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Lil_country_gal

Lil_country_gal

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My family is not normal nor have we ever been. We've always had problems my dad has anger issues and my mom does nothing. My mom just sits back and watches this all happen. today my dad came home and started yelling at me cause i had a sinus headache and was watching tv after countless times of trying to explain it was a sinus headache and the tv wasn't making a diffrence we went our sepperate ways well my tv was extremely quite i had CC on so i could watch but he couldn't hear so all of a sudden he starts blaring his TV. and yells at me for it. My family has never been able to have a normal conversation. I've tried and my Parents yell right back and so i start yelling. and we end up yelling hurtfull stuff. I've exlained this to my counsler and so my counsler called my parents in and tried to talk to them they made it seem like it never happened and when is started crying they made it seem like i was the wacko. I'm sick of trying to be a Adult and my parents end up acting like kids than if i try and just be a teenager my parents act so strick i can't even see my friends. I'm lucky if my best friend Aka my little sister can come over once a month. or if i can go out more than once a month. It really seems like i can do nothing right for them if i try cleaning something with out them knowing to suprise them they come home and start saying how i didn't do a good enough job. I try so hard to be everything i can be to them but it never seems good enough. I just don't know what to do and it's all getting on my last nerves they know that the day before my 18th birthday is the last time they will see me because i can't handle them anymore i can't handle not being good enough while my sister my big sister is perfect she always had the right friends did the right stuff got amazing grades and with her disability never stoped amazing them. OK well not only am i hoh witch they have refused to believe the doctors on i had epilepsy i have asthma and sever anxiety yet i dance and i sing and i ride horses i do all of this and am still not good enough i am in so many ex- acivities i work as hard as i can in school but it's never good enough. I guess right now i'm just venting cause i can't take it anymore i can't take never being good enough. If anyone has any suggestions of how to talk to my parents you being parents and all or how to deal please i'm begging you respond i am desprete and open for suggestions right now i'll try anything once :(
 
Move out when you are 18 years old. You will be much happier. I have the same problems you have but not that too bad like you do. They do not believe I will succeed and they think they are supporting me but they really are putting me down so this is nothing new to me.
 
Yea that's the plan right now just hang in there till i'm 18. I just can't handle it and like right now i have no one to talk to because everyone it try and talk to thinks i'm looking for pity when in reality i'm just looking for someone to listen
 
Lil_country_gal said:
Yea that's the plan right now just hang in there till i'm 18. I just can't handle it and like right now i have no one to talk to because everyone it try and talk to thinks i'm looking for pity when in reality i'm just looking for someone to listen
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How old are you now ?
 
Hi Lil Country

First of all, I am a little bit confused. You can sing the song. I assumed, you are hearing with Deaf parents ? CODA = Children of Deaf Adult ?

My two hearing sons grow up with me Deaf parents. They involve in both two worlds Deaf and Hearing. I am not sure what my sons inner their feelings due to frustration with their Deaf parents.

Are you hearing ?
 
Lil_country_gal said:
I'll be 16 on july 11th
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That will be 2 more years until you can move out. Please graduate from high school first. It will be a whole alots easier with a high school diploma than a GED and a high school diploma increases your chances of getting into college. I am glad I did not drop out of high school. I went through some real bad times but getting that high school diploma was worth it !!!! Hang in there and stay strong. God Bless !!!!! :angel:
 
Heath said:
That will be 2 more years until you can move out. Please graduate from high school first. It will be a whole alots easier with a high school diploma than a GED and a high school diploma increases your chances of getting into college. I am glad I did not drop out of high school. I went through some real bad times. Hang in there and stay strong.
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Yes exactly !! I am so happy both of my two sons graduated high school YAY!!!
 
ok first of all i'm Hard of Hearing as i said earlier and yes i can sing. i'd kill myself if i didn't graduate from high school cause the only way i'm getting out is going to an out of state college where i'm living with one of my aunts. and for the carrear i want college is manditory so high school is a must for me. Education is something i value it's something my parents can't take away frm me is my right to learn. so yea i actually only have 2 years left until college so it's all good. the only really rough times are summers where i don't have school to go to and get away from my parents.
 
Lil_country_gal said:
ok first of all i'm Hard of Hearing as i said earlier and yes i can sing. i'd kill myself if i didn't graduate from high school cause the only way i'm getting out is going to an out of state college where i'm living with one of my aunts. and for the carrear i want college is manditory so high school is a must for me. Education is something i value it's something my parents can't take away frm me is my right to learn. so yea i actually only have 2 years left until college so it's all good. the only really rough times are summers where i don't have school to go to and get away from my parents.
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I wonder if you could stay at the school dorm on the campus. It is only the way for you to keep away from home?
 
Lil_country_gal said:
I go to a public school so there are no dorms
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You could attend a Deaf YLC camp during the summertime where they have 3 hot meals, hot showers and a bed and you are still safe with Deaf people. Please do not run away from home during the summer time. I am sure your parents need a break from you too as it is hard enough raising a teenager and allow you to go to Deaf YLC summer camp. :angel:

http://www.nad.org/site/pp.asp?c=foINKQMBF&b=103762
 
Heath said:
You could attend a Deaf YLC camp during the summertime where they have 3 hot meals, hot showers and a bed and you are still safe with Deaf people. Please do not run away from home during the summer time. I am sure your parents need a break from you too as it is hard enough raising a teenager and allow you to go to Deaf YLC summer camp. :angel:
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oh i have no plan of running away just moving out temperarily till school starts and are you sure about going to a deaf camp when right now i'm just mild hoh. if i could that would be sweet
 
Lil_country_gal said:
oh i have no plan of running away just moving out temperarily till school starts and are you sure about going to a deaf camp when right now i'm just mild hoh. if i could that would be sweet
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Yes, You can apply to go and it is entirely in ASL. I have seen hoh kids go to YLC summer camp. I never went to YLC summer camp. You will enjoy it there. :) :thumb:
 
Heath said:
Yes, You can apply to go and it is entirely in ASL. I have seen hoh kids go to YLC summer camp. I never went to YLC summer camp. You will enjoy it there. :) :thumb:
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I'll check it out i'm not a asl user usually but i know it i'm more oral but i will certainly check it out
 
Lil_country_gal said:
My family is not normal nor have we ever been. We've always had problems my dad has anger issues and my mom does nothing. My mom just sits back and watches this all happen. today my dad came home and started yelling at me cause i had a sinus headache and was watching tv after countless times of trying to explain it was a sinus headache and the tv wasn't making a diffrence we went our sepperate ways well my tv was extremely quite i had CC on so i could watch but he couldn't hear so all of a sudden he starts blaring his TV. and yells at me for it. My family has never been able to have a normal conversation. I've tried and my Parents yell right back and so i start yelling. and we end up yelling hurtfull stuff. I've exlained this to my counsler and so my counsler called my parents in and tried to talk to them they made it seem like it never happened and when is started crying they made it seem like i was the wacko. I'm sick of trying to be a Adult and my parents end up acting like kids than if i try and just be a teenager my parents act so strick i can't even see my friends. I'm lucky if my best friend Aka my little sister can come over once a month. or if i can go out more than once a month. It really seems like i can do nothing right for them if i try cleaning something with out them knowing to suprise them they come home and start saying how i didn't do a good enough job. I try so hard to be everything i can be to them but it never seems good enough. I just don't know what to do and it's all getting on my last nerves they know that the day before my 18th birthday is the last time they will see me because i can't handle them anymore i can't handle not being good enough while my sister my big sister is perfect she always had the right friends did the right stuff got amazing grades and with her disability never stoped amazing them. OK well not only am i hoh witch they have refused to believe the doctors on i had epilepsy i have asthma and sever anxiety yet i dance and i sing and i ride horses i do all of this and am still not good enough i am in so many ex- acivities i work as hard as i can in school but it's never good enough. I guess right now i'm just venting cause i can't take it anymore i can't take never being good enough. If anyone has any suggestions of how to talk to my parents you being parents and all or how to deal please i'm begging you respond i am desprete and open for suggestions right now i'll try anything once :(
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Sounds like a really bad situation and I really feel for you. My family wasn't normal at all either (abuse, etc) and as a result I grew up in foster care. Maybe you could see if you could go live with a relative or something? Just an suggestion.
 
Lil_country_gal said:
2 years 29 days until my 18th birthday
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Wow, that's quite a long time. How about you talk to your parents and see if they will allow you to live with a trusted relative or something? That might take some of the pressure off if you live with a relative. Just a suggestion.
 
Ahh I understand what you have been through now.. I am just glad I got my dad and my other familly members. If you want.. you can pm me and we can talk more about my expierence.. and I suggest you to read toxic parents.. and I am in therphy also.. it helps me alot. I would love to talk with you and help you through this.. My mom and her boyfriend.. ugh.. read it in one of my threads or pm me to talk.. I am here for you! :)
 
can't run away from problem...
moving out, is like running away from problem.

*My family is not normal nor have we ever been.
All families are not normal.

*We've always had problems my dad has anger issues and my mom does *nothing. My mom just sits back and watches this all happen.
you should be glad to have a dad, if you didn't have a dad, then your mom will have anger issues and start yelling at you.

*today my dad came home and started yelling at me cause i had a sinus *headache and was watching tv after countless times of trying to explain it *was a sinus headache and the tv wasn't making a diffrence we went our *sepperate ways well my tv was extremely quite i had CC on so i could *watch but he couldn't hear so all of a sudden he starts blaring his TV. and *yells at me for it.
maybe you need to get your own big tv in your bedroom and close the door, and turn the tv down and watch cc on your tv... and let your dad
watch the other tv.

*My family has never been able to have a normal conversation. I've tried and *my Parents yell right back and so i start yelling. and we end up yelling *hurtfull stuff. I've exlained this to my counsler and so my counsler called my *parents in and tried to talk to them they made it seem like it never *happened and when is started crying they made it seem like i was the *wacko.
well maybe your parents like yelling, since they don't know how to have a normal conversation. you go ahead and keep yelling at them.. since they like that.


*I'm sick of trying to be a Adult and my parents end up acting like kids than *if i try and just be a teenager my parents act so strick i can't even see my *friends. I'm lucky if my best friend Aka my little sister can come over once a *month. or if i can go out more than once a month.
Well keep trying to be an adult, your parents love that. Why stop?

*It really seems like i can do nothing right for them if i try cleaning something *with out them knowing to suprise them they come home and start saying *how i didn't do a good enough job.
well, next time clean up with them knowing and don't surprise them,
ask them to inspect, and help you how to clean better.

*I try so hard to be everything i can be to them but it never seems good *enough. I just don't know what to do and it's all getting on my last nerves *they know that the day before my 18th birthday is the last time they will *see me because i can't handle them anymore
your parents will be so glad that you're gone, they gonna have many good and quiet nights having sex. :whistle: they just cranky right now, be patient.

*i can't handle not being good enough while my sister my big sister is perfect *she always had the right friends did the right stuff got amazing grades and *with her disability never stoped amazing them. OK well not only am i hoh *witch they have refused to believe the doctors on i had epilepsy i have *asthma and sever anxiety yet i dance and i sing and i ride horses i do all of *this and am still not good enough i am in so many ex- acivities i work as *hard as i can in school but it's never good enough. I guess right now i'm *just venting cause i can't take it anymore i can't take never being good *enough. If anyone has any suggestions of how to talk to my parents you *being parents and all or how to deal please i'm begging you respond i am *desprete and open for suggestions right now i'll try anything once.
Well make friends with someone your sister sorta would like to hang out with.
And ask her how she makes good grades, and maybe she'll tell you how to
study and how to take notes during classes, and all.
 
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