I agree with you.
Everyone needs to have realistic expectations before getting cochlear implants. A lot of times, they don't. When they get their CIs, they're in for a big disappointment because of the wrong expectations.
The most common disappointments I've seen is...
- Thought they would be able to speak like a hearing person "overnight".
- Thought they would be able to understand sounds like a hearing person "overnight".
- Thought they would be able to consider themselves "hearing".
- Thought they could immediately be considered equal to their hearing counterparts.
... and some others disappointments.
Thought they would be able to speak like a hearing person "overnight".
You spent your life talking the way you already talk. By getting CIs doesn't make you change your voice immediately. The way you talk takes practice. That's why we grow up learning to say the words we hear as we grow up. That's why a lot of deaf people have speech therapy. Just because you got CI doesn't mean you're excused from speech therapy. You still have to work on your voice. If you were already hard-of-hearing and had good speech skills, then that's a big advantage for you if you were to ever get CI. Those are the things to consider related to speech skills.
Thought they would be able to understand sounds like a hearing person "overnight".
When you first start hearing things with your CIs, it will be a whole new experience for you. Since you spent most of your life without hearing or recognizing sounds, getting CIs will "force" you to hear everything. You won't recognize everything right away. It takes time to learn what you're hearing, the tone of voice, the sound effects, etc. Again, a hard-of-hearing person may have the advantage since they already experienced sounds. So, it's little effort for them.
Thought they would be able to consider themselves "hearing".
One thing will never change... you'll always be deaf or hard-of-hearing... never hearing. Sure, you can hear like a hearing person, but take your CIs off... you're deaf again. That's a fact. Don't deny it. Oh yeah, you could say that you will never take off your CIs during the day. Wait, your battery just died... darn! You're deaf again! Oh well, that's part of life... accept it. Be ready for that.
Thought they could immediately be considered equal to their hearing counterparts.
There will always be differences among others. Even when you get CIs, you're not like every other hearing person. You're a person walking around with a electronic assistive listening device on your head. That's like a person walking around with hearing aids or a person walking around with crutches or in a wheelchair. You're still different. Yes, a lot of hearing people will still welcome you with open arms... but you won't exactly be a perfect hearing equal to them. There will still be some people out there who will still see you as handicapped like they see everyone else with hearing aids, wheelchairs, canes, etc.
That's why we need to be realistic. Don't immediately assume that getting CIs will "fix" everything and make you a completely different person.