Andy was a wonderful friend, a part of my family, and typically the
mediator in our household. If he wasn't working to pay the bills, odds are
you could find him watching football, napping in his chair, or quite
possibly doing something in between. When you talked to him, you knew he
was listening, which to me is a luxury and an unusual gift coming from a
deaf man. He kept the family together during the worst of times, and
during good times, he would share. More than anything he made my mother
happier than I had ever seen her in my whole entire life.
He had been with my mother for nearly a decade. Before he came around I
remember seeing my mother raise my brother and I literally hanging on
every last dime she could. I remember how lonely she was, and how it
seemed like there was this hole where you could see right through her.
Worse than that, there was an even larger rift between myself and my
mother. I remember when I first met Andy. I thought to myself "Who the
hell does this guy think he is?" I feel like a fool for saying it now but
it's true.
One Christmas we were looking at a very bleak time. Heating bills were
ridiculous, there was no way my brother or I could have gotten really
anything we wanted. During that time, Andy drove this really awful little
red car. I joked with him calling it the clown-mobile. Andy came into some
extra money that winter, and instead of spending it on himself getting a
car to replace the one that stuck out like TNT exploding in a snowstorm,
he used the money to buy gifts for the family. That's the kind of guy he
was. Sure, he wanted to win the lottery, and have money in his pocket; but
the only reason was so that he could give to the people he loved. He never
gave a damn about buying a Ferrari or owning a gold plated toilet seat.
His dreams were always pretty simple. Buy a house, help my brother and I
go to college, make my mother happy etc, etc, etc. Then again, I'm sure
Super bowl tickets wouldn't have hurt either.
I never understood Andy's fascination with football, nor really understood
football itself. Although, from time to time, it was always interesting to
simply sit on the couch just to see how animated he would be. Football was
a big part of his life. For the whole season, every single year, that was
what got him going. When it was over, he would already be ready to find
out who was the next big player, or which teams were doing what. I
remember many a late-night with him napping on his chair, and then waking
up in celebration over the score on the television.
During the hardest times of all, my mother and I would fight pretty much
non-stop about the most ridiculous issues you could think of.: Dishes,
hair dye stains in the bathroom, cheese's. Literally, the dumbest things
you could think of. Andy had a talent for stepping in and resolving these
things. Even more so, he did it in such a way where he wouldn't let you
actually know how stupid you were being. He didn't like making anyone feel
less about themselves even if they deserved it.
More than anything he made my mother happy. He accepted her exactly as she was, and accepted my family exactly as we were. More than that he grew with us, he lived with us, he became one of us. In a way I'd like to think
we became a part of him. We miss and love him as my Dad.
Why did Jesus take Andrew away too soon ?
Andrew was standing in the front of candle and music panio with other best man and ushers. My son, Richard was giving me away on the asile. I never forgot to see how much Andrew was smiling when he saw my wedding dress with glow with my smile face. I recongized, his tearful eyes.
Andrew was so happier and entire in our life. He was very special man and always be there for two sons. He never gave any negative advise. He has a good listener and heart to the boys, friends, family and children.
On November 6th, Monday at 1pm. I was walking into the church and saw a coffin at the church. Wonder where my husband was. It seems like, I had a bad dream as nightmare. Why did Andew in the coffin instead of stand next to the best man and ushers?
Why, why Jesus takes him from us. Andrew is very special person enter into our life. I feel like to ran to the clock to turn back, take him to see a specialist lung doctor to save his life. Why his heart was not properly working to cause a pulmonary edema. He does not deserve to die. He never complained or suffered. He was so much enjoyful himself to wear a wolf mask and gloves to make the clients laugh and giggle on the Halloween.
Andrew was mad because his car tire was flat. He supposes to get all four new tires for his birthday from his family and me. We promised him for his birthday, Dec 4th. On Wednesday, I was at staff meeting due to emergency crisic with a client. He paged me for asking my credit card. I would never say, NO. I always willing helped and made him calm and happier. He bought four brand new tires and balance the aligement on his car on Nov 1st. He came to the program house, how much he love me. I always be there to resolve his upset or mad.
He woke up on Nov 2nd, Thursday around 5:15am. He stated, he had a bad cold and weird to breath. Asking him to see doctor. Andrew said, nah will see doctor on Friday, Nov 3rd. He talked about DayHab to posts the Halloween pictures on the board. Asked me to check on the calander when is the Thanksgiving. I said, Nov 23rd. He cant wait to see North Newton High School football game on Nov 25th. I said, oh boy you are freaking about football. He giggled, that is me ! We discussed about Thanksgiving and Christmas. What will we do this year?
I left the house at 5:50am to drop my son off at work. I got a message from Richard on my pager. Said, meet him at the E.R. I said what was wrong, he did not answer me. I drove faster as I can from Natick to Milford. I notice, Richard's face was red and tearful eyes. I knew, there was something wrong. I said, where is Andy? Richard walked to me at the parking alot. He was out of control, Andy die he die... I tried to do cpr to save his life. He died front of me. He was so hycerically cried and emotional. We grabbed each other hugging tight. My body and arms become numb and sick to my stomach. I could not sign due to stock and numb for few hours.
I went to the bathroom alot that day due to neverous breakdown and shock. Doctor and interpreter came in the family room. Doctor said, I am so sorry, Andy has a pulmonary edema. I never heard of that medical term before. He explained me how it caused. It was from the heart failure. I said, impossible. I saw him at 5:50am. He died at 6:45am.
Richard said, Andy's last word, " Scary ". He walked into the ambulance. Richard tried to talk to him but Andy's brian had already died. He immediately gave a cpr to him, the heart rate machine sounds b e e p when the flat line. No... No... EMT said, sorry... He would never let him go...
Jason, Richard and I are very angry with God to take him away from us. We never understand why, Andy died too fast.
I wish, I could change the clock around back to take him to see doctor to save his life. I did save his life when he refused to ride on the helcopter. Good thing, God sent me to ER to pushy him go to Brigham & Women Hopsital.
We got married on October 8th, 2005. I saw his coffin at the church on Nov 6th, 2006. Wasn't I in the bad dream as nightmare or what ? No no, it is reality.
We miss and love Andy so much, he always be there for us. We feel so empty without him.
Why did Jesus take Andrew away too soon ?
Andrew was standing in the front of candle and music piano with other best man and ushers. My son, Richard was giving me away on the aisle. I never forgot to see how much Andrew was smiling when he saw my wedding dress with glow with my smile face. I recognized his tearful eyes.
Andrew was so happier and entire in our life. He was very special man and always be there for two sons. He never gave any negative advice. He has a good listener and heart to the boys, friends, family and children.
On November 6th, Monday at 1pm. I was walking into the church and saw a coffin at the church. Wonder where my husband was. It seems like, I had a bad dream as nightmare. Why did Andrew in the coffin instead of stand next to the best man and ushers?
Why, why Jesus takes him from us. Andrew is very special person enter into our life. I feel like to ran to the clock to turn back, take him to see a specialist lung doctor to save his life. Why his heart was not properly working to cause a pulmonary edema. He does not deserve to die. He never complained or suffered. He was so much enjoy himself to wear a wolf mask and gloves to make the clients laugh and giggle on the Halloween.
Andrew was mad because his car tire was flat. He supposes to get all four new tires for his birthday from his family and me. We promised him for his birthday, Dec 4th. On Wednesday, I was at staff meeting due to emergency crisis with a client. He paged me for asking my credit card. I would never say, NO. I always willing helped and made him calm and happier. He bought four brand new tires and balance the alignment on his car on Nov 1st. He came to the program house, how much he love me. I always be there to resolve his upset or mad.
He woke up on Nov 2nd, Thursday around 5:15am. He stated, he had a bad cold and weird to breath. Asking him to see doctor. Andrew said, nah will see doctor on Friday, Nov 3rd. He talked about DayHab to posts the Halloween pictures on the board. Asked me to check on the calendar when is the Thanksgiving. I said, Nov 23rd. He can’t wait to see North Newton High School football game on Nov 25th. I said, oh boy you are freaking about football. He giggled, that is me ! We discussed about Thanksgiving and Christmas. What will we do this year?
I left the house at 5:50am to drop my son off at work. I got a message from Richard on my pager. Said, meet him at the E.R. I said what was wrong, he did not answer me. I drove faster as I can from Natick to Milford. I notice, Richard's face was red and tearful eyes. I knew, there was something wrong. I said, where is Andy? Richard walked to me at the parking alot. He was out of control, Andy die he die... I tried to do cpr to save his life. He died front of me. He was so hysterically cried and emotional. We grabbed each other hugging tight. My body and arms become numb and sick to my stomach. I could not sign due to stock and numb for few hours.
I went to the bathroom alot that day due to nervous breakdown and shock. Doctor and interpreter came in the family room. Doctor said, I am so sorry, Andy has a pulmonary edema. I never heard of that medical term before. He explained me how it caused. It was from the heart failure. I said, impossible. I saw him at 5:50am. He died at 6:45am.
Richard said, Andy's last word, " Scary ". He walked into the ambulance. Richard tried to talk to him but Andy's brain had already died. He immediately gave a cpr to him, the heart rate machine sounds b e e p when the flat line. No... No... EMT said, sorry... He would never let him go...
Jason, Richard and I are very angry with God to take him away from us. We never understand why, Andy died too fast.
I wish, I could change the clock around back to take him to see doctor to save his life. I did save his life when he refused to ride on the helicopter. Good thing, God sent me to ER to pushy him go to Brigham & Women Hospital.
We got married on October 8th, 2005. I saw his coffin at the church on Nov 6th, 2006. Wasn't I in the bad dream as nightmare or what ? No no, it is reality.
We miss and love Andy so much, he always be there for us. We feel so empty without him.
I read this and make me crying!.. May be have there God have reason to take him early... I was angry with god when I was 12 yrs old that My Sweet Dad passed away! You and your family will forgive God later!
((( hugs )))
Why did Jesus take Andrew away too soon ?
Andrew was standing in the front of candle and music piano with other best man and ushers. My son, Richard was giving me away on the aisle. I never forgot to see how much Andrew was smiling when he saw my wedding dress with glow with my smile face. I recognized his tearful eyes.
Andrew was so happier and entire in our life. He was very special man and always be there for two sons. He never gave any negative advice. He has a good listener and heart to the boys, friends, family and children.
On November 6th, Monday at 1pm. I was walking into the church and saw a coffin at the church. Wonder where my husband was. It seems like, I had a bad dream as nightmare. Why did Andrew in the coffin instead of stand next to the best man and ushers?
Why, why Jesus takes him from us. Andrew is very special person enter into our life. I feel like to ran to the clock to turn back, take him to see a specialist lung doctor to save his life. Why his heart was not properly working to cause a pulmonary edema. He does not deserve to die. He never complained or suffered. He was so much enjoy himself to wear a wolf mask and gloves to make the clients laugh and giggle on the Halloween.
Andrew was mad because his car tire was flat. He supposes to get all four new tires for his birthday from his family and me. We promised him for his birthday, Dec 4th. On Wednesday, I was at staff meeting due to emergency crisis with a client. He paged me for asking my credit card. I would never say, NO. I always willing helped and made him calm and happier. He bought four brand new tires and balance the alignment on his car on Nov 1st. He came to the program house, how much he love me. I always be there to resolve his upset or mad.
He woke up on Nov 2nd, Thursday around 5:15am. He stated, he had a bad cold and weird to breath. Asking him to see doctor. Andrew said, nah will see doctor on Friday, Nov 3rd. He talked about DayHab to posts the Halloween pictures on the board. Asked me to check on the calendar when is the Thanksgiving. I said, Nov 23rd. He can’t wait to see North Newton High School football game on Nov 25th. I said, oh boy you are freaking about football. He giggled, that is me ! We discussed about Thanksgiving and Christmas. What will we do this year?
I left the house at 5:50am to drop my son off at work. I got a message from Richard on my pager. Said, meet him at the E.R. I said what was wrong, he did not answer me. I drove faster as I can from Natick to Milford. I notice, Richard's face was red and tearful eyes. I knew, there was something wrong. I said, where is Andy? Richard walked to me at the parking alot. He was out of control, Andy die he die... I tried to do cpr to save his life. He died front of me. He was so hysterically cried and emotional. We grabbed each other hugging tight. My body and arms become numb and sick to my stomach. I could not sign due to stock and numb for few hours.
I went to the bathroom alot that day due to nervous breakdown and shock. Doctor and interpreter came in the family room. Doctor said, I am so sorry, Andy has a pulmonary edema. I never heard of that medical term before. He explained me how it caused. It was from the heart failure. I said, impossible. I saw him at 5:50am. He died at 6:45am.
Richard said, Andy's last word, " Scary ". He walked into the ambulance. Richard tried to talk to him but Andy's brain had already died. He immediately gave a cpr to him, the heart rate machine sounds b e e p when the flat line. No... No... EMT said, sorry... He would never let him go...
Jason, Richard and I are very angry with God to take him away from us. We never understand why, Andy died too fast.
I wish, I could change the clock around back to take him to see doctor to save his life. I did save his life when he refused to ride on the helicopter. Good thing, God sent me to ER to pushy him go to Brigham & Women Hospital.
We got married on October 8th, 2005. I saw his coffin at the church on Nov 6th, 2006. Wasn't I in the bad dream as nightmare or what ? No no, it is reality.
We miss and love Andy so much, he always be there for us. We feel so empty without him.