I went to a meeting today about AV and spoken language. The conversation rolled around to changes at our state school for the deaf. We have a two track option. You can do auditory-oral OR ASL-English. I asked "Well, what if you want both?" My answer was, in essence, "too bad!" I was told that we have to choose a dominant, primary language.
I spoke with a teacher of the Deaf who was trained at Gallaudet and she boiled it down to 2 choices.
As an adult, Miss Kat can function as a HOH person who lives and functions in the hearing world, but knows ASL and gets support from the Deaf community
OR
She can be raised with ASL as her first language. She would be Deaf and live in the Deaf world. She would use her "oral skills" (not fluent spoken language) to interact with hearing people, perhaps even all day at work, but at the end of the day, she would always return to the Deaf world.
This would be the decision we have to make, and we would proceed on whichever path we choose.
So, I'm asking, is there no such thing as true bilingualism? Can she really never be truly comfortable in both worlds and languages?