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RJ, what you really need to realise that your brother is really wrong and he is supposed to supporting you. Maybe your brother is very nervous and scared for you so he will try to discourage you from going out even more and being much more ambitious when he is trying to protect you from the harms of society. If you recall from your signature which I think is so eloquent,

Being deaf and in the wheelchair makes me feel lonely, but I am overcoming obstacles!
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Please don't give up on your dreams, RJ. You wouldn't want to allow anyone to dictate your future, your dreams and especially your plans. Heck, RJ, any single gal with her head screwed in properly would be so happy to escort you to the prom! You're a good looking guy and that gal would definitely sit on your lap while you do several "wheelies" on the dance floor. Oh, that gal would be the "Belle of the Ball"! :twisted: Believe me, the more you allow people to dictate your life, you will miss out on a lot.

RJ, what you really need from your peers are support and empathy. We definitely don't need to give sympathy because that is the very last thing you ever want. We do empathize with you because you have explained your feelings so well and our hearts go out to you.
 
rjr2006 said:
Today, I felt depressed, because now I found out that I must overcome my shyness for after I graduate from high school next year. I visited the state university with disabled high school students. Now I realize that the professors in any colleges don't care about my disabilities, so that means my special education servrices will stop by the end of June '06.


My shyness is the biggest challenge for me, and today is Junior Prom, which I am not going, because I chose to believe my brother, he was telling me that I will be left out at the prom since nobody cares about my disabilities. I feel really awful because few of my friends are going to the prom, but it really hurts me a lot.
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You should have gone to prom no matter what.. You can do be yourself and show them you can!
 
rjr2006 said:
Computers + Deaf Culture = NTID and I will love it, because I never been in deaf schools and I feel like I am left out in most of hearing schools.
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Actually, NTID is part of a college RIT. RIT is generally a mainstream school with majority of the students being hearing. NTID is one of nine (maybe now more since I'm an old time student :) ) college at RIT.
NTID is practically pure deaf-oriented programs with many A.A.S. degree programs. The teachers have to be able to sign since they lead classes.
For RIT, they have more degree options from Associate Degree, Bachelor's Degree, Masters, and Doctorate. In those classrooms, the teacher is hearing but as long as you notify in advance, you'll get an interpreter or two (depending on the length of the class) and a notetaker so you won't miss a word when you're writing notes down. :)

It is very social-acceptance college, I seen greeks (fratnerities/sororities) and clubs accept all kind of people and that includes wheelchair-bound people. I'm sure as long as you are able to be yourself and socialable. You'll have a great time there.
 
deaf24fan said:
Actually, NTID is part of a college RIT. RIT is generally a mainstream school with majority of the students being hearing. NTID is one of nine (maybe now more since I'm an old time student :) ) college at RIT.
NTID is practically pure deaf-oriented programs with many A.A.S. degree programs. The teachers have to be able to sign since they lead classes.
For RIT, they have more degree options from Associate Degree, Bachelor's Degree, Masters, and Doctorate. In those classrooms, the teacher is hearing but as long as you notify in advance, you'll get an interpreter or two (depending on the length of the class) and a notetaker so you won't miss a word when you're writing notes down. :)

It is very social-acceptance college, I seen greeks (fratnerities/sororities) and clubs accept all kind of people and that includes wheelchair-bound people. I'm sure as long as you are able to be yourself and socialable. You'll have a great time there.
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Yeah and that's what I want to do while I continue my education after high school. I want to be around with mixed culture of deaf and hearing people, and wheelchair-bound people. The high school set up PPT for tomorrow regarding EYF and I am writing a PPT paper about my concerns related to traveling with my physical disability, and how it prevents me from reaching my dream goal. Please wish me good luck!
 
rjr2006 said:
My shyness is the biggest challenge for me, and today is Junior Prom, which I am not going, because I chose to believe my brother, he was telling me that I will be left out at the prom since nobody cares about my disabilities. I feel really awful because few of my friends are going to the prom, but it really hurts me a lot.
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Don't choose to believe your brother hon, Some people seems to think what would happen at the prom when it haven't happened or will not happen like they say it would. It never hurt to go and find out right? beside I don't think anyone would avoid a nice good looking guy like yourself, I'm sure there's gotta be some beauitful ladies gotta ask to dance with you. ;)


If I was there, Heck I'll ask you to dance with me. :hug:
 
I don't like it when some people tells us what we can't do, when we know we CAN do it, no matter what kind of disablity we have.....

I'm sorry your brother had to say this, but to be honest I'm shy too, and there are times when my friends tells me something that I won't be able to do or go, or they will either say something that will keep me from going, but my sister doesn't listen to them, so I mostly tag along with her so I know she is standing beside me and I wouldn't feel soo shame of going or whatever it may be.....so I can understand the fear you have there, but I can also tell you this-- your brother should have be standing beside you then putting you down like this and making you feel so scare of attending your own prom...If you want to go, then go for it, do it for yourself and have a great time, you deserves it :hug:
 
Yeah, but today a HOH girl asked me why I didn't go to the prom and she said that she wanted to dance with me. I understand why she didn't ask me before the prom tickets went on sale. I knew girls didn't ask me so that's why I stayed at home. girls are afraid that they might do something wrong, just because I am disabled. I will definitely plan on going to Senior Prom and I will start showing girls that I am just a normal person.

P.S. All of my class of '06 never talks to me and I will change that.
 
rjr2006 said:
Yeah, but today a HOH girl asked me why I didn't go to the prom and she said that she wanted to dance with me . I understand why she didn't ask me before the prom tickets went on sale. I knew girls didn't ask me so that's why I stayed at home. girls are afraid that they might do something wrong, just because I am disabled. I will definitely plan on going to Senior Prom and I will start showing girls that I am just a normal person.

P.S. All of my class of '06 never talks to me and I will change that>>> YES!!! THAT IS A GREAT ATTITUDE AND THE BEST WAY TO DO IT! YOU ARE ON YOUR WAY TO SUCCESS KIDDO!!! :applause: .
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SEEE!!! there you go kiddo!!! go and KNOCK EVERYONE DEAD!!! :applause: :hug:
 
rjr2006 said:
My shyness is the biggest challenge for me, and today is Junior Prom, which I am not going, because I chose to believe my brother, he was telling me that I will be left out at the prom since nobody cares about my disabilities. I feel really awful because few of my friends are going to the prom, but it really hurts me a lot.
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Bro,

Let me tell you this: I'm equally shy among deaf and hearing people alike. Even among friends, I don't feel comfortable "opening my mouth" so to speak. I only really TALK with my closest friends.

That said, I work in a busy office environment and I'm a volunteer firefighter. I think the HARDEST part of being shy is knowing when its "OK" to approach/confront someone and HOW to do it.

For me, I've found that simply taking a step back, organizing my thoughts in my head and then DOING IT works.

For example, (my wife wouldn't appreciate this example but its applicable to RJ) Let's say I'm at a cool nightclub and I see this gorgeous girl at the bar that I'd love to meet.

Now, I ususally get paralyzed by this. My mind is thinking:
1) she's gonna laugh at you
2) she's gonna listen then she'll say, "oh, Neil.. do me now!"
3) yeah right
4) she'll nod and walk to her girlfriends and start laughing and pointing in my direction
4) I can't stand this.. I'm gonna go to the bathroom and watch drunk guys puke.

Instead, after a few drinks to get my courage up, I found that hearing/deaf girls that treat u like crap aren't worth being with in the first place.

Instead, this is what works:
A) See girl
B) Go over in ur mind what you want to say to her and HOW you will say it.
C) Go over and DO IT!

Likewise, with the lady at NTID who turned down your request for accomodations, she's wrong and this topic should be escalated to the Dean of NTID (Alan Hurwitz). Call her back, tell her again that you need X &X accomodations. If she refuses, politely ask for her manager/supervisor.

You have a great support community here. Take advantage of us.
 
My shyness is the biggest challenge for me, and today is Junior Prom, which I am not going, because I chose to believe my brother, he was telling me that I will be left out at the prom since nobody cares about my disabilities. I feel really awful because few of my friends are going to the prom, but it really hurts me a lot.
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It's sad that you listen your brother's negative advise instead of think your own life, you should think about positive.

Who care about your disabilities? None but your own personality.

Important is look for your OWN positive and think about yourself instead of listen others.
 
RJ....

From looking on your Avator...

You strike me a charactor of a upgoing person who doesn't give up things!!!

If you can do that then you can choose a better college IN YOUR OWN GOAL!

Don't you ever forget that!!

AND... that was so low of what your brother did, your brother can't read your future! your the one who makes plans! :D

Cheer up! Hugs...

Wendy
 
rjr2006 said:
Yeah, but today a HOH girl asked me why I didn't go to the prom and she said that she wanted to dance with me. I understand why she didn't ask me before the prom tickets went on sale. I knew girls didn't ask me so that's why I stayed at home. girls are afraid that they might do something wrong, just because I am disabled. I will definitely plan on going to Senior Prom and I will start showing girls that I am just a normal person.

P.S. All of my class of '06 never talks to me and I will change that.
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I thought the boys are supposed to ask the girls? :confused:
 
Cookie Monster said:
It is very ego-stroking when the girls chases after the boys!! :twisted:
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I guess I am old-fashioned. :)
 
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