Is he Insecure??
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thats not nice. I think you should just kick him to the curb from this point on. If he wants you back, you can remind him he shouldnt be so blunt with your friends
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thats not nice. I think you should just kick him to the curb from this point on. If he wants you back, you can remind him he shouldnt be so blunt with your friends
From what she said, I don't think she ever had him in the first place. At least not the way she thought she did.
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Don't take his word for something that requires an expert like me.
I'm considered ugly, but often need to beat the girls off with a stick. Besides, I know beauty because I'm a beekeeper.
Post your picture, and I'll tell you the real facts about beauty.
What? You wonder how a beekeeper has an eye for knowing beauty?
Haven't you ever heard "Beauty is in the eye of the bee holder"?
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That is a terrible pun!
Chase!!!
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lol, Chase
Well, Sharan, just enjoy what you have with him... it seems that he is okay with flirtations for now. I think guys are generally wussy about putting labels to something (I am, too!). I dunno why your friend said that, and if it was a lie out of jealousy on her or his part.. or he just wanted to act 'cool' around friends. Which is still uncool, by the way. I hope that alone disqualifies him being worthy of your romantic attention now. You need to know you can rely on a potential partner for anything. If you are kinda interested, still, just play a little harder to get.. don't always make yourself available! I think that can be intriguing and I think some guys love competition and a challenge.
Well, Sharan, just enjoy what you have with him... it seems that he is okay with flirtations for now. I think guys are generally wussy about putting labels to something (I am, too!). I dunno why your friend said that, and if it was a lie out of jealousy on her or his part.. or he just wanted to act 'cool' around friends. Which is still uncool, by the way. I hope that alone disqualifies him being worthy of your romantic attention now. You need to know you can rely on a potential partner for anything. If you are kinda interested, still, just play a little harder to get.. don't always make yourself available! I think that can be intriguing and I think some guys love competition and a challenge.
A big problem I notice with some girls is that they want to 'force' someone to like them or be in a relationship just like they do. Women sometimes want to not see the reality that the man isn't really serious about getting into a relationship.
My advice is to not make it complicated than it already is. He clearly stated he doesn't want to be your boyfriend. When you're having a crush, you want to think it's more and mislead yourself. I don't think he misled you, but it seems to you like it is because you had feelings for him which can confuse you.
Just be his friends, and you'll be happier that way. Maybe he'll be interested later, but let him do the asking because you already told him your feelings.
My advice is to not make it complicated than it already is. He clearly stated he doesn't want to be your boyfriend. When you're having a crush, you want to think it's more and mislead yourself. I don't think he misled you, but it seems to you like it is because you had feelings for him which can confuse you.
Just be his friends, and you'll be happier that way. Maybe he'll be interested later, but let him do the asking because you already told him your feelings.
Chase - Theres pictures of me on my profile! I dont think i'm ugly!
Jillio - I never did think I had him in that way! I know I was rejected, I was merely confused by the reason for his rejection, perhaps thinking it was because he was insecure!
I do feel like i was mislead.. you date a guy, he flirts with you, wants to be in touch all the time, told me was looking for something serious, then out of the blue says he just wants to be friends... if thats not leading me on then can someone please explain what exactly is considered leading someone on???? When i'm not interested in a guy that I KNOW is interested in me, I make it clear from the off start that its never going to happen... i certainly dont start with all the bull***t flirting and suggesting we could be something more!
I have not tried to force any sort of relationship with him at all lol... infact since he said he just wants to be friends, i have not spoken about the situation.. my text reply to that was "cool".. i dont think i could have been any less pushy!
Im definitely not waiting around for anything romantic with this guy, it will be purely platonic! U think im ugly.. u think im ugly! End of!
So fair enough, hes not insecure! Good for him! Its just because im ugly lol! Again good for him! Cos im not!
Jillio - I never did think I had him in that way! I know I was rejected, I was merely confused by the reason for his rejection, perhaps thinking it was because he was insecure!
I do feel like i was mislead.. you date a guy, he flirts with you, wants to be in touch all the time, told me was looking for something serious, then out of the blue says he just wants to be friends... if thats not leading me on then can someone please explain what exactly is considered leading someone on???? When i'm not interested in a guy that I KNOW is interested in me, I make it clear from the off start that its never going to happen... i certainly dont start with all the bull***t flirting and suggesting we could be something more!
I have not tried to force any sort of relationship with him at all lol... infact since he said he just wants to be friends, i have not spoken about the situation.. my text reply to that was "cool".. i dont think i could have been any less pushy!
Im definitely not waiting around for anything romantic with this guy, it will be purely platonic! U think im ugly.. u think im ugly! End of!
So fair enough, hes not insecure! Good for him! Its just because im ugly lol! Again good for him! Cos im not!
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Well, if you never thought you "had him in that way", then you haven't been rejected! Problem solved.
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You can still be rejected by someone you wanted, regardless of the fact that you've ever had them in that way!
I wanted more, he didnt! I was rejected!
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He sounds like he does not know what he is saying, much less doing. You are probably his first relationship, it sounds alot like he has no idea on how to go about talking to you, so he will get insecure and start to sound indecisive. Are you more experienced? You pretty much have two choices here - either take him under your wing and 'show him the ropes', or move on and give him time to grow up.