Celticty, I am sorry to hear that your dad has cancer and wont live longer... I do know how ya feel about this as I have mentoined in AD in a topic about my mom and brain cancer and etc... it is gonna be very painful for ya in the final months of your dad's life and all ya can do is be supportive and help your dad out more..trust me, I know how draining it is to have to deal with not only mom but my dad at the time (he passed away before mom passed away) so it will be one long year or so.. .however who knows how long your dad will live so best to make everything all good for him to enjoy the peace he will have to sought at the moment.... if anything needed, do ask me and I will try to answer your questions about anything or so.. will keep ya in my thoughts for sure...