Is this shallow/wrong?

SCBassist said:
I'd say good call, someone who would immediately start discussing their insecurities or troubled life are turning to the wrong people, they should seek professional help. Don't be deceived, I've seen beautiful women with emotional baggage you wouldn't want to deal with. Keep searching til your instincts tell you she's a good potential catch, but don't be too desperate, take your time to make the right decision.
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:gpost:

The thoughts above helped me choose between Jon and a Miami Dade motorcyle cop! The cop was so much FUN to go out and do things with. He had a lot of baggage that I didn't want to deal with. Jon was pretty much laid back. I was ready for a serious relationship so I chose Jon. We just celebrated 11 years last week.
 
IslandBreeze07 said:
:gpost:

The thoughts above helped me choose between Jon and a Miami Dade motorcyle cop! The cop was so much FUN to go out and do things with. He had a lot of baggage that I didn't want to deal with. Jon was pretty much laid back. I was ready for a serious relationship so I chose Jon. We just celebrated 11 years last week.
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Congratulations!!
 
BradB08 said:
I put my profile up on match.com about two weeks ago. I got a wink from a woman around here and while checking out her profile, noticed that we had a lot of similar interests, etc.

So, naturally, I sent her an email asking if she'd like to chat more. She gave me her Yahoo IM name and before I could add it, she had googled my name and found it. :shock:

Normally, I'd be creeped out by that. All she really had to do was ask. What I should have done was added her myself.

Anyway, so we start talking. It starts out good and simple, the way I like it. However, by the third day we chat online, she throws up another red flag: She says that she thinks I wouldn't like her, that I'd think she was ugly.

Why is this a red flag? It's an indicator of low self-esteem.

Anyway, that was the last time we chatted. I put her on ignore and removed her from my list.

Now, I'm wondering if what I did was fair or not.
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You dont have to like her, you dont need to be with her but its rude to ignore people out of blue. A short note of "I believe we are not a good match, I see no reason for talking any further. Take care" would be a nice way of ending your social relationship. If she started to bother you afterwards than you have a reason to block her. The fact that she is not a good match for you has got nothing to do with how you end a social relationship with her. Unless they are the ones who are being rude at the first point, everybody deserves a basic courtesy.

Good Luck in your search
Hermes
 
im tell ya about dating websites that not good for people using googles meet nice gals or boys online!

im been googles of boys online dating and im no longer dating websites because of subcriptions and renewal reasons but i trust my mother for good reason on listing!
 
jillio said:
That should be another red flag for Brad08. If someone feels the need to "test" a new acquaintence, it is another indication of low self-esteem, and inability to trust, and it starts the relationship out on dishonesty and manipulation.

To answer the orignal question...not shallow at all.
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That and she claims to have seen this thread, which just shows that she cannot trust people if she has to look them up and watch what they say/do.
 
BradB08 said:
That and she claims to have seen this thread, which just shows that she cannot trust people if she has to look them up and watch what they say/do.
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Yeppers! She has issues. Best not to make them yours.:cool2:
 
I say don't go looking. Let the opportunity present itself. Sometimes when I lose my keys, it is when I stop looking so hard they appear out of nowhere. Socialize in different settings and just be yourself. She's out there...and she may be right in front of you and you don't even see it because you're looking too hard. ;)
 
deafbajagal said:
I say don't go looking. Let the opportunity present itself. Sometimes when I lose my keys, it is when I stop looking so hard they appear out of nowhere. Socialize in different settings and just be yourself. She's out there...and she may be right in front of you and you don't even see it because you're looking too hard. ;)
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Yeah I hear this advice all of the time. I don't mind at least making new friends as well because that can also lead somewhere.
 
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