I'm a hearing girl...I would love dating deaf boys?

[Frisky Feline]

I think she got the message. Just leave her alone because she is not even 18 yet. Go easy on her. I m sure she got the message.

 

[walrus]

wow you guys are mean rawr!!!!! *drinks a soda pop* if you find her offensive dont read what hearing girl types, that pisses me off more than anything, if you get offended get away from the person offending you nuff said, hearinggirl my advice, dont date someone cuz there deaf, black, white brown purple, rainbow sherbet colored, blind, an ox or a chicken you need to go after personality more than anything. me personally would like a girl (any girl hint hint would like to date me because of my personality, not cuz I wear hearing aids, know sign and can swim and throw rocks at hearing people when they touch my hearing aids (>.>) (just threwthat last one in there) and also if you beleive half of what you typed hearinggirl i think you need to see a psychiatrist asap.

 

[jillio]

Ok listen, I am seriously no appreciating these comments. I can still here bc it hurts too much so I stop. I am weak. I am weak and depressed. Please just stop. I am sorry I even made this thread. I am done. The guy I said yes to turned out to use me. I am really not looking to date anybody for a while thanks to him. In a few weeks I might be moving to a whole new state so who knows what will happen! But please, saying mean and hurtful things will not make me better, they will only make me worse. None of you know my personality or attitude or anything about me other then the few things that I have mentioned here. Please stop judging me. Words hurt. Word hurt ALOT.

Again, seek counseling. You are in need of mental health therapy. That is not mean. It is the truth, and it is the best thing you could have happen.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

Again, seek counseling. You are in need of mental health therapy. That is not mean. It is the truth, and it is the best thing you could have happen.

She wrote that she is depressed, and this should not be taken lightly. If she does not feel comfortable telling her parents she should find an adult that she does trust and have them help her talk to her parents.

 

[purplewowies]

If you lived my life, you'd understand.

I felt like addressing this. Regardless of if you are lying about any other point you're making, your home life wouldn't have made you do these things unless you were mentally ill. I'm a sensory sensitive Aspie with almost zero friends whose father (from my point of view) was abusive. I had a very abusive ex-stepmother (and stepsister), most of the people in my extended family where I grew up were certifiably crazy, and my brother has such a bad temper that he has seriously hurt me before on more than one occasion. There's more to my life story, but I'm not gonna tell it here.

People have called me obsessed with ASL and Deafness/Deaf culture. When I was evaluated for Asperger syndrome, it was said by the evaluators to be my special interest (but honestly, *I* think my special interest is the brain/brain disorders. Maybe I have two?)

Point is, 99.9999999999999999999999999999999999999999999999% of the time, I do not want to be deaf.

I believe that what you are telling us here points to you having a mental disorder, and perhaps you might get checked out. If there's nothing wrong, there's nothing wrong. If there is something up, it will be good that you will have gone. Better safe than sorry.

If you think I'm being mean or patronizing, I'm not. I'm being blunt.

 

[SilentRider]

Hmmm, interesting post.. what I'm picking up is she is emotionally developed with visual language, it fills hwr gaps inside... And still growing up finding herself etc.. a good mature friend who is a good listener and guide could benefit.. hello we are deaf and not in face to face conversation.. u gotta take it w/a pitch of salt in stuff we say.. good luck finding a good deaf friend in person. Smile

 

[rebeccalj]

Ok listen, I am seriously no appreciating these comments. I can still here bc it hurts too much so I stop. I am weak. I am weak and depressed. Please just stop. I am sorry I even made this thread. I am done. The guy I said yes to turned out to use me. I am really not looking to date anybody for a while thanks to him. In a few weeks I might be moving to a whole new state so who knows what will happen! But please, saying mean and hurtful things will not make me better, they will only make me worse. None of you know my personality or attitude or anything about me other then the few things that I have mentioned here. Please stop judging me. Words hurt. Word hurt ALOT.

So, let me get this straight. Since August 19th, your first post, you have gone through a rollercoaster of having an obsession about having an *amazing* relationship with a deaf boyfriend, to wanting to hurt yourself so that *you* are deaf, to putting deaf contraption in your ears, to deciding to go out with your "BEST GUY" friend who, apparently isn't a best guy friend afterall because you didn't see that his character was as 'user' to being single to now moving to a different state all in, geez, in 12 days?

WOW!!

 

[Sunshine]

Well, drama certainly keeps one on their toes.

 

[Beowulf]

So, let me get this straight. Since August 19th, your first post, you have gone through a rollercoaster of having an obsession about having an *amazing* relationship with a deaf boyfriend, to wanting to hurt yourself so that *you* are deaf, to putting deaf contraption in your ears, to deciding to go out with your "BEST GUY" friend who, apparently isn't a best guy friend afterall because you didn't see that his character was as 'user' to being single to now moving to a different state all in, geez, in 12 days?

WOW!!

A lot happens in high school.

 

[Shoshana]

"poor me poor me!"

It seems like this is what she wants....attention. Given I dont know whats going on in her life, but she did admit to being depressed--like half the contry is dignosed with depression but im sure not even a handful try to make themselves deaf from it. We all have stuff that go on in our personal lives--but it seems you feed off the drama. It seems like Bipolar, rollarcoster of ups and downs....I am not a doctor.

I think she trying to hurt herself, go deaf to get pitty from people. not cool. I dont pitty you at all--Ive been through hell in back in my childhood between abuse, and everything--ive never dont drugs, or anything to intentially hurt myself.

People are as strong as they want to believe--so telling yourself you are weak means you are.

I know people saying to go easy on her because she is under 18 but seriously, someone need to say it.

If you dont trust your parents to turn to for assistance then goto a teacher, counsler, who ever. I didnt trust to turn to my parents to tell them about the abuse and stuff--I turned to my interpreter who I trusted to help me.

but if you think you will get pitty for hurting yourself, trying to make yourself deaf or whatever--thats the wrong kind of attention you want because people will look at you and think "why isent she in the hospital?" or will not want to associate with you because too negative and too much responsibility on them to make sure you are ok--and that is not their responsiblity.

You need to be O.K. with yourself before anyone else can be.

So stop crying about how we are picking on you cause we arent. Stop seeking pitty, because you will not get it here. Stop with the drama, because its childish.

Start helping yourself and other stuff will fall in place--1st step find an adult you trust to talk to 2. seek a mental evaluation 3. get treatment.

Like said before, you dont need to be deaf to be Deaf--you have a lot to learn, but doing this loses respect from some people here.

 

[radioman]

you guys were too cruel. its a girl under 18 for god sakes. You should be ashamed of your selves!!

There is no need to label her a self hurting girl looking for attention. She didnt make ANY mention of STABBING her ears with qtips but rather use it as a noise blocker without hurting herself. She only wanted to see if it was possible to see whats it like to be deaf.
Now she is saying she is done. who knows she could bee our biggest ally. Have you guys met her in person?! NO! so what the F#$% is wrong with you guys being cruel.

 

[Bottesini]

you guys were too cruel. its a girl under 18 for god sakes. You should be ashamed of your selves!!

There is no need to label her a self hurting girl looking for attention. She didnt make ANY mention of STABBING her ears with qtips but rather use it as a noise blocker without hurting herself. She only wanted to see if it was possible to see whats it like to be deaf.
Now she is saying she is done. who knows she could bee our biggest ally. Have you guys met her in person?! NO! so what the F#$% is wrong with you guys being cruel.

You must not have read what she said very carefully.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

you guys were too cruel. its a girl under 18 for god sakes. You should be ashamed of your selves!!

There is no need to label her a self hurting girl looking for attention. She didnt make ANY mention of STABBING her ears with qtips but rather use it as a noise blocker without hurting herself. She only wanted to see if it was possible to see whats it like to be deaf.
Now she is saying she is done. who knows she could bee our biggest ally. Have you guys met her in person?! NO! so what the F#$% is wrong with you guys being cruel.

*"If you lived my life, you'd understand. As it is, I'm also trying to figure out how to go mute. I hate talking. I like quiet. I've used q-tips (I have a friend who accidentally made her cousin deaf with them, which gave me the idea.) I've used Bobby pins but I can never get them into the right shape/angle. I've tried just about every stupid thing I could try. I have gone days without speaking, only using sign language, but none of my friends, well only Laurie, understand. Even my own parents don't understand. I want somebody that I connect with, somebody I could have a voiceless conversation with*. " Hearinggirl posted this
She tried to used bobby pins to damage her ears ! We're not being cruel,
we're actually concerned about what she is doing to herself! She asked people for their opinions and that what she is getting! What did she think would happen when she admitted to trying to made herself deaf, did she think we where going to cheer her on and welcome open her with open
arms to the deaf culture!

 

[Grummer]

i think theres a possibility she's got tinntus? its driving her mad?
, do you have buzzing, chirping noises all the time or some of the times which make you wishing you cant hear anything
in that case, going 'deaf' WILL NOT help it makes it Worse because you wont have any outside sounds to 'mask' that horrible in-side head noises...

probably a useless post, but worth a try in case that's was the case which she never mentioned...just in case..
so please DONT consider damaging your ears if this is another reason 'why' OK because i have tinnitus and its HELL...no fun AT all...

above all, if you want to be deaf, just learn to be Deaf-freindly that is be part Culturally Deaf, you would find a lovely Deaf boyfreind that way, because this is a way of making peace (and love) between the hearing world which you come from and the Deaf world which the 'future/hypothetical' d/Deaf boyfreind come from.

You might like to consider befreinding someone who is a CODA, they are children of Deaf adults (they are hearing) and for that, they can explain you whats its like to be culturally Deaf, -if you're lucky to find one...

oftentimes, interpreters are to be CODAs...

 

[HearingGirl]

I don't want pity. Nobody here know what I want except that I want to be deaf or mute. Please, just stop?

 

[Royale]

HearingGirl...

You could ask mods to this thread.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

I don't want pity. Nobody here know what I want except that I want to be deaf or mute. Please, just stop?

You need HELP!!



If you really want to be deaf have surgery and if see anyone else can use any parts of ears so they can hear better! Why do want to be deaf , what do is going to happen once you become deaf?
Have you given this any thought about when you're older you might want a job that require you hear!

 

[Bottesini]

HearingGirl...

You could ask mods to this thread.

I have actually done that for her. This is very unhealthy for everyone. Really her IP address should be tracked and her parents informed.

 

[Sunshine]

I have actually done that for her. This is very unhealthy for everyone. Really her IP address should be tracked and her parents informed.

Agree. Best for her.

 

[whatdidyousay!]

I have actually done that for her. This is very unhealthy for everyone. Really her IP address should be tracked and her parents informed.

I agree this a very disturbing thread , the girl has to be very troubled to feel the way she does , or this just some big joke to see how people will react!