As long as nobody is disrespectful to their partner, I don't see a problem with it.

The fact is you can't make someone stay with you. If she wants to leave, she will leave.

The guy is just paranoid.
 
A woman has a right to have friends and a life of her own instead of having it all dictated and controlled by her boyfriend.

if mine got jealous or angry because I chose to go out and have some fun with a good friend of mine, he doesn't really love me at all because if he did, he would have wanted me to be happy and have a good time.

I keep away from guys like that as much as possible.
 
MyNameIsNO said:
my friend have boyfriend. he mad her, bec she go out with her best friend that she did not seen her long time. they go bar have 2 drink, then they go her house drink little more and smokes few hits of weed from pipe. they are not pothead, they smoke weed only like twice every month. her boyfriend mad and paranoid think she hook up different men, but she not. she faithful and not touch other boy. her boyfriend not like her hang out with her girlfriend and drinking with them, but her boyfriend always go drinking at pub every weekend not make sense!!!! is okay for him drink, but not okay for his girlfriend drink with her gals?
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Why are you not minding your own business? Her boyfriend may go out drinking quite often while your friend only doesn't drink much. However, it's pretty obvious that there are problems in the relationship. Not just with the drinking, but the trust issues as well. Regardless, it is none of your business. Stay out of it is what I would do. Unless you want to lose your friend.
 
DeafCaroline said:
A woman has a right to have friends and a life of her own instead of having it all dictated and controlled by her boyfriend.

if mine got jealous or angry because I chose to go out and have some fun with a good friend of mine, he doesn't really love me at all because if he did, he would have wanted me to be happy and have a good time.

I keep away from guys like that as much as possible.
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That's right. Everybody deserve to live the way they want to.
 
Did your friend ask you for your advice? Just wondering.
 
please. i not try nosy, but yes she ask advice and i wonder if other people think same thing. i agree with most reply. it sound like boyfriend control and not trust her.
 
MyNameIsNO said:
please. i not try nosy, but yes she ask advice and i wonder if other people think same thing. i agree with most reply. it sound like boyfriend control and not trust her.
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No worries...but I would let them settle this themselves. If it's a control issue, then sooner or later she'll get fed up with it....Otherwise, it's her option as what to do about this. I would not advise her either way, that would put you in the middle...so I would just say....that you understand, and its best they work it out themselves....All friends get together and talk about their relationship/marriage problems...but real friends are not obligated to solve other people's problems like this.
 
i not want get in middle, i just listen her problem and offer advice but it her decision what to do with boyfriend. but if she want talk me then i always listen.
 
Boyfriend sounds kinda creepy, frankly. Personally I would not be staying with any guy who got his knickers in a twist because I went out for a night with a long-time friend, but then I also would not be drinking or smoking pot either.
 
my friend told me boyfriend kept text her whine that he think she give other guy b*j* and touch his dick. (sorry graphic language but that his exact word) then he force her take picture of boy with cellphone. bec he want see what boy look like, then he saw picture and yell at her bec he think boy look sexier than him. he very jealous!! but my friend never touch or spoke to boy. she ask me "what me do with my boyfriend, he keep accuse me cheat on him" i text her back and i say "do things show him you love him and faithful. show him you want only him not other man." but i feel think he is very psycho controller man. i keep mouth shut and let my friend decision herself.
 
Ick, ick, ick! She needs to dump that idiot. That kind of behavior never gets better.
 
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