jupitersnymph
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Are you sure that you're his girlfriend (romantic relationship of two equals) and not his savior (rescuer of the weak and helpless)?
I'm sure that you mean well but you must be careful of your role in the relationship.
He will never ask for an advocate or an interpreter because he doesn't think they will be an more effective than his family. He doesn't use traditional ASL and his family always knows whatever situation he is in. He works for their trucking company. Even legally he shouldn't be able to drive a semi but they've had the same family doctor for years and he has a medical examiners certificate. I have been to the ER with him before and they never raised the issue of an interpreter. I think if I asked he would tell me not to bother. He doesn't want to feel stupid when the interpreter realizes he doesn't know how to read or write and he might not know the signs she's using.
Of course I am a savior in this relationship. It has Codependent written all over it, especially now that his son has passed away. I am pretty sure our romantic relationship won't last now that this has happened. It makes me sad to think of it that way. Teaching him how to text message and use the internet might make a difference in his life. He is learning day by day more vocabulary.
He graduated in 1988 in Michigan. I know the interpreter "helped" him, at least by explaining what the text said, because how else could he have graduated with a second grade reading level? That, I don't understand.