I don't like children

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When I tried to give them good example, they do it.
But when someone kept bringing up my past,
the child keep saying, "you did bad things, why I can't?"

And this child keeps following my bad example....
He keeps ignoring ignoring his mother's calling for him...
The same thing I ignored someone when they call my name.

A child's brain is like a computer, grabbing data, and then
it catches a bad virus.... and after your computer catches the bad
virus, the computer won't follow my command.

I know that we can't have a perfect child and I know
I can't watch the child 24 hours a day, making
sure he doesn't watch MTV or porn or anything awful...

And one time a child asked me about gays, I tried
to tell him but one of my family members slammed
on me hard and tell me not to say one thing about gays.

I don't think I ever want to have kids, because it is
too dangerous to have kids.... I don't want them
to grow up like Jeffery Dahmer or Charles Manson.
 
Sorry to hear your struggling. If you don't feel comfy bearing a child, then don't! Raising a child can be challanging, thus there is rewards behind this. If not raising right, then there will be problems. Often when the child turns out bad, it is generally parent's fault. Usually they try to cover up the problem. Good example, Eric Smith flame red haired boy, 9 yrs old... Parents, school, and everybody else KNEW Eric Smith was picked on and had issues with his peers. Thus lead to his murder of 6 yrs old boy Derrick. Ever since this tragedy happens, everybody tried to cover up the real problem and blamed entirely on Eric Smith.

I have my own son, and I love him like crazy and wouldn't trade him for anything!!!
 
Proverbs 22:6

" Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it. "

Take that child ( ren ) to church ! :)
 
Is it that why Andrea Yates kill all her kids? She said she wasn't a good mother and felt that she raise her kids wrong.
 
Well, be sure to find a right church that believes in salvation. It will help a child to understand about love and what it teaches about obeyin' parents. You will find child wantin' to go to church after the first visit, because there's other children attendin' church, too and it will help. It wouldn't hurt to try. It will surprise you how it will help that child to improve behaviours. :)
 
Hey Cyberred, I understand your perspective. But what she said means she haven't had a child and not planning to have one. I just simply said if your not comfortable with child, then don't (censored) and have a baby to begin with. That is the easiest way to avoid any pitfalls.
 
diehardbiker65 said:
Hey Cyberred, I understand your perspective. But what she said means she haven't had a child and not planning to have one. I just simply said if your not comfortable with child, then don't (censored) and have a baby to begin with. That is the easiest way to avoid any pitfalls.
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Oh, yeah I know. I am just suggestin' the idea, otherwise she wouldn't make this thread, if she is considerin' not to have a child in the near future or she may want to have one, if she considers with ADers' suggestions, advices, and opinions. It is either one way or another.
 
FreedummyRing said:
Is it that why Andrea Yates kill all her kids? She said she wasn't a good mother and felt that she raise her kids wrong.
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Andrea Yates is a mental case. It has nothing to do with religious church beliefs. Normal people brought up with church upbringing don't do those kind of things. They know better. The ones that are mental cases probably don't know better. Maybe they do but that does not excuse them from killing their own children.

Children are a blessing from God to the man and woman who are married.
 
CyberRed said:
Well, be sure to find a right church that believes in salvation. It will help a child to understand about love and what it teaches about obeyin' parents. You will find child wantin' to go to church after the first visit, because there's other children attendin' church, too and it will help. It wouldn't hurt to try. It will surprise you how it will help that child to improve behaviours. :)
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Yes and that is a real blessing. I know when I went to sunday church school as a boy that I learned how to behave better than when I was in the secular schools or the Deaf school.
 
Yup, exactly. Church alone isn't really a cure to every problems!

JohnnyE said:
Andrea Yates is a mental case. It has nothing to do with religious church beliefs. Normal people brought up with church upbringing don't do those kind of things. They know better. The ones that are mental cases probably don't know better. Maybe they do but that does not excuse them from killing their own children.

Children are a blessing from God to the man and woman who are married.
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:ugh: :nono: Puppies and children shouldn't be comparing!!!! I don't like your comment at all, very lame one!

Nesmuth said:
Kids are very taxing. Like puppies.

Richard
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If you don't want to have children, then don't open your legs (that is if you're a female).

However, I do realize that children can sometime be handful but on the other side, it is great to have children because they are our legacy and future. Do I need to say more? I'm sure you guys got the picture.
 
Not every person can be a parent, if you feel you do not do well with children, then don't have kids. For me it came naturally and I loved every min of it. It has nothing to do with children being bad, it is parents who is lacking give them proper guide and love.

My neice who is pregnant and expecting her first child to be born next month, she is 38 years old. I asked her long time ago " will u have children?" She said no and never will but now she is older and more mature then she wants it. If you don't feel ready for it then don't have kids but never know someday u will want a child when ur older and mature.
 
Nesmuth said:
Kids are very taxing. Like puppies.

Richard
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Like puppies ? Well, look at yourself -- you were once a child and you were very taxin' to your parents. It makes no difference with everyone. Puppies can be sellin' or givin' away for free, but not a child ! :)
 
jazzy said:
Not every person can be a parent, if you feel you do not do well with children, then don't have kids. For me it came naturally and I loved every min of it. It has nothing to do with children being bad, it is parents who is lacking give them proper guide and love.

My neice who is pregnant and expecting her first child to be born next month, she is 38 years old. I asked her long time ago " will u have children?" She said no and never will but now she is older and more mature then she wants it. If you don't feel ready for it then don't have kids but never know someday u will want a child when ur older and mature.
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Yes, I´m with you on this.

My hubby & I don´t feel ready to become parents yet until 7 years later then we feel ready.... We were being childless married couple for 7 years before we started famliy because we feel ready... It´s bad if you "have to" make a baby when you doesn´t feel ready to be parenthood which is unfair for the children.

FreedummyRing,
You don´t have to make a baby if you don´t feel want. I would consider you as selfish person if you "have to" / "obigate" to make a baby because a baby DESERVE a good and loving parents.

Take time until you feel ready and collect parent´s experiences how to educate the children... until you feel ready to become mother and love your baby.

My co-worker and her hubby are childless married couple for over 25 years. We thought that they can´t become parents until she admitted us herself that she doesn´t feel like to be mother that´s why she decided to not have a baby. I :applause: her for that because she KNEW she is an unfit mother if she "have to"/"obligate" to make a baby. She know children doesn´t deserve to have unloving parents.
 
I can understand at you are going thru. But you can explain to the children that you made a mistake and will never do it again. You wanted a better then then what you have been going thru in the past.

I also understand you dont want children out of fear. Well I appluase you for that and that your children wouldnt have to suffer in this world.

I do have a friend who have been childless marriage and now she is divorced. She is glad that she had no children cuz didnt want to see the children suffered divorced parent.
 
Jolie_77 said:
If you don't want to have children, then don't open your legs (that is if you're a female).

However, I do realize that children can sometime be handful but on the other side, it is great to have children because they are our legacy and future. Do I need to say more? I'm sure you guys got the picture.
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:gpost: I second that!
 
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