is it okay to be selfish in relationship?

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Is it okay to be selfish in relationship?

When someone feel overhelming and someone need you or depend on you. Is it okay to be selfish?

Person who thinks he or she is selfish cuz you don't think about her or him in relationship.
 
well not be ok cuz of depend their if they dont trust each other and SHOULD BE SHARE NOT TOOOOOO selfish if not then it will be plms..
 
MeYag2CAL said:
Is it okay to be selfish in relationship?

When someone feel overhelming and someone need you or depend on you. Is it okay to be selfish?

Person who thinks he or she is selfish cuz you don't think about her or him in relationship.
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No not really.
 
Not selfish to the point where the other person is always giving and the other is always recieving. It is ok to be selfish once in a while as long as it is not hurtful to the other person.
 
Being selfish in a relationship is unhealthy.
 
Oceanblue7 said:
Being selfish in a relationship is unhealthy.
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What about being selfish like telling our significant other to take care of the kids for one day so we can have a day of rest and relaxation to ourseves once in a while? Someone told me that was selfish. :dunno2:
 
no its not heatlhy.. my soon to be ex husband is selfish... never giving .. always tell me i cant do that or i cant talk to my sons father and my son. so he cut phone off. thats selfish. he doesnt realize how dangerous it is when and what happen if house got on fire or if me and my son are alone at home and he is at work. someone break in? what then? also i cant call my mom to check on her and make sure she is ok? due to her having copd and use oxygen? so how do i know ?? ugh.

he always buy foods and put them up and said thats for my work, ok. i always buy foods and share? when theres leftover i always put in tupperware so he can take to work for his lunch. and we cant eat his foods? tahts selfish. oh well.. i aint crying over that. lol..

whenever he get sick or back pains.. i always tend to him and fix him something to drink or whatever.. when i get sick.. he didnt tend to me? ? oh well..

i like it if we are in together.. give or take.. share and be there for each other.. sigh..
 
yes, but u don't have any job that's not fair for him. If u work hard earning ur own acct then it will be no plm. I'm sure he willingly wants to share with u whatever u both have to make a commitment.

That's why I don't like about ssi or ssdi becuz I heard too many plm for deaf ladies did not make a good life; even to male,too.
 
shel90 said:
What about being selfish like telling our significant other to take care of the kids for one day so we can have a day of rest and relaxation to ourseves once in a while? Someone told me that was selfish. :dunno2:
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call a babysitter or maybe your family or someone you know very well. go have fun and relax. i don't think that's selfish. my older sister called me, she and her husband needs to go out. so i did the babysitter for my older sister. my nieces understood that her mom and dad needs to go out to have fun for one day break.
 
shel90 said:
Not selfish to the point where the other person is always giving and the other is always recieving. It is ok to be selfish once in a while as long as it is not hurtful to the other person.
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true
 
It depends on your definition of being selfish.

Everyone has their own personal desires. It's something that needs to be communicated between each other. Not every desires can or should be met, but if it's reasonable... then they can be met.

I've dealt with people who had unnecessary selfishness. That's not good.
 
No it's not okay to be real selfish in a relationship. It's good idea to share thoughts, things, everything in a relationship. It's ok to be selfish once in a while, but not all the time. It depends on the mood, of course.
 
VamPyroX said:
It depends on your definition of being selfish.

Everyone has their own personal desires. It's something that needs to be communicated between each other. Not every desires can or should be met, but if it's reasonable... then they can be met.

I've dealt with people who had unnecessary selfishness. That's not good.
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Yes, it´s depend on everyone who are good or bad selfish in negative or positive way.
 
Lavender said:
yes, but u don't have any job that's not fair for him. If u work hard earning ur own acct then it will be no plm. I'm sure he willingly wants to share with u whatever u both have to make a commitment.

That's why I don't like about ssi or ssdi becuz I heard too many plm for deaf ladies did not make a good life; even to male,too.
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Yes I would work but I am disabled so therefore i cant work due to me having Meniere's Diease. I cant help if I am sick with it. Are you a doctor. so cure me?

I have good days and bad days. I go to work and it just hit me out of blue and my boss get mad that i called in sick due to that so i have no choice but not go back to work due to that. Thats when I found out I have Meniere's Disease. No cure. so I am stuck with it.

in case you didnt know.. SSDI is for those who CANT work due to being sick with disease or something. I am tired of those people who look down on people who have SSDI. they are people who CANT work due to disablity.

SSI is for those who dont have job but is ABLE to work.

so that is big difference between that.

My mom have SSDI and she have COPD. she cant WORK. same concept as I do as I have Meniere's Disease.

So be careful what you LABEL on people who are on ssdi. OK? thank you!
 
shel90 said:
What about being selfish like telling our significant other to take care of the kids for one day so we can have a day of rest and relaxation to ourseves once in a while? Someone told me that was selfish. :dunno2:
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Shel, that's not selfish to ask your significant other to take care of the kids. Its a responsibility working together with your significant other when kids are involved. Not at all selfish maybe the person who said that is selfish , I don't know.
 
shel90 said:
What about being selfish like telling our significant other to take care of the kids for one day so we can have a day of rest and relaxation to ourseves once in a while? Someone told me that was selfish. :dunno2:
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WHAT!!!! It´s not true what someone consider it as selfish when you ask others to take care of your kids for one day break. I see why not, because every parents deserve their break!!!!
 
Everyone is selfish to some extent (we would not be alive and talking, otherwise....)

It's when it is too much, or all the time, that you have to worry. Everyone will have a selfish moment... no person on earth is 100% selfless.
 
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